Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.

Most people don’t consider using the Law of Attraction to bring better health into their lives, but as you noticed in the results of the aging experiment, it’s actually a great tool for that purpose. Because the Law of Attraction works with thoughts and thoughts affect our physical reality, you may be attracting poor health into your life right now without even realizing it.

There is no real risk to chasing your dreams. As far as I can tell, it’s a lot of fun and a thrilling journey. My experience with countless clients over many, many years, is that all the risk…all the frustration…and all the disappointment, is born from not chasing dreams. (But please remember, there is a way to chase dreams successfully which is like chasing butterflies. Put yourself in the right energy field, and become a magnet for those butterflies. The more direct method of butterfly catching is so much harder).
“Thank you for your excellent workshop. I arrived feeling very low- about to divorce and preparing to ready myself to move on and find someone else. After applying your principles for just a few weeks, I ended up falling in love with my husband all over again. Something I hadn’t seen coming- but I’m very pleased it happened this way… Life certainly works in mysterious ways.”
Living “as if” can be a powerful way to help yourself to manifest love. What this means is that you should try to live every day not as though you’re looking for love but as though you’ve already found it! Embrace self-love and dress as you would if you were spending time with your partner. Try to make space for them in your home. See yourself as a person with a loving soulmate and a bright future, and make plans accordingly.
Hi Elizabeth, I’ve read your book (loved it!) and the “rules” for those of us who want to manifest an ex, seem a little more demanding and complex… What if your ex wants nothing to do with you, or appears not to want to? What if they are telling everyone they are moving on and happier without you and are going toward greener pastures and they are open to meeting someone new? Secondly, how does one visualize happiness when still hurting, and how does one visualize good things and “let it go” when the memory of the breakup is still recent and fresh. Any tips on how to switch off emotional pain and memories, and just concentrate on the good? I just feel that manifesting an ex back is a great deal more challenging (and yes it is him I really want) because of the history there which simply can’t be erased or forgotten….

Was the thought that you could attract money one of the main things that drew you to the Law of Attraction? If so, you’re not alone. Almost everyone wants to find out how to attract more money using Law of Attraction techniques. However, maybe you’ve since discovered that techniques to attract money are more confusing than you expected. Alternatively, perhaps you think you’ve been doing all the right things but you still haven’t quite figured out how to use the Law of Attraction to get money.
Second, I’ve been working on getting friendly with money for years. I know that when I feel frustrated about money, it has to reflect my frustration. When I’m scared about money, it matches that vibe, too. Whatever I’m feeling is what it has to show me. So I’ve been working on getting friendly with it for a while now. That part didn’t happen in ten days.
At first when she would walk past a coin, and I’d pick it up and say, “Look at this, Emily. There was a nickel there, and you walked right past it! Your eyes definitely saw it because you were looking in that direction, but the coin didn’t register in your mind. You still need to adjust yourself to the right vibe. Remember — the coins are everywhere! You just have to command your eyes to notice them.”

You can’t attract someone who loves you for who you are, if you are not really BEING who you are. Not being yourself because you think there is something wrong with you will also lead you to attracting people who mirror these feelings back to you, which to those unaware of how law of attraction operates, will falsely take these experiences and encounters as ‘proof’ they are right in feeling that way about themselves.

“What I got from your workshop was how to calm my mind- and I am so grateful for that. After years of reading books and going to seminars which told me to ‘cheer up’ (like I didn’t already know that) – I now have tools to know how to do that. One little story: I put on my Universe List ‘bring me more abundance’ and ‘enable me to receive my abundance’ and then began my Appreciation Journal practice. I thanked Life for all the abundance I already had- things, people and of course money. I also thanked the Universe for the abundance and money I knew was on its way… A cheque came through the post from someone I had forgotten owed me money, I got a pay rise at work and my mother called me up to say she wanted to give me money (which is totally unlike her).”


“My friend had found the love of her life not by meeting someone new- but from someone who was already in her life. It reminded me of something I read in a magazine article you’d written- about Cinderella and how that so much of her ‘good’ was already in her life: The pumpkin that became a carriage, the rags that became a ballgown etc.- and that there was no need to ‘go hunting’ for what you want as so much good is here, waiting to be revealed. From observing my friend, it was exactly like that: As she came into her connection, she realised the love of her life was already a good friend in her current experience. She had never seen him in that way before- but in the twinkling of an eye- she saw him in a new, romantic way. And he felt the same. And now they are married and one of the happiest couples I know.
Just like the good old tracks that the sled follows down the mountain. And so we tell the same old story, over and over, about why we have our childhood wounds, and about how bad our previous relationship was, how we got dumped, how we’re not being loved the way we want to be, how unequal this relationship is, how we have these abandonment issues, how they cheated on us, how we’re too old to find love, too fat, too skinny, too white, too black, too gay, too straight, too poor, too rich, too unstable, too unreliable, afraid of commitment, too demanding… Blah, blah, blah. PLEASE STOP! The more you tell the same old story, the more you’re perpetuating it in your experience and the more you’re blocking love from coming into your life. Why?  Because you keep focusing on it.
Jim Carey is infamous now for having done this specific thing in his life. In 1985 through 87, Carrey would drive up onto Mulholland Drive in Los Angeles, looking at houses, and he would imagine all of these things in his. He would imagine the big house, the cars, respect from directors, more opportunities than he knew what to do with, and so on. Keep in mind, at the time he was flat broke.
There are also numerous references in the law of attraction community to the fact that the bigger you think, the more likely you are to attract it. Therefore, do not sell yourself short, and dream audacious dreams - as these are the only goals that will provide you with the strength of desire necessary to keep focussed when conflicting thoughts begin to emerge.

There is a trick to The Law of Attraction and it's not as magical as one might imagine: we attract the things that we focus on. When we focus on not having enough, that thought form supports the "lack of" we routinely experience. We are forever reminded to use affirmations and to keep our thoughts positive, but "feeling sorry for myself" continues to be the mantra of many people. Furthermore, we can be bombarded with repetitive negative phrases in our thinking, such as:
For example, you want to attract a romantic partner, but deep down you don’t think that he exists, or that a person so perfect would even be with you; or if you’re earning $2,000/month and you’re trying to manifest a job where you could be earning $50,000/month – which, no matter how much you want it, can easily seem out of your reach and stay in the domain of wishful thinking.

Thank you for that piece of advice-should I remain in a constant state of “as if” with no attentiin on what is? Or should I focus in what I want, relax, and accept what is? Normally I focus in meditation on my intentions, relax, and allow my manifestations to occur—but, normally I am also not as Concerned about what I want to manifest. Should I be doing it differently?


I thought maybe I’d buy a Toyota, since that was what I could afford - or so it seemed. But I had to stop by the Cadillac dealership for some reason that escapes me now. I ran into the Service Manager, who’d become a friend over the years of me bringing my car there for service. He asked where my car was; I told him it’d been totaled. “So, you’re here to buy a new one?” he asked. No, I can’t afford one. “Nonsense! I’ll introduce you to our sales manager, and you’ll drive a Cadillac out of here today!” I laughed, and agreed to meet the sales manager.
You need to be clear about what you truly want in a relationship, there are lots of questions to be asked here, and the crucial thing is that you be honest with yourself.  Is it a life-long relationship?  Is it a traditional “get married”, raise a family relationship? Is it a committed relationship living apart?  You must decide what you truly want; sending the universe mixed messages via your thoughts will only lead to people who want different types of relationships coming into your life.
If you want to know how to build wealth fast, first you need to master six easy exercises. We’ll outline these exercises below, and also explore how to manifest money quickly and easily using targeted meditations to attract wealth. Finally, we’ll look at the best affirmations for money. Before you know it, you’ll be ready to manifest anything in the blink of an eye!
Long story short I converted the massive 3 story house into five self contained flats complete with their own utility supplies and turn-key ready in exactly 60 days and made £100’000 profit. Lots of pre planning and lots of drama but it worked! I still have those flats and they are rented out. i withdrew £100’000 of the equity after having the building revalued.

Hi Elizabeth~ I have read your book a few times and have one thing that I am confused by. I was in a relationship with someone a few months back, but life circumstances got in the way a bit. These life circumstances have changed now and I would like him back in my life. I think that there is much potential here, but do not feel that I know him well enough to know that he is “the one”. Should I focus my energy on manifesting him specifically? Or should I not focus on manifesting him since I am not 100% sure he is the right guy and just focus on manifesting a life partner? And we have not talked in a while, so I assume I should NOT contact him and just focus on myself and on the manifestation? Please advise. Thanks!!!

See I never said that you just think about getting a CEO’s job and sit relaxed at home, apply LOA and it will come to you (it’s really impossible). The thing is, that you have to think and act in a certain way, with full of positivity and firm belief that this is going to happen soon. And the best thing is that it doesn’t ask for your money… All it needs is your positive thinking and strong belief. I don’t think there is any harm in doing it rather than criticising it.
Pеrhарѕ оnе wау оf learning hоw tо uѕе thе law оf attraction tо manifest money iѕ lооking аt hоw уоu dоn't manifest money whеn working with thiѕ universal law. Fоr example, уоu саnnоt uѕе thе law оf attraction in thiѕ wау tо manifest anything, money included. Yоu саnnоt say, 'I wаnt mоrе money bесаuѕе I'm poor, I'm lacking in money аnd thаt iѕ whаt I wаnt tо соmе mу way.'
“I began appreciating the best of my past relationships and also began doing the techniques I had learnt from you about attracting new love. Things shifted quickly: a new waiter had started at my favourite cafe and we were enjoying some great conversations – he was just my type, too. More than ever and all over the place, I began noticing more people who were my kind of partner – and they seemed to like me too. And on my way home one evening, as I was mid-affirmation and feeling very romantic I looked down and there were rose petals everywhere, all across the pavement I was walking on. I was outside the Royal Opera House and thought ‘wouldn’t it be nice to go there’. Soon after – and this is my reason for sending the success story – I met my ‘someone special’ at a friend’s birthday gathering and for our first date he bought me tickets to the Royal Opera House!”
The preparation for welcoming your soul mate requires that you make a conscious commitment to start healing the deepest wounds of your heart. Notice that I said “start” healing the deepest wounds of your heart, because for the majority of us, this is a lifelong process and it doesn’t mean you have to be fully healed to manifest your One.  In fact, one of the things that a soul mate will do is HELP you to heal your deepest emotional wounds, and chances are you’ll be helping them heal their deepest emotional wounds as well.  BUT you must be willing to clear out all of the past hurts, anger, resentments, and anything else that makes up the thick wall of protection and distrust that you have built around your heart so that you can start welcoming love in.

P.s. My Boyfriend did not help me with this. I project managed the whole thing myself, with invaluable help of a carpenter friend. I knew nothing about building industry and all the workers said it can’t be done in 60 days and said how from their years of experience it would take 6 months if i was lucky. We argued and argued until we all saw it MY way and then we got on with it :)
In his highly acclaimed works, Wattles explains the importance of the mind and the significant role that it plays in helping a person to achieve financial wealth. As he describes in his book, ‘the riches they receive will be in exact proportion to the definiteness of their vision, the fixity of their purpose, the steadiness of their faith, and the depth of their gratitude.’
I started with manifesting pennies in the Summer of 2006. Then I graduated to nickels, dimes, and quarters. I focused on quarters for several weeks. Then I progressed to dollars to $100 to $1000 to $10K to $50K. Overall it took less than a year to go from manifesting pennies to manifesting $50K. After that point I become more interested in non-monetary manifesting and had some especially fun times with manifesting in my social life — friends, mentors, and other yumminess. In fact, I honestly feel that manifesting money is a bit boring compared to all the other cool stuff you can manifest. It’s like playing a video game and obsessing over the score. That can be fun for a while, but eventually you want to focus on more interesting aspects of the game world.
Just like the good old tracks that the sled follows down the mountain. And so we tell the same old story, over and over, about why we have our childhood wounds, and about how bad our previous relationship was, how we got dumped, how we’re not being loved the way we want to be, how unequal this relationship is, how we have these abandonment issues, how they cheated on us, how we’re too old to find love, too fat, too skinny, too white, too black, too gay, too straight, too poor, too rich, too unstable, too unreliable, afraid of commitment, too demanding… Blah, blah, blah. PLEASE STOP! The more you tell the same old story, the more you’re perpetuating it in your experience and the more you’re blocking love from coming into your life. Why?  Because you keep focusing on it.
2) Open to the mystery of life. You have no idea when or where that special person could walk into your life.  He or she could be someone you already know or met in the past.  They could be someone you’ll be meeting on your next business trip or vacation.  They could also be your next date’s brother or sister!  Your next Facebook friend or Twitter follower.  They could be someone you’ll be meeting at a coffee shop or at the train station while you wait for the next train.  The key here is to surrender all pre-conceived ideas and drop all your expectations of how, and with whom it is to happen and continue to focus on ‘what’ you want by being fully available and present in each and every moment. Don’t worry about the how! Say ‘Yes’ to your soulmate, and open to the mystery of life!

“One simple and fun way in which I trust the Universe is using random play on my iPod- and I’m not joking. I find that the Universe’s choice of music (or spoken inspirational recordings) is always far more apt than my choice. And so since hearing about Esther and Jerry Hick’s (the Teachings of Abraham) relationship beginnings, and how they were clearly brought together (and when they compared histories, they realised they were in so many states and cities at the same time- showing that the Universe was constantly attempting to bring them together without their effort), I decided to apply this same idea of trusting the Universe for my relationship. And so I did processes. Within days of absolutely giving up on trying (which meant giving up on whenever I went out with friends immediately scanning the room for potential partners, thinking about my soul mate many times during the day and other forms of searching, despite telling myself and all my friends I was perfectly happy being single and letting it all unfold naturally!), I walked into a cafe I had been in so many times and immediately, naturally found myself within a conversation with one of the staff I had seen but never spoken to. We talked, exchanged telephone numbers… and who knows?! And who cares. Because for the first time I won’t be checking my phone every 5 minutes- I honestly don’t care if he calls or not- the fact is, I now understand that my ‘figuring it out’ way doesn’t work – the Universe knows better than I do. This is the first time I’ve exchanged numbers with anyone significant in about 6 months. And all from a couple of days of truly surrendering! And before the day was over, I was surprisingly contacted by someone I used to really like and then met another very eligible man.”
Since then, I’ve lived in Bali, Indonesia… and now the Philippines. I have a wonderful partner, and live in a brand new condo overlooking a swimming pool, a coconut palm grove, and beyond that, the ocean. I eat loads of locally produced fruits and vegetables, and I get my (free) drinking water from a cool mountain spring. I took up scuba diving 2 years ago, and I’ve had over 50 dives since. I travel at least 10 times a year, to exotic locations both in the Philippines and internationally. All my needs are met, and my life has never been so abundant.
When you want to become a money magnet, you must understand that money has a relationship with gratitude. Because the thought of money either makes you feel positive or negative most of the time. If it makes you feel positive then that’s great. But if it makes you feel negative because your focus is on the lack then this is where Gratitude works like magic.
2) I was told by some people who also follow the LOA methods that manifesting someone specific was not advisable because it was going against the wishes of that said person if that’s not what they wanted anymore. He’s made it very clear that it is not what he wants at all. Am I wrong for wanting the love of my life back and just be given a genuine chance to see if things could work again?

Subliminal audio is a mild form of hypnosis. For those who just can’t seem to overcome the disbelief no matter how hard they try, if the doubts and negativity in your subconscious mind are too stubborn and the wish lists, positivity or even subliminal audio just can’t turn it around, you may want to try with natural hypnosis. The people who have tried it say that:


Bring your awareness to what you would like to manifest or call into your life at this time. Visualize it in the most bright, colorful, exciting, and joy-filled way—as if it’s already happened—and notice how happy you are, see who else is present there with you, take in any important sounds, feel the positive emotions running through you, and steep yourself in gratitude for all the gifts this life has bestowed upon you.
Subliminal audio is a mild form of hypnosis. For those who just can’t seem to overcome the disbelief no matter how hard they try, if the doubts and negativity in your subconscious mind are too stubborn and the wish lists, positivity or even subliminal audio just can’t turn it around, you may want to try with natural hypnosis. The people who have tried it say that:
I’ve noticed that as I’ve shifted my vibe to manifest larger sums of money and to manifest new experiences in other parts of my life, I seem to fall out of resonance with manifesting smaller sums. I’m not as good at manifesting coins as I was in 2006. That’s because my vibe isn’t tuned in to the coin manifesting frequency as much. These days I’m spending more time using the LoA to manifest cool social connections and travel experiences. I’ve tuned my vibe to focus on that part of the perceptual frequency. I also feel more excited and playful about manifesting in these other areas as opposed to adding to my financial score.

Another way that you can manifest money into your life by using the Law of Attraction is by actually envisioning it coming to pass. The deeper you’re able to envision it, the more likely you’ll be to see things through. Oftentimes, we can’t envision something incredible happening in our lives because we try not to set ourselves up for disappointment, thus we impose self-limitations that stifle us from achieving our dreams.


first of all I love your book and have read it twice. I used your method to attract someone back after he had gone and it worked. As it is a long distanced relationship we didn’t see each other often so things had fallen apart, and we broke up recently again. I want to attract him back using LOA again. This time is a bit difficult for me as it’s the second time manifesting the same person, and now I get a bit confused: as I have to ‘let go’, do I still have to visualise every day? In the “letting go” period, should I think about him, or just making myself happy? I am training myself to visualise better but I find sometimes the feeling of love is strong but sometimes not at all (probably because the long distanced has dragged us down and it is the second time manifesting the same person). Will making myself happy work in order to manifest in this situation? I do believe Universe is making it happen for me but I would like to know if I have to feel ‘in love’ when I think of him. Thank you.

At the office, I wasn’t feeling like I was paid enough so I started focusing on a new executive position at another company. I wasn’t qualified enough, but I kept on reading about the job and picturing myself working at that company. I printed out their logo and taped it to my wall. Guess who got the job even though I wasn’t as qualified as the interviewees? That’s correct, I did.


He is my soulmate. We speak the same love language. We have this amazing telepathic connection that freaks us both sometimes. We both have our quirks which we completely accept and adore. We never stop each other from being who we are, even if it means being selfish or demanding at times. Fortunately, we realize our mistakes and make amends immediately. This is the best relationship I have been in. I know I want to spend my life with this man.
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That night, I laid on the cold hardwood floor in our living room, my hair matted to the side of my head with tears that had finally run dry from my own dehydration. The only thought that floated in my semi-conscious brain was, “How the hell can I do this?” I’d tried so hard to think of a plan, anything, but nothing came, except that question over and over again. It seemed completely impossible. Yet somehow in that moment survival mode also kicked in, and with it came even more questions. Of course we’d have to move right away, but where? I didn’t have family who could take us in. And we’d need to sell everything we owned, but how? And I’d need a job, but doing what? And how could I afford to work when daycare would take up most of my salary?

“I am enjoying a wonderful relationship with a man who may quite possibly be ‘the one’ – and that’s after being single for 13 years. Certainly a big factor was due to regular use of your techniques and your romantic love workshop. I got myself into a position of not needing anyone yet at the same time anticipating the excitement of love – which I learnt was key – and this was accomplished through your teachings. I got on with my life and spent time on my interests and my career and with friends, whilst using your ideas to increase my expectation of love. Yes, there were some times of feeling lonely or doubtful, but I kept on going, supported by the success stories and others at your group, until I met him a through a ‘random’ invite and it’s been lovely ever since.”


When you’re ready, use meditative technique of your choice to calm the thoughts in your mind – focus on your breathing or on a single object in front of you. If your thoughts wonder off, let them, don’t be disturbed about it, just notice that you were distracted (it’s normal) and gently bring back your attention to the object of meditation. When you sense that you’re fully relaxed and that your mind isn’t wondering anymore, you can go to the next stage.
I have some questions about letting go of resistance. Looking back, I could finally let go of resistance by going on lots of dates and making myself exhausted, get sick and tired of trying to find the right guy. And after that moment, I could finally surrender and manifest guys that I actually wanted to be with. So maybe it could be one of the ways that people can let go of resistance? Is this the hard way?

Learning how to connect with yourself has a lot to do with tuning into your own need. Consequently, then meeting those needs. When you make a habit of this, you’re much more able to attract love with someone who will nurture you. One way to ensure you take better care of yourself while you’re looking for love is to set aside an hour a day where you commit to pursuing a hobby you love! This should be no matter what other, more “productive” things you could be doing.

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