If you approach money like a power source of its own, then by trying to manifest it, you’re really trying to overpower it, and in such a contest you’ll usually lose. That contest, however, is completely internal — and pretty much insane. It’s like trying to arm wrestle yourself. How can you win? It’s a false reality you’re projecting because you aren’t ready to fully wield your own power yet.
Hi Geoff! Thank you for your reply. I do understand the chapter is about getting an ex back. However, what I meant to ask is whether the same rule applies if the person you want to manifest a relationship with is someone you haven’t previously dated. You see I talk to him everyday and he often tends to talk about the girl he is with or unknowingly tells me how I mean a lot to him but only as a friend. And every time that happens I just can’t stop negative thoughts of fear and doubt cropping up in my mind, thus making it difficult for me to let go. So I want to know if I should maintain some distance, perhaps talk less often. The only issue here is that there isn’t really any problem between us. He knows I love him and we kind of sorted it out a couple of months back and have continued to be best friends. I don’t quite have a reason to suddenly cut down on talking to him and I am sure if I do that he would want to know why.
That was about the time my girlfriend Charise walked in the door with her arms full of Costco boxes. She’d thought of everything: diapers and formula for the girls, dinner for the next week, and even enough cash to keep the electricity and water on. That is the moment that has defined my #RelentlessPursuit. That is the moment I Hustle and grind for.
Perhaps you’ve heard some of the history on how I came to be the editor of EarlytoRise.com. I’ve mentioned bits and pieces of it in videos, other articles, while speaking at seminars, and in issues of Financial Independence Monthly. But I’ve never told the full story in one place, and yet for some reason, that’s exactly what I did in my dream on Friday night.
Another issue that really causes resistance in the realm of relationships is finding love is so incredibly important to us. We are really attached to this manifestation; we are terrified of being alone, and it never happening. It is hard to just sit back and relax, knowing the Universe has got this. We are constantly noticing our single status, and lamenting it.
Meditation can trigger heightened Alpha and Theta activity in the brain; states of mind often associated with creativity. Some forms of meditation also promote synchronization of the left and right hemispheres of the brain, another factor that has been identified in electroencephalograph (EEG) readings during moments of inspiration and during participation in creative activities. In a study conducted with 362 students in Taiwan to determine the effects of meditation on creativity, attention, IQ, and anxiety, the greatest improvement was observed in creativity.
Just in case I haven’t made my point clearly enough, the attraction process is all about how we feel, so it is really good to get into the feelings that lie behind our desires, as much as we can. Think about what sort of feelings you want in your relationship. Are you after a sense of ease in interacting with this person, without any drama? Do you want someone who shares your same passions and interests? Then, visualize yourself in these encounters.
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“Since your workshop on Finding Love I have ‘found’ my ideal relationship- but it was in a different way to how I thought! And it’s all from writing lists of appreciation about my current partner and my current life. I refused to dwell on what was annoying me about him… I also focused on how it would feel in my ideal relationship. And what happened was this: my existing relationship has transformed. I was about to leave so it’s particularly strange. I transformed my attitude- and he transformed. I haven’t settled; I’m deeper in love than I’ve ever been. A good tip to share is I left all the ‘how’s’ and ‘who’s’ to the Universe thanks to the Universe List and, as ever, the Universe delivers. I highly recommend your work- and that’s no small thing coming from a self-confessed ‘workshop junkie’.”
In many cases, the underlying issue, when it is broken down to its absolute core, is fear of some kind. Fear that people won’t think we are good enough. Fear of being vulnerable to someone. Fear of actually being happy—yeah, lots of people are actually afraid of that. We get so wrapped up in our crap and it becomes such a strong part of our identity, we may not actually know who we are without all the stories we tell ourselves. If you identify yourself as the perpetually single person, an asshole magnet or simply ‘unlucky’ in love, who are you without those labels?
“I was very focused on a particular person and wanting them to like me. Based on what I learnt at a Law of Attraction Centre workshop I decided to practice loving thoughts about what I liked about people rather than thinking about what they thought about me. I spent 15 minutes making a list of the Positive Aspects of a previous partner and the current person I liked. After this I realised that I had felt negative not because of how they did or didn’t feel about me but because I wasn’t thinking lovingly about them. And then guess what, they got in touch and the funny thing was when they did get in touch it was less important as I was already feeling good!”
Your experience is a common one with manifesting, regardless of the desire. We do all this work, inner and outer, we don’t get the results we want, we get super-pissed, say f$ck it, and give up. Then usually some good stuff comes in from the positive momentum that has been built up, now that the massive resistance has diminished. Now, while doing a lot of stuff that makes us feel badly, or taking a lot of action for a long time without results, usually leads us to a point where we surrender, it is not the best approach to take because it isn’t necessary. It’s not something you want to consciously do. You don’t want to force yourself into surrender. You can take action if you feel compelled, but just make sure it feels good, and you don’t get attached to those channels as being the way that person must come to you.
I recently released some resistance about finding the right guy. And I had this weird experience yesterday. I felt like maybe I could meet somebody yesterday when I went out with my friend. And I actually forgot about the fact that I thought about it. And I ran into somebody at a book store and he actually told me something that I didn’t expect and I didn’t know what to say so I couldn’t respond properly. I actually was with my friend who had strong opinion against something and I was afraid if she might not like me acting certain way. Anyway, so I actually wanted to talk to the guy more but for some reason, I couldn’t. But I discovered some limiting beliefs. I realized that I need to be myself even though I worry what my friend thinks about me. And if she doesn’t support me, maybe she’s not good for me even though I really care about her as a friend. The reason that I couldn’t be myself yesterday was because I cared so much about what my friend would think about me.
Martha says she noticed the law of attraction at work in an unlikely situation—while coaching homeless heroin addicts in Phoenix. Martha says they lived on the street because they couldn’t afford apartments. “Then, I found out they were spending an average of $180,000 a year on heroin,” she says. When Martha asked how they got the money for their addiction, she saw a change. “They would become completely different when they were talking about the one thing they believed was necessary. And as I’ve worked with them, I’ve seen that what they believe and expect is what they get.” (Martha Beck, author, life coach and O, the Oprah magazine columnist)
So, what changes can you make in your life right now that would make you feel better about your financial situation? Is your lack of a savings account gnawing at you? What could you do to start padding it a bit more? Are you using your credit cards a bit too liberally, when you should really be using cash? Do you have any expenses now that you can eliminate or reduce? Is it high time for a budget? Could you start cooking at home more rather than eating out five nights a week?
3) Follow your heart. If there’s something you feel inspired to do, do it. If there’s something you don’t want to do, don’t do it. You don’t have to kiss 100 frogs; you don’t have to go out to meet people, go on online dating sites, or do anything that does not feel right. If you are the kind of person who likes to stay at home, your soulmate could literally have a crash on your yard! It’s happened before. Only do what you want to do and feels right!
“I wanted to write in and thank you and share a testimonial about your work that may help others: I had tried it all- online dating, offline dating, blind dates- you name it. After doing your workshop about love a few years ago I realised that I was trying too hard to ‘make it happen’ out of fear that if I didn’t do anything, nothing would happen. But nothing was happening even with all my work- worse than nothing actually- a lot of pain and disappointment. The more I dated the more doubtful I became that I’d ever meet ‘the one’. So I threw myself into my work, writing every day on the Universe List to ‘Bring me my husband in the perfect time’ and ‘bring me more interests’. I also started doing a daily appreciation list and got involved in some new projects to distract me from my dating obsession.
When you get into these feelings now, you will make the very helpful realization money is not the end all be all to your happiness—sure, it gives us more options and more freedom, and it surely can reduce stress. But as the ultimate key to happiness, no way. Nothing outside of us, including money, can ever make us truly happy. When I went from that dire money situation to being flush with cash, my stress alleviated considerably, and I did feel a hell of a lot better. But, if I had to assess its impact on my level of true happiness, it really didn’t do much for that.
Hello Kelli! I just came across your blog and it’s perfect timing! I’ve set my intention of meeting my soul mate recently, tried to work on limiting beliefs and all that. Yesterday, I joined some meet-up and met some good people. But I was so disappointed about the fact that the guy who I was a bit attracted to didn’t seem interested in me and ask me out. Even though he was not the exact type that I wanted but I started thinking like ‘maybe I’m not attractive enough..’ The very next day, I came across your blog and I’m very grateful for that.
Hi I purchased this book after a REALLY bad breakup a couple years ago. If i told u what happened, you would have thought yeah it's over. We both live in completely different states. Looking at him you would think he has alllll these women on top of him n have moved on. I NEVER contacted him. This book WORKS n have set me on the path to learning how to use law of attraction to put my life back together. Just a few words of advice: this book works when you do everything in it n you LET GO. it took forever to work because i had the hardest time letting go. the VERY moment i let go (ex. when i just started throwing his pictures away) n just genuinely ok and happy with my life as it is n if he didn't come back that i was a-OK is WHEN he came right back on his own. A next word of advice: you have to stop looking at what is going on in front of you, even it it denies the very thing u want. you have to live FROM the invisible, but REAL world of having him back already. thirdly: it doesn't matter if they are seeing someone else because everything is energy and your raised vibration can switch things around so much that the person they may be seeing is swiftly taken out of the picture in a peaceful manner. Mind you, we hadn't spoken since the middle of 2013 and he came back the beginning of 2015. Still, since seeing my power in willing romantic relationship with him, i have now turned my attention to someone else because seeing this work is pretty amazing; it's effortless. this book is a gold mine because it's your secret weapon in life. give a chance. u have absolutely nothing to lose.
January we got together..we’re best friends too…everything was going PERFECT…then my beliefs mess up with me… I started with feelings like: ” Oh no, it’s too good to be real, she for real doesn.t like me, I’m not good enough, she’ll find someone better, etc” . I started to be so jealous…and everytime I was saying that I needed a break, space from her..but I didn’t know how… because I needed to change my vibes and get self confident again… So, the Universe gave me this break, when We had a discussion a month ago. She asked me a break.
Hey Phil, my friend Claire sent this over after seeing me last night for the first time in months. I have been obsessively working on a project / startup to use rock climbing and adventure to help at-risk kids in the slums of Brazil. Check out our video if you are interested (www.indiegogo.com/adventureforgood) but that project is really not the focus. What I found is that although I love what I am doing and believe in it completely, I have been stressed out of my mind and without realizing it, I have been manifesting this stress into all aspects of my life and sometimes into the energy of my campaign. Reading your blog I was reminded of how important it is to manifest not only what you want but also how you want to feel. That energy is so important and certainly dictates how people feel around you. I have been bringing my computer to bed and stressing out over emails until I fall asleep… NOT healthy. This post really helped me reflect on practicing not only the law of attraction but the law of ‘feeling good’. Hope to bump into you around Boulder Phil.
The first thing to do when you feel that there is room for more love in your life is to fill your thoughts and actions with nothing but absolute love. By flooding your mind with feelings of positivity and love for yourself and those around you, your ability to love and be loved back can shine through to others. Here are some visualization exercises for love that you can consider too.
“I don’t see it manifesting” is where you’re going wrong. You’re focusing on what you see around you. Stop looking at your reality like it is and start seeing it how you want to be. So long as you focus on your reality, your thoughts are filled with your current reality, and that’s what you are creating – more evidence of not being with him. Simply put, you are not at one with your desire. You have to change your thoughts. You need to be able to relax and let go. You need to make sure you aren’t obsessing over things and trying to control the situation. You need to focus on raising your vibrational energy and doing things that make you feel joyful. This article on resistance might help you get clearer so you can attract a specific person.
As for manifestations that involve another person, you probably don’t want to put too much focus on that because we can’t create in another person’s reality. No matter what we do with our energy, it can’t ‘translate’ to someone else and make them do anything. Now, this isn’t to say that you can’t ever get back together with this person, as that may possibly be the best representation of the energy and feelings that you are trying to attract into your life–remember that no matter what we want, we are always after a feeling. What also happens sometimes is when we make changes in our own energy, we line up with different ‘versions’ of people, even if they have fundamentally stayed the same, and this can make it easier to get along with them,etc…
3. When I wasn’t working in the restaurant in Tel Aviv I would stay with my Israeli boyfri end. He would work and I would stay home with his mother and grandmother, neither of whom could speak English. With no English conversation, TV or books I would go a little stir crazy waiting for my boyfriend to return at 6:30pm. So I decided to try another test. This time I repeated ‘Ofer is home at 5:00pm. Another unheard of situation. Still, this was a test. Let’s see what happens. Low and behold, 5:00pm on the dot he pulls into the driveway!!
Step 1: Essentially, you need to make the decision that you really want to attract this life partner. Then, truly commit to the idea of spending the rest of your life with this person. Making this commitment may involve processing old wounds (e.g. via journaling or therapy). Hopefully, the past can be left behind and you can opt to embrace hope instead of fear.
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