Hi Shona, If you want to successfully use the Law of Attraction for love for a specific person, you need to overcome your fear. Your thoughts and emotions create, so if you continue to be afraid, you will create the things that you fear – his cheating, his not wanting to commit, etc. Sometimes the easiest way to overcome fear is to think about the worst thing that would happen if things didn’t go the way you want them. Often, that worst fear isn’t all that bad, and it’s easy to then let the fear go. Other times, it might be necessary to use tapping or EFT to get rid of the fear.

As I mentioned earlier, our soulmates frequently come into our lives to help us heal our deepest emotional wounds, and we come into their lives to help them do the same.   For some people, this may at first look like some form of  ‘Crazy, Stupid Love’, or a relationship that appears to bring out the worst both in you and your partner.  These are the kind of relationships where people break up several times but over time have a tendency to find their balance as deep healing begins to take place and eventually grow into ‘Soulmate Love’.


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You’re also competing with other people’s intentions – both good and bad. So, be aware that if your desire is in direct conflict with someone else’s stronger desire, the universe will respond accordingly. The Law of Attraction does not give you full and total control of your life, it simply states that like will attract like. You can use this to your advantage by being intentional with your desires, but this isn’t magic.
2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that.  It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you.  For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others.  For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:
5) Start each day by turning your Heart Light on.  How can you do this? With a gratitude prayer for all that is happening in your life and for the deep knowing that your Soulmate is even now on his/her way to you.  Affirm that you are meeting in Divine and Perfect time, and know that while you wait patiently for their arrival in your life, both you and your Soulmate are growing, and wrapping up any unfinished business while the Universe engineers your connection.
“Me and my husband weren’t getting on at all and then I remembered something a woman said at the group who was in a similar situation. So I did a version of the Positive Aspects process: I went through the alphabet thinking of good qualities about him: A- Attractive when we went out last week, B- Bought me a beautiful birthday present, C- Committed to his family and work, D- Determined to feel good, E- Easy going and relaxed… And on I went. After a very short time my feelings of anger and criticism melted away. I began doing this process every day, in the morning before work. Initially I have to admit I wanted to do the processes to change him- but after a while I was doing it because it felt so good. Within a week or so he bought me flowers- he hasn’t done that for years. He started paying me compliments and now he’s booked a holiday for us. He also has told me how much he loves me and I, too, feel more in love with him than I have in a long time.”
He has not text me. I don’t want carry on harrasing him and texting when he is not texting/talking back. Please help me How can I get Law of Attraction to work for me and get him to call/text me and we start taking again. I don’t want to appear desperate by contacting him, because the last message I left was. “I will leave you alone, I don’t want to keep pestering you. He did not even respond to that. Please help
But, once you start seeing your external experience is a mirror of what you feel and believe, you will make the amazing realization that changing your internal world will change what you bring into your life. If you don’t believe you have to settle or compromise, you won’t. If you believe you will find the right person, you will. If you know you don’t have to end up alone, you won’t. Sound too simplistic? Is the skeptical part of you being activated and resisting this? Are you thinking of all your experiences that have ‘proved’ your current set of beliefs, beyond a shadow of a doubt, and saying to yourself that I don’t know what the hell I am talking about? But, this is really all there is to it.Life is so much easier than we make it out to be.
Hi Elizabeth..AJ here again…I bought your book last night and read it in one setting! Good stuff! I will be reading it again today so I can start the work properly and really soak it all in. I have a question…my guy and I haven’t talked to each other for 2 weeks. But we are both still on the dating site we meet on few months ago. I know I am doing no contact, but with him still being able to see me and I being able to see him…does that kill the mystery of him missing me and will it hinder me from fully letting go? I am just trying to stay open and not block anyone that maybe better…even though I want the chance to see where things can go with him with the proper realignment. I just want to open the gate to draw him in and others, to go with what’s best for me. Thanks in advance!

3) The Third List: Your Gifts. The third list is, in my opinion, the most important one. Your soul mate will not be coming into your life to rescue you, make you happy, or save your life.  A soul mate is a friend and partner with whom you’ll be sharing your life.  Someone who will love, nurture and support you while you love, nurture and support them.  Someone who understands the power and beauty of a true soulmate union and will hold the space for love, even when you can’t.


“There was someone who I liked. Well, it was more than ‘liked’. When I finally got the courage to speak to her after several months and tell her my feelings, she was very direct with me- looking me straight in the eye and saying “It’s never going to happen. I only see you as a friend”. I was absolutely crushed and also shocked- my guidance was normally very precise. But I also knew how guided she was, too. Despite her certainty, I couldn’t get her off my mind and felt very down about it. It’s awful wanting something so much which you simultaneously think is ‘impossible’ to achieve. These thoughts of longing lasted many months until finally, when it all got too much, I decided to give the processes a go. I began doing the Universe List. I ‘gave up’ trying to impress her, trying to be ‘good enough’ and trying in general. I fully embraced the situation and decided to release the control (which wasn’t working anyway). I said to the Universe, “if I’m meant to be with her I will be and if I’m not- so be it”. And I meant it, this time. Within days, we met up, and suddenly she expressed how she didn’t know what was going on but she saw me in a different light. My friends say it was like the uplifting ‘twist’ at the end of one of those crowd-pleasing Hollywood movies- something that doesn’t happen in real life. But it was happening, to me! Now, a year later, we are blissfully happy. We are experiencing what I have read described in spiritual literature as a ‘twin flame’ relationship. The biggest gift this situation brought me, though, is that when you give it all up to the Universe- things beyond your wildest imaginings can happen. It taught me surrender- which has caused all aspects of my life to flourish like never before. I have to add that The Law of Attraction Centre’s groups, workshops and community have been instrumental in assisting me making my life work.”
When you investigate your thoughts and open up to new possibilities, you are in control of your feeling state. This gives you the power to instantly change your feeling state and align with the vibration of the feelings that you actually want to attract. When you’re feeling abundant, you’re going to have to get a bigger piggy bank to put all that money in that you attract.
This is the primary purpose in uniting and amplifying your vibrations as One. You are moving and expressing yourself as Divine energy as you talk and teach and catch waves of vibrations from your soul and understand what your soul is saying and that is the power when you speak from the soul. You embody Divine powers using your talents given from the higher soul vibrations as they move up inside and flow thru your soul and you are more connected to the cosmos and see fruits of what you do as One. The divine gifts within the soul evolve specific vibrations flowing from divine within you as one. You have embodied your souls as one and have connection with the Divine and Cosmos. Your talents and gifts are empowered by God to be used as his instruments as TF as you move inside your soul with same vibration. You meditate with your soul. The Soul gets charged as the One Soul in its connection to God in the supernal triangle. You can do miracles when you open up your soul and allow it to have its freedom for it has no boundaries and limitations and wants truth in order to live free and not be under any control except Divine flow. You see purpose as souls as you live as Divine Instruments for God’s use knowing you are Divine Beings.
read yr’s and jasons comments on phil’s. I believe in law of attraction because I have experienced it many a times, even the most impossible things have happened. But only in one matter, I have been trying for last 9 months. i know the person will come back to me, but 1 week i will be positive then my faith is wavering and my mind puts up so many logics and obvious reasons how it cannot happen (and believe me all my fears are also coming true) I am totally confused and dejected. pl. do guide me to overcome my fear and panic and believe and just let go
I want to point out at this time that I’ve been very lucky along the way, and one of the greatest strokes of luck in my life was to have known at a young age (around 16 years old) what I wanted to do ‘when I grew up’. For some reason, I’ve been fixated on helping people to change. To transform. To live a better life. It truly is what I was born to do.

**NOTE, this is an abbreviated version of my too-lengthy original review. In the original, I get very specific about the negative consequences of this material. So if you’re struggling with this ideology or starting to question things, please go to my blog for the full version: Responsible Spirituality (there’s a link on my profile or just google it). The original review is posted there, plus great comments from other ex-followers.**
Hi Onique – You need to look over your thoughts, beliefs, emotions from the past to see why you created it in the past. You need to look at your current thoughts, beliefs and emotions to see why you are creating it now. There’s probably at least one thought/belief that has been repeated for 10 years and is still there. Changing your thoughts/beliefs allows your life to change.
On this video version of the best-selling book, Abraham, an aspect of Non-Physical Source Energy facilitated by Esther and Jerry Hicks, explains in clear, practical terms how to create financial abundance . . . and anything else you desire in life! Tracks: Opening Titles: 1:16 The Expanded Version of You: 13:52 This Is a Vibrational Universe: 16:14 Tell a Different Story: 4:47 I Want My Millions, but . . . 11:35 Limited by Thoughts of Action: 5:38 You Are All Many Different Worlds: 15:28 Aligning with Your Veritable Fortune: 8:32 Create with Every Word and Thought: 7:55 Closing Titles/Contact Info: 1:13
Fill your mind with thoughts of already having the money you need in your wallet or bank account. Imagine driving your new car, or living in your new home, or taking your dream vacation. About ten years ago I had the urge to travel to India. I began burning Indian incense, listening to Indian music, eating Indian food. I employed the power of the Law of Attraction. Within two months I was provided an entire trip to India, with a 5-star hotel, tours, everything I had imagined and even more. I met and studied with deeply spiritual people. It was a fantastic journey and a life changing experience. The entire trip was attracted through my ability to feel the money. In this case, I experienced the trip in my mind, and the money was provided to take the journey.
Hi there. I have tried but haven’t had any real success. Is there a way you coach people on this? Also I am just not able to find the right person in my life. i liked somebody but he never was able to like me. He is not dating anyone at the moment. But however he is closed to the idea of love somehow and settling down. Its not me here. It is his resistance to romantic involvement. We don’t really see each other and he has kept distance because he doesn’t want to be in love or marry at all. I am 29 and he is 36. Can you please suggest a way.
Thank you so much for explaining the term soulmate, i felt i had met my true one, but because of past life experiences, we drifted apart, i still feel he is the one, so i will start my manifestation, as you have explained. I did meet with him in passing, a week ago, and he acted so awkward towards me, a lot of things have happened in the last 18 months, but i feel we are going to reconnect, i also feel our time apart was needed, as we were not in a healthy place, i wasn’t personally because of the loss of so many close family members. But i now feel on the right path, so thank you again for explaining things in great detail.
Fill your mind with thoughts of already having the money you need in your wallet or bank account. Imagine driving your new car, or living in your new home, or taking your dream vacation. About ten years ago I had the urge to travel to India. I began burning Indian incense, listening to Indian music, eating Indian food. I employed the power of the Law of Attraction. Within two months I was provided an entire trip to India, with a 5-star hotel, tours, everything I had imagined and even more. I met and studied with deeply spiritual people. It was a fantastic journey and a life changing experience. The entire trip was attracted through my ability to feel the money. In this case, I experienced the trip in my mind, and the money was provided to take the journey.
“I was looking for a way to forgive an ex-partner of mine, and had been trying for over a year. I heard your suggestion of just handing it all over to the Universe and to Life – and asking to see the situation from another perspective, but it seemed far too simplistic to work. However I was exhausted with the way I had been seeing it, as I felt like such a victim and had a lot of resentment. Slightly sceptical of exactly how I would see it from another perspective (I had read many self-help books and seen two counsellors previously and nothing was helping), I finally agreed to give it a go. I just busied myself with “my part”; as you said – which was to meditate and to appreciate my life.
But, once you start seeing your external experience is a mirror of what you feel and believe, you will make the amazing realization that changing your internal world will change what you bring into your life. If you don’t believe you have to settle or compromise, you won’t. If you believe you will find the right person, you will. If you know you don’t have to end up alone, you won’t. Sound too simplistic? Is the skeptical part of you being activated and resisting this? Are you thinking of all your experiences that have ‘proved’ your current set of beliefs, beyond a shadow of a doubt, and saying to yourself that I don’t know what the hell I am talking about? But, this is really all there is to it.Life is so much easier than we make it out to be.
We all long for that connection with someone else. It is natural to want it. It is okay to want it. The absence of it in our life creates a very strong emotional reaction. We notice the lack of a relationship constantly. There is a huge vibration of lack. What we are ‘vibrating’ now will determine what we attract into our experience now, so we need to clean things up here a bit.
Meditation can trigger heightened Alpha and Theta activity in the brain; states of mind often associated with creativity. Some forms of meditation also promote synchronization of the left and right hemispheres of the brain, another factor that has been identified in electroencephalograph (EEG) readings during moments of inspiration and during participation in creative activities. In a study conducted with 362 students in Taiwan to determine the effects of meditation on creativity, attention, IQ, and anxiety, the greatest improvement was observed in creativity.
We all long for that connection with someone else. It is natural to want it. It is okay to want it. The absence of it in our life creates a very strong emotional reaction. We notice the lack of a relationship constantly. There is a huge vibration of lack. What we are ‘vibrating’ now will determine what we attract into our experience now, so we need to clean things up here a bit.
You can be happy now, and by doing this work, you are re-creating your world and embracing your capacity to Love. You are growing yourself into a new you. You are becoming the kind of person you’ll eventually attract into your life.  You’re becoming more and more your True Self! Once you align with your True Self and take inspired action from that place, the possibilities are infinite!
We have the consciousness that we use during the day when we are awake, it is called the physical mind or the ego, we have a subconscious which we use to dream while sleeping, and we have the superciliary of the higher mind, which is somewhere called The Higher I. The supernatural mind or the higher is the connection of our mind or ego with the consciousness of our soul. The consciousness of our soul is above all. It is the source of the true, ie. objective consciousness which we can have, and which is obtained by the physical mind closed in the body and the senses through the Higher I.
I live without a car for several years but have access to a friend’s car a few days a week. I haven’t earned enough money to feel comfortable maintaining a car, so I’m not in the market. My friend finds a decent car that’s only $1200 and he’ll loan me the money to buy it, register and insure it. We agree to buy the car, but it’s not available until the current owner’s grandfather hands his car to his grandson. Three weeks pass. Six weeks. This isn’t happening.
So who is your Soulmate?  What does he or she look like? What are their qualities? What is it that makes them unique and attractive to you? For many of us, this journey towards our Soulmate begins by first experiencing what we do not want. Funny how life works, isn’t it? If you have been, or currently find yourself, in a relationship where you find that things are not flowing, it feels like it’s too much work, you argue and fight a lot, you don’t feel like you are compatible or complement each other, the passion is long gone, you constantly feel anxious about the relationship and you’re struggling to be happy, instead of feeling stronger, supported and inspired you feel weakened, or the person is in another relationship and not available to you, chances are that you’re not with your soulmate.
Great article, it’s so encouraging to see others having success using the LOA. It’s totally changed my life in the past 4 years. It took me from a single mom with not a penny to my name, to living my dream life, manifesting 2 vision boards. It’s a total life changer. I have lots of proof on my blog where i’ve posted each step of my journey. Keep up the good work!
I am so glad you found the post helpful. That is great that your faith in the ability to consciously create our reality is growing. As it does, you will see more and more ‘proof’, which will just reinforce that, setting of a wonderful cycle. Just always remember to be patient, and make your core focus feeling good about the work you are doing. Find content that resonates with you, and really focus on learning from those sources. That encounter with that person definitely shows you are moving towards what you want. Being able to truly be ourselves will make the process of attracting a relationship so much easier, you have no idea.
Let’s say you want to make an extra $50,000.00, $100,000.00, or even $1 million dollars more. Or let’s say that you want to release the weight that you don’t want on your body. Or let’s say that you want to find a soul mate that you’re not with right now. It’s not enough just to have the idea, desire or the goal. It’s not enough just to write it down. It’s not enough to have a vision board or to talk about it. What you have to understand is you have to get the conscious mind and the subconscious mind to line up in harmony with each other to create synchronicity and you have to impress it over and over again into the emotional subconscious mind so coherence is created between the two part of your brain.
What The Secret didn’t share is that activating the Law of Attraction requires more than inherent desire, an active imagination, and creating a vision board. Positive affirmations don’t work as a standalone. Meaning, a person who is broke isn’t going to manifest his or her rent by sitting around thinking positive thoughts alone. A person who is struggling with a health challenge may not overcome that challenge through positive thoughts by itself.

At the office, I wasn’t feeling like I was paid enough so I started focusing on a new executive position at another company. I wasn’t qualified enough, but I kept on reading about the job and picturing myself working at that company. I printed out their logo and taped it to my wall. Guess who got the job even though I wasn’t as qualified as the interviewees? That’s correct, I did.
A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”
Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.

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