Ever notice how travel magazines show a beautiful destination, maybe a white sand beach and azure blue sky? And, there is always a table and empty chair. Your mind is attracted to the empty chair. It wants you to be there. Goals are the same. The law of attraction is energised by the gap between here and there. So long as it is bridgeable (see tip 21).
I know this can sound like a tall order. We are so conditioned to basing how we feel on outside events. It is easy to feel good when something happens that gives us a reason to—cultivating warm, fuzzies in the absence (or what we perceive to be the absence) of something to be happy about can take a bit of work. Feeling good even if things happen that you don’t like can take some practice. Living reactively will really put a damper on the attraction process, and it is a habit that needs to be addressed.
What The Secret didn’t share is that activating the Law of Attraction requires more than inherent desire, an active imagination, and creating a vision board. Positive affirmations don’t work as a standalone. Meaning, a person who is broke isn’t going to manifest his or her rent by sitting around thinking positive thoughts alone. A person who is struggling with a health challenge may not overcome that challenge through positive thoughts by itself.
“Since I did your Finding Love workshop I have sorted out a 15 year pattern of attracting ‘unavailable’ and ‘abusive’ men (as various therapists labelled them). I had studied book after book, courses and support groups, seen therapists, looking to fix my problem. It just wasn’t getting any better. When I found your work I was at a point of desperation- I realised nothing was working and a different approach was needed- and it turned out to be your approach. I know this has been said to you before but you provide something different that I actually haven’t seen before in two decades of personal development work; and it is working in quite amazing ways for me. In the year since attending I am now with a loving and handsome man who I would have thought was ‘out of my league’ before. It’s quite simply a miracle. And what’s interesting is two ex-partners have come back and apologised and/or wanted me back- two things I was desperate to have happen for years, no matter how much I told my friends I was over it- yet in my need it wasn’t happening. This year will be my wedding- something I had given up on ever happening. And yet it is happening. 2015 will be amazing- and all thanks to you.”
Hi Onique – You need to look over your thoughts, beliefs, emotions from the past to see why you created it in the past. You need to look at your current thoughts, beliefs and emotions to see why you are creating it now. There’s probably at least one thought/belief that has been repeated for 10 years and is still there. Changing your thoughts/beliefs allows your life to change.
I bought this a year ago after a break up and all I can say is that IT WORKS! The hardest part is letting go and letting the universe work. Any sadness, anger, etc. will hold you back. I mean that in every aspect of your life. I tried it last year on an ex and he came back but then I didn't want him back. I have an ex that I am working on and so far things are starting to manifest however I still have a bit of sadness in me so it is holding me back and I haven't fully let go yet and we were in a REALLY bad place. We just recently started talking so I realize I have a bit of work to do. Believe, trust and let go to the universe and let it do the work. Best of luck to everyone, just keep on believing.
When we don’t treat ourselves well, that is a sign of low self-esteem; it sends a message we are not ‘worthy’ of love and care. And guess what will be reflected back into your reality? Taking better care of yourself, and treating yourself with the respect and love you deserve, will help shore up beliefs that say ‘I am good enough.’ ‘I deserve someone who treats me well.’
When we decide that what we want must come in a certain way–like wanting the relationship to be with a specific person for example–that is trying to control the ‘how’ and this can create blocks that prevent what we want from coming in. So long as you hold that intention to let love in, and you are working on your energy, you will attract things that give you these same feelings–it may be him, or it may be someone else. But the bottom line is that it will feel good, and you will be happy. When we are still attached to a specific person, it is easy to think that only they can give us these feelings, and someone else wouldn’t be as good. So, I would say keep doing what you are doing, but don’t put too much focus on trying to attract a specific person.
There is a trick to The Law of Attraction and it's not as magical as one might imagine: we attract the things that we focus on. When we focus on not having enough, that thought form supports the "lack of" we routinely experience. We are forever reminded to use affirmations and to keep our thoughts positive, but "feeling sorry for myself" continues to be the mantra of many people. Furthermore, we can be bombarded with repetitive negative phrases in our thinking, such as:

“I spent years stuck in problems and anxiety and wasn’t enjoying life at all. I discovered the Law of Attraction through a book and things got a little better, but it wasn’t until I discovered your website (and workshops) that things really began to change. I’m realising that it’s all about whether I am ‘tuned in’ or not. I’m finding it easier to be ok when I’m not feeling so good, too, which before was very difficult for me. I am also finding that people in my life seem to naturally ‘get it’ and live better lives without me trying to change their mind set (which I was prone to doing before). It seems like my connection naturally influences those around me and I don’t need to work things out when it comes to other people, as Life does that. Meditation I am really enjoying, I never realised how important it was when it comes to applying the Law of Attraction before your events. And a testimonial for you: After nearly 15 years of being single, when I had given up many times over, I met my ‘one’. I didn’t need to try to find him, we just met through friends when I was least expecting it. I can see how your work relaxed me and made the whole process effortless. Thank you.”
Another one from Abraham Hicks. I intend to read all of the Abraham, Esther and Jerry Hicks stuff lol. Sometimes I also listen to them on youtube. They were very inspiring and direct to the point and very helpful in my path to spirituality and goodness and patience and all the good things lol. I'll never stop learning and I'll never stop practicing loa. I believe that it is all worth it! :)
Hi Gabs, i have a long story but i’l cut it. After i said a prayer, talking to the Universe to send me a lady that i will get married to, i met a lady on facebook. She is a Gemini and i’m a Saggitarus. She became so deep in love with me and i culd sense it. But when she understood she was 2years older than me, her love began to undulate. She kept saying that i’m young and once she has a baby or two, she will look like my aunt cos of her size. Prior to our relationship, she has been in several relationshps with men, now she has a perspective bout men not been faithful. I assured her i was different and even if she has a child before that wont matter to me. But she seems to be falling apart. What do i need to do, to convince her of my love and my faithfulness and ensuring her loyalty? I love her and distance is not a barrier in my relationshp with her. Ur article is superb, it has updated my horizon. U can email me ur answers. emamaks2000@yahoo.co.nz. Thanks.
We live in a magical universe that can bring you exactly what you desire in the most amazing and even unbelievable ways. Getting caught up in the how can actually impede the law of attraction. If you are trying to control the how, you are likely getting in the way and making it more difficult than it has to be. Instead, let go of any ideas about how it has to happen and allow the universe to do its magic.
Try touching the ground with your bare feet, feeling the grass on your hands, smelling the flowers, and getting beyond passive with nature. I could write a book on why this is beneficial to the human condition, and I will be posting an article shortly, but in the meantime here’s a cool article to get you started: 8 Ways To Stay Connected To Earth’s Natural Healing Frequencies

How does the law of attraction work if the person you love has moved to a different state? From the beginning he stated he wanted to only be friends because he was not ready for a long term relationship but we did all the things that people do in relationships and agreed to be monogamous. He has left for another state to take care of issues with family/children and says he doesn’t know when he’ll return. We don’t talk/text as before. I really developed strong feelings for him as we spent a lot of time together and I felt they were reciprocated to a point. Not sure what to do at this point. He has all the qualities I want in a friend/husband. I would love for us to be back together but as more than only friends. Please help
I truly beleive the law of attraction works! Your story was so powerful! As for me, I started applying the principals to my life to make extra money during a time when I was unemployeed. Several weeks later I got a ramdom email with this AWESOME way to make extra cash and it is working! You can do this too, and more than likely, if you are reading it, it is because you also attracted this into your life! I was of course sptical at first but had nothing to lose and tried it. Now I am sooo glad I did and I know for a fact the law of a traction truly does work!
You’ve got to put a roadblock on the sled path. Stop telling the OLD story and start telling the NEW story! The NEW story of how you want it to be. The story of what it’s like to be in the most magical, loving relationship with your Soulmate. Starting now. You’re going to start catching yourself when you’re chatting with friends and the OLD story starts to creep out.  Notice it. Then shift to the NEW story.

Hello Kelli! I just came across your blog and it’s perfect timing! I’ve set my intention of meeting my soul mate recently, tried to work on limiting beliefs and all that. Yesterday, I joined some meet-up and met some good people. But I was so disappointed about the fact that the guy who I was a bit attracted to didn’t seem interested in me and ask me out. Even though he was not the exact type that I wanted but I started thinking like ‘maybe I’m not attractive enough..’ The very next day, I came across your blog and I’m very grateful for that.
I gained a good friend in sixth or seventh grade, and we hung out nearly every day. However, in the beginning of eight grade, she moved away to Michigan. She had given me her number, but I lost it! In my freshman year of high school one day, I just thought to myself, “I wonder how my friend is doing? I really want to talk to her.” I didn’t really think much of it though. It was just a passing thought. Later within the year, my mom came up to me and handed me a number. I asked her who’s number it was, and she told me that my friend’s mother had contacted my school to in order to hunt me down. She called and gave my mom her number so I could call my friend! O_O At the time, I wasn’t even thinking about LOA, but now as I look back, I realized it was! (I was just introduced to “The Secret” in eight grade too).

When we are really longing for a relationship, it is easy to let standards and boundaries go out the window. If you are looking for a guy, you may be willing to give anyone that floats into your orbit a chance.  Now, I am not saying not to be open to different people, because I think that is a good idea. Sometimes we can get too specific with the type of person we want to meet, and close off potential matches. Sometimes, what we think we want in a person is really something different, or not as important as we deem it now.


I recently released some resistance about finding the right guy. And I had this weird experience yesterday. I felt like maybe I could meet somebody yesterday when I went out with my friend. And I actually forgot about the fact that I thought about it. And I ran into somebody at a book store and he actually told me something that I didn’t expect and I didn’t know what to say so I couldn’t respond properly. I actually was with my friend who had strong opinion against something and I was afraid if she might not like me acting certain way. Anyway, so I actually wanted to talk to the guy more but for some reason, I couldn’t. But I discovered some limiting beliefs. I realized that I need to be myself even though I worry what my friend thinks about me. And if she doesn’t support me, maybe she’s not good for me even though I really care about her as a friend. The reason that I couldn’t be myself yesterday was because I cared so much about what my friend would think about me.
all thanks to the allmighty that he had granted my attraction of getin in touch with a master who had envisioned n manifested the law of attraction n thatz how i had happened to come across you…. jus letme brief you a little detail of myself…. i um trina bhattacharyya from india who since a very little age used to believe in miracles of life…… with the advent of time az i waze growing up got truly inclined towards spirituality n found many of my dreamz manifesting miraculously in reality….. thatz how i even got more attracted towards spirituality n started believing that if anything you desire from the core of your heart youre bound to deserve n get it back into your life…..you wont believe i still have gooseworms wen i realise that unconditionally each n every aspect which i had asked for my dream partner waze manifested in my husband…. but after a while due to some very familial problems i got shattered n torn up n had attracted a disease called gerd….. thatz wen my life coach stepped in my life n i consider her an incarnation of god himself who seem to have changed my entire life …. i waze totally burdened with the shackles of negativity ….. but i waze mesmerised to find that you have exactly reciprocated to what i waze experiencing all through these while….even i used to wonder az to how to unburden myself of all these shackles of negativity…. i just pour my heartiest gratitude to the allmighty to enlighten the darkness with hiz magnificent lamp of love and blessings.. i found myself encumbered with the three imaginery forces so called THOUGHT INTENTION N ACTION WHICH ARE the real keys to my destination…. you only have to engrave these three forces in a line perpendicular to the core of your soul n the rest would be taken care of by the magical divine intelligence so called our universe ….THE UNIVERSE iz an ocean of abundance for everyone we only need to open our arms n be receptive to all the unconditional love n divinity which itz showering all the time upon us with the right understanding n attitude… conquer your fear in any aspect of your life because itz notin except a false evidence appearing real…. only you have the real power embedded into yourself to win a triumph over all the odds n hoist the flag of victory … we all are the purest potential energies created by the allmighty….i greatly acknowledge my teacher n masters like you to have uncaged us with your believes n help us to fly with the beautiful wings of courage confidence n determination to enjoy all the lovely colours of the rainbow…. thankyou
Ever notice how travel magazines show a beautiful destination, maybe a white sand beach and azure blue sky? And, there is always a table and empty chair. Your mind is attracted to the empty chair. It wants you to be there. Goals are the same. The law of attraction is energised by the gap between here and there. So long as it is bridgeable (see tip 21).
What The Secret didn’t share is that activating the Law of Attraction requires more than inherent desire, an active imagination, and creating a vision board. Positive affirmations don’t work as a standalone. Meaning, a person who is broke isn’t going to manifest his or her rent by sitting around thinking positive thoughts alone. A person who is struggling with a health challenge may not overcome that challenge through positive thoughts by itself.
I know the LOA says when you want to manifest a specific person you have to be willing to lose them – you have to let go and be ok with not being with them in order to manifest the relationship you want. It also says that you should visualize the relationship you want with this person as if you already have it. How can one do both? How can I imagine being in a relationship with this person but let them go and be ok with not the being with them at the same time?
Amazing, that’s what happen with me and my ex, we would break up and he would date other woman, and I would feel extremely insecure, jealous, crazy, and etc then he would put pics up of one chic and then cut me off. I was devastated, so now I got Elizabeth’s book and I am working on me, so that I can get the LOVE OF MY LIFE back and FOR GOOD this time, in my heart I truly, truly, truly believe we are SOULMATES, everyone tells me, that I should just move on, that I am a beautiful young lady and I will find someone else and that he’s not that into me, etc, but we where together for 4 years going on 5, and I had alot of negative doubts, and insecurities and we kept breaking up. But, I truly believe that he and I are meant to be, and I am so excited that I brought the book and am reading it, taking the steps, and working on me. Best of luck!!!!
Pеrhарѕ оnе wау оf learning hоw tо uѕе thе law оf attraction tо manifest money iѕ lооking аt hоw уоu dоn't manifest money whеn working with thiѕ universal law. Fоr example, уоu саnnоt uѕе thе law оf attraction in thiѕ wау tо manifest anything, money included. Yоu саnnоt say, 'I wаnt mоrе money bесаuѕе I'm poor, I'm lacking in money аnd thаt iѕ whаt I wаnt tо соmе mу way.'
The first method for manifesting money into your life is by knowing that it will happen. You quite literally cannot anticipate it to occur if you don’t know, wholeheartedly, that it will come to pass. You need to know it and you need to own that you know it. Regardless of whatever else is going in your life, knowing that something will eventually happen is an incredibly powerful way for manifesting things.

Second, we will help you set some clear goals for yourself for the coming year... as without clarity on your goals it's impossible to expect the Law of Attraction to give you what you want as you first need to decide what you really want first... What goals would you like to achieve in the next 90 days? What new habits would you like to create? What would you like to attract in next 90 days? We will help you set S.M.A.R.T goals that will give you the result you want...
So what does that tell you? Well, when I asked myself the same question years ago before I started doing this work, what I realized was that in order for me to attract and manifest my Soulmate, I must somehow develop and grow myself into the kind of person that I myself want to be with.   In other words, if you haven’t found the right person it’s probably because you are not being the right person! As Marianne Williamson says, “We must become the person we want to attract.”

I am Sheela from India .. I am crazily in love with a guy who is my ex’s best friend .. We both are good friends .. We hang out at least Once a month .. Last month we got a bit physical wherein we were hugging each other and holding each other’s hands .. But since that incident, he has been ignoring me completely .. I really want him back in my life .. I also have a feeling that he is going around with another girl … Just for time pass and not a serious relationship .. Please help Me .. Can I get him back in my life ??
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Hi Elizabeth…I really appreciate you taking the time to answer all of our questions…no matter how big, small or repetitive…thank you for continuing to answer and being patient…we all are just trying to get it right…trying to find our happy place and manifest within it. I’ve been working on my energy everyday and learning to let go..even though he continues to pop up in my mind everyday, a couple of times a day. I’m not at all mad or hurt…just missing him…I smile and laugh when I think of him…and try my best to not let the missing him get in the way of the universe delivering my desires to me. But I would like to know if it is possible to manifest him or someone even better for Thanksgiving? I would love to have a great guy to accompany me for the holiday festivities and more! And how do I manifest faster? Thanks again in advance!

You should remain in a state of “as if” when using the Law of Attraction for a specific person. When you give attention to what is, you give it power to create more of what is. You should relax and allow your manifestation to occur, as you have always done. It’s a great way to create what you want and, as you release resistance and become more detached, you’ll be able to reach that state more easily.


please do not give up. makes your order to the universe. the universe is open to every person who wants something positive. try it and enjoy the process write down your specification and do your part, even a small part. try and be persistent. yes it is right nothing comes from nothing. if we do nothing nothing will happened so we must do something. it is not complicated but it does not mean easy either just do your part and you will be amazing
I’m glad my book on using the Law of Attraction for love of a specific person worked for you! You should follow the same steps you followed the first time. It’s okay if you think about him, but you should focus on making yourself happy. Instead of thinking of the feeling of “feeling in love”, think of the emotion of “feeling loved.” That’s what you’re ultimately looking for in your relationship.

Hi Elizabeth – thank you for the wonderful insight into attracting an ex. I got your book and have started doing everything you suggest. I could feel my vibrations rising and went to sleep with a wonderful open heart feeling. When I woke up the doubts of his intentions started filtering into my brain. I quickly tried to cover them up with ______ and ______ together forever and we are 1 type of mantra. I switch between what will be will be and positive thought. We lived together f or 7 years and he has moved out. I have left his cupboards ready for him to come back but am worried that I am not getting the detachment thing right. Will it come in time if I just carry on practising everything you have suggested? Thank you for your time and care. JG


At the office, I wasn’t feeling like I was paid enough so I started focusing on a new executive position at another company. I wasn’t qualified enough, but I kept on reading about the job and picturing myself working at that company. I printed out their logo and taped it to my wall. Guess who got the job even though I wasn’t as qualified as the interviewees? That’s correct, I did.
We all long for that connection with someone else. It is natural to want it. It is okay to want it. The absence of it in our life creates a very strong emotional reaction. We notice the lack of a relationship constantly. There is a huge vibration of lack. What we are ‘vibrating’ now will determine what we attract into our experience now, so we need to clean things up here a bit.

That night, I laid on the cold hardwood floor in our living room, my hair matted to the side of my head with tears that had finally run dry from my own dehydration. The only thought that floated in my semi-conscious brain was, “How the hell can I do this?” I’d tried so hard to think of a plan, anything, but nothing came, except that question over and over again. It seemed completely impossible. Yet somehow in that moment survival mode also kicked in, and with it came even more questions. Of course we’d have to move right away, but where? I didn’t have family who could take us in. And we’d need to sell everything we owned, but how? And I’d need a job, but doing what? And how could I afford to work when daycare would take up most of my salary?
If you were to meet your soulmate today, and you chose to live together, would there be room in your life for them?  Okay, think you know what I’m getting at?  If you don’t start making actual time and space to be with your soulmate, you’re sending out a clear message to the Universe that you’re not ready to welcome him or her into your life. If what you truly want is to welcome your One into your life, and you are fully committed, then one of the best ways that you can accelerate this process is by consciously making room for them.

Focus on understanding your part in this overall process, rather than feeling guilty or ashamed. Recognizing how your fears have manifested in your life does not mean that the bad things in your life are your fault. It simply means that the Law of Attraction has responded to the signal you sent out. Just acknowledge that the system works and your new awareness will guide you. No need to shame yourself or even feel responsible.

The awesome LOA blogger Melody Fletcher termed the manifestations that show up to indicate we are on the right path as ‘breadcrumbs.’ The thing is though, many of us misinterpret them as ‘bad’ things that show us we still don’t have what we want. Sometimes, a manifestation is not just going to fall right into our lap—this is especially true of ‘wants’ that are really big and important to us–we typically have a lot of resistance to work through. Just allowing it in, in its full form, immediately, usually can’t happen.
But it’s only when you are okay with not being with them, that you open the path for the Law of Attraction to attract your specific person to you. Until you’re okay with not being with him/her, a part of you is resisting and making it impossible for you to have what you want. This means, according to the Law of Attraction, that until you’re okay with possibly losing him/her, it will be difficult for you to have the relationship you want with him/her. You have to be okay with not having him/her.

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