This fear gets triggered in a variety of ‘romantic’ situations–you may not consciously be aware that it is fear, it may manifest itself in a variety of ways—and people that are good matches for you can’t make their way in.  For example, you may meet some great people who you get along with great, but they just won’t be attracted to you, and it isn’t because there is anything wrong with you. In fact, if you were to ask someone why he wasn’t ‘feeling it’, he probably wouldn’t have a good answer. He wouldn’t’ be able to verbalize it.
Things were certainly bleak, to put it mildly. It was terrifying, yet at the same time there was a new spark of hope deep inside me that wouldn’t go away. Now I was in control of my future, and that was a whole new way of thinking about what was possible for my life. I remembered an Oprah show I’d watched where she’d talked about changing your thoughts because they have the power to predict your future. I mentally traced my life back five, ten years, and realized that everything I worried about, feared and stressed about, had become my reality. That was a huge revelation for me. I saw it plain as day: I’d created all those “misfortunes.” I’d created that life. That was all the proof I needed of the tremendous power of my thoughts, even if it had only worked in a negative way up to that point. I knew I had nothing to lose, and the possibility of possibility brought hope in a way I’d never known before.
I don’t have any rituals per se, but there are certain things I do that help me feel more abundant. When I am enjoying something I paid for, whether a tasty meal, a massage or something else that gives me pleasure in some way, I really try to tune into the feeling of appreciation I have for it, and the sense of contentment I feel in that moment. I also try to develop a sense of appreciation for having money to pay bills..rather than feel like I am putting my money towards something I don’t want to put it towards, I express appreciation that I have the money to pay the bill. Awhile back, I went through really bad times financially, and the inability to pay my bills created a lot of shame and embarrassment,and I am happy not to be experiencing that anymore.
“It’s been a year since I met my soul mate- and it just gets better and better. It all began when I came along to the groups and managed to distract myself so much with the good in my life (through daily appreciation and meditation) that I literally bumped into him in the street. It seems the phrase ‘you find love when you are not looking for it’ may be true. Yes, I wanted to meet someone but it seems that when I dropped my obsession, I met him.”
2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that.  It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you.  For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others.  For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:

Post it everywhere! You can post on message boards and newsgroups (there are thousands). You can send an e-mail to your own e-mail list. Post it to any newsgroup, forum or comments section that you feel people who see it would be interested benefiting from this method as well. Use blogs, social networking, pintrest, and online classifieds. You may need to post it close to 200 times to get the results you desire, but there are over 100,000 places you can post this. And remember, the more you post, the more you will earn!


When you feel moved to take action from a place of passion and excitement, not stress, then go ahead and let those actions flow through you. It will seem to be more work to stop yourself — you’ll feel like you’re chickening out and holding back if you stay still. Follow your impulses. But don’t worry about the immediate results of those actions. There may be some twists and turns along the way.

Thank you for responding, but how do I find out where and when I went wrong? The person that I have been on and off with for ten years, how do I get that back on track with him without the resentment and just have a good family life. I will only allow myself to go but so far because my children comes first and that is partly his problem it’s like he wants me to love him but hate my kids or just want them to go away. Do I apply the LOA or do I let go and focus on my blessings which are my children and many other things?


Develop a belief in what I call the “reverse paradigm shift”. In other words, go for it before you have all the answers. Those so called negative energies (known as cognitive dissonance) are actually the magical seeds of creation and unlimited possibilities. Your destiny and your abundance will always be preceded by confusion and uncertainty. Ask anyone who’s been on the journey.
“I was dropped off around the corner from my home in London by a friend. Suddenly, a smartly dressed man- a hotel concierge- greeted me and reached to grab my bags. I explained I wasn’t going to the hotel- but what a sign of abundance! It reminded me of a few years ago when a limousine actually stopped, the driver got out, opened the door and said to me “Your car, Sir?”
“I was looking for a way to forgive an ex-partner of mine, and had been trying for over a year. I heard your suggestion of just handing it all over to the Universe and to Life – and asking to see the situation from another perspective, but it seemed far too simplistic to work. However I was exhausted with the way I had been seeing it, as I felt like such a victim and had a lot of resentment. Slightly sceptical of exactly how I would see it from another perspective (I had read many self-help books and seen two counsellors previously and nothing was helping), I finally agreed to give it a go. I just busied myself with “my part”; as you said – which was to meditate and to appreciate my life.
You can try for Thanksgiving, but be careful with using specific dates. Many people get so focused on the date that they allow fears and doubt to creep up. As the date gets closer, they start wondering why it hasn’t happened yet and worry that it isn’t working. They end up not manifesting it not working when if they had stayed the course, they may have been someone the very next day.
Hi I just found your blog how amazing I am new to this stuff but let’s just say the universe has nudged me for let’s say the last year I’ve started out on this crazy path with my faith spiritualism and the LOA and I have manifested something thing that is so small yet so profound I started with symbols from the universe and I picked balloons purple balloons bring my symbol for prosperity .. I mean I declared it truly believed I would see them when it was my Time to see them and now just recently I see balloons every day sometime large amounts all down the stripe I drive to go into the city I cry when I see them because it’s the symbol for me that I am on the right track and that this stuff really works .. I mean the first ballon was like Yup that’s right now I expect to see them and I do .. Do now it’s time for me to start on the path of some of my aspirations it’s going to be hard to get the negative thoughts out but now I know I can manifest balloons I know I can manifest anything thanks for your post !
One way to attract positive thoughts, experiences and situations in your life is to create a manifestation scrapbook. Fill the pages with affirmations and clippings of pictures that depict the things that you wish to materialize in life. Spend about a week creating the various pages in the book and review the book on a daily, weekly or monthly basis depending on personal goals. People do not need to know about your manifestation book in order for interesting and surprising positive events to come into your life.
Long story short I converted the massive 3 story house into five self contained flats complete with their own utility supplies and turn-key ready in exactly 60 days and made £100’000 profit. Lots of pre planning and lots of drama but it worked! I still have those flats and they are rented out. i withdrew £100’000 of the equity after having the building revalued.

Remember our experience is simply a mirror of what is happening within, and your money situation is no exception. Once you start making that shift internally, your outside experience has no choice but to shift along with it. That is how attraction works. No matter what your financial situation is like right now, it can get better. No matter how certain you are that money can only come to you through certain channels, you are wrong, plain and simple. 🙂
Does this mindset of want and lacking sound familiar to you? If this is the case and you continually find yourself worrying about finances, bills, and debt then you need to address these beliefs or lessons that were embedded in your mind within childhood. Strong and negative emotions surrounding money can come to consume your mind. It can also affect how you choose to live. And this could result in nothing but further money worries and a constant wanting for more.
and the best part is they don’t believe in it their self ,the GODs of this law are people like Napleon Hill who he claims prior to putting this law to test for curing his deaf child , he didn’t believe in it and thats funny beause he had had many other works prior to Think and Grow rich! and he was writing something he hadnt believed in back in those times! ( before TESTING IT )

“Something had come up with my boyfriend- one of my fears, actually. When this had happened in the past I had never been able to deal with it and the relationship was immediately over. I forced myself to do one of the techniques I learnt about in your workshop- looking for the good in the situation. I didn’t feel good when I was writing this list for at least ten minutes, I felt numb- but I had nothing to lose so continued. After a while I felt myself ‘shift’; more relaxed, I even found myself laugh. Then a new idea came into my mind; a new way of looking at the situation. My boyfriend texted me a suggestion of how we could move on- and it was the exact same idea that had appeared in my mind! From a ‘no going back’ situation, in about half an hour, your technique shifted my worldview and that’s no exaggeration! Thank you for the peace you provide.”
Hey Phil, my friend Claire sent this over after seeing me last night for the first time in months. I have been obsessively working on a project / startup to use rock climbing and adventure to help at-risk kids in the slums of Brazil. Check out our video if you are interested (www.indiegogo.com/adventureforgood) but that project is really not the focus. What I found is that although I love what I am doing and believe in it completely, I have been stressed out of my mind and without realizing it, I have been manifesting this stress into all aspects of my life and sometimes into the energy of my campaign. Reading your blog I was reminded of how important it is to manifest not only what you want but also how you want to feel. That energy is so important and certainly dictates how people feel around you. I have been bringing my computer to bed and stressing out over emails until I fall asleep… NOT healthy. This post really helped me reflect on practicing not only the law of attraction but the law of ‘feeling good’. Hope to bump into you around Boulder Phil.
“Something had come up with my boyfriend- one of my fears, actually. When this had happened in the past I had never been able to deal with it and the relationship was immediately over. I forced myself to do one of the techniques I learnt about in your workshop- looking for the good in the situation. I didn’t feel good when I was writing this list for at least ten minutes, I felt numb- but I had nothing to lose so continued. After a while I felt myself ‘shift’; more relaxed, I even found myself laugh. Then a new idea came into my mind; a new way of looking at the situation. My boyfriend texted me a suggestion of how we could move on- and it was the exact same idea that had appeared in my mind! From a ‘no going back’ situation, in about half an hour, your technique shifted my worldview and that’s no exaggeration! Thank you for the peace you provide.”
Step Three: Stand in the center of your space and close your eyes with your hand out, palms facing each other as if holding a ball of light. Visualize the light growing in between your hands. Fill this ball of light with your intention. One way to do this is to recite your affirmation into the ball of light and feel your affirmation growing in power and intensity.

I’ve noticed that as I’ve shifted my vibe to manifest larger sums of money and to manifest new experiences in other parts of my life, I seem to fall out of resonance with manifesting smaller sums. I’m not as good at manifesting coins as I was in 2006. That’s because my vibe isn’t tuned in to the coin manifesting frequency as much. These days I’m spending more time using the LoA to manifest cool social connections and travel experiences. I’ve tuned my vibe to focus on that part of the perceptual frequency. I also feel more excited and playful about manifesting in these other areas as opposed to adding to my financial score.
My fiance and I had a very close knit relationship. As a matter of fact, we didn’t like being apart much at all. Unfortunately, life had us spend the last 8 months away from each other, because of work. It took its toll on the relationship which had already started to suffer because of financial reasons. And one day, almost out of the blue (well I could kind of feel it coming) , two days after telling me how he couldn’t wait to see me, and adored me, he sort of picked a fight, and broke up. From one day to the next, he completely closed the door on me. We went from constantly talking and missing each other, to nothing at all. I have been going through a very difficult time especially because I know that he didn’t break up because he didn’t love me, but he simply was not fulfilling his dreams fast enough because of our financial issues and felt that he had sacrified a lot for my ambition and put his on the backburner. We have had to speak a little because 5 years with someone, you can’t just go NC like that. Logistics had to be sorted out etc…. But he has become very cold all of a sudden, and I heard that it was the only way for him to get over it. He’s also moving to French Polynesia for 2 years. He says that moving forward and far away helps him deal with getting over us… In any case, our relationship was beautiful on the whole, but we simply had a break down in communication when it came to dealing with the pain of separation and money issues. I want him back of course and I will apply your advise from “Manifesting Love”. I know he is my soulmate as I am his. That much I know. However, he is moving so far away. I am going to be in the US and him in Tahiti. Do we even stand a chance? He could meet someone else, or just forget about me….I am lost. It’s only been 6 weeks and I am grieving. I don’t want someone better. I want him because we were something awesome. We just allowed fear to rule our lives….Need some TLC and encouragement :(… Thanks
I had a choice – to do the easy option, hide from my fear of the unknown and stay in the situation where I would be avoiding what I really wanted, or make a change and take a risk to achieve what I wanted! I sat down and mapped out exactly what I wanted. I looked at a map of the world and looked at where made my heart happy at the thought of living there. Turns out it was Australia! The other side of the world. The rest of my list included: close friends, a fabulous apartment in the city, a good job, money, excitement and adventure, city life, warmth, sunshine, travel and a wonderful boyfriend.
i do not know about the Law of Attraction previously, but when i know about this through my teacher i realize that whenever i went to my home via train, my reserved train coach stops exact my position where ever i stay on the platform. the platform has two bridges and i do not know, my coach stops nearby that bridge form which i entered and sometimes such conditions happen that( buying water bottle or place where crowd is less or etc), these condition reaches me that exact position. it happened me form 2 years (aprrox. 7-8 times till now ).

Then something strange happened. Someone at work who I thought was a really good person confided in me about a problem he had – and he had done exactly what my partner had done and was suffering because of it. It was uncanny how similar it was to my situation, but here I was hearing the ‘other side’. At first it was difficult because I had my own judgement, but as I listened to him, I started to understand what my partner was going through – something I had never thought of before. For all this time I had seen him as a really horrible person out to get me, but I felt myself soften as I heard my colleague’s story. I started to see it from his point of view, which was so similar to my ex partner’s. Like a miracle, new insights and this relaxed sense of forgiveness washed over me. This was the answer I had asked for. I can honestly say I have let go of this situation that had been taking over my life and I feel great. This Universe List process is powerful!”


Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.

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