If you are really struggling with relationships, there is something happening deep inside that is creating the outcomes you keep experiencing. You are getting something you want, you are protecting yourself from something you fear. You have some sort of image of yourself that deems you unworthy of love. Again, this may not vibe with your conscious mind, that is in a constant state of wanting happiness and good things. You are not cursed. You are not some horrible person that only deserves douches. You have the power to change this, if you are willing to do the inner work and take responsibility. And by responsibility, I don’t mean blame. Two very different energies there. One empowers us, and the other keeps us feeling terrible.
4) Making Room for Love. I want you to be honest and answer this question:  As your life is today, do you have the time and energy for a deep, loving, healthy relationship?  Do you have room in your life for your Soulmate? Perhaps, since you’ve been single you’ve been working late hours, and have very little free time to go out on dates.  Or perhaps you’ve been accumulating a few “friends with benefits” who are keeping you sexually satisfied.  Or perhaps you’re so focused on helping others that you leave no room for yourself.
If you’d like to join me on this experiment, please Contact Me Directly. When there’s sufficient interest, we can create a “Master Mind” group of sorts and keep each other motivated and on track. I will announce the findings and results in my newsletter too – so if you’re not yet subscribed, scroll down to the bottom of the page and sign up. It’s totally free. The more of us who commit to try this, the more likely we all are to succeed.
You can be happy now, and by doing this work, you are re-creating your world and embracing your capacity to Love. You are growing yourself into a new you. You are becoming the kind of person you’ll eventually attract into your life.  You’re becoming more and more your True Self! Once you align with your True Self and take inspired action from that place, the possibilities are infinite!

And that means, at least to me, that for some reason, it was meant for this story to be told to you today. Maybe there’s one ETR reader out there that this is specifically for. Maybe that one person is waiting for this exact blueprint to go and change their lives and they’ll get great inspiration and wisdom from my journey. I don’t know, but I hope so, and I hope it helps you. The world works in mysterious ways. So here goes…
"I have been a single mother for seven years, and during that time I have had a few disastrous relationships. I have always wanted a very close and special relationship but couldn't find it. I had my heart broken a couple of times, but instead of giving up, I stated exactly what I wanted my man to be like. I said to my sister, "I just want to meet someone who is..." and I wrote down who my perfect partner and relationship was. I then let it go, with absolute faith that one day I would meet him. Two weeks later, I did. We have already planned to move in together and have a baby soon after my next manifestation. I am thankful every day that I discovered The Law Of Attraction, as it has truly changed my world."
There’s no doubt whatsoever, that when my daughter decides she’s going to be a princess, she doesn’t say she’s going to pretend to be a princess or to do princess things. She says, “I’m going to BE a princess,” and she does precisely that. She believes it with every fiber of her being. She’s a princess. You point to a chair or the table and say, “Is that a princess castle?” The answer is “Absolutely it’s a princess castle!”

“I’ve got something to report since your incredible Finding Love workshop: After writing my requests on the Universe List – which I love – firstly, I bumped into several of my exes, and the encounters showed me I was over them. Then I started to attract seeing loving couples in the media. Following this, I ‘caught eyes’ with someone on the bus who seemed to like me, but rather than panic and rush and give him my number, I relaxed into the thought of perfect timing. Just yesterday someone new started at work and I can feel a real connection with him. The amazing news is that none of this kind of excitement or interest has happened to me in years, and it’s all clearly directly due to the techniques you taught me and I applied. It’s only been about a week since your workshop and this is a great sign of things to come. Best of all I don’t feel ‘needy’, I feel relaxed in my worthiness and confidence… For the first time, I feel like quite a catch!”

This step is important because those competing signals can be quite strong. Weaken the signal or change the direction of those thoughts like this: Approach those feelings with the love and compassion that you would feel towards a lonely, small child or a hurt animal. When you love yourself, you open up the possibility to receive your greatest desires, and you begin to only desire the things that are best for you.


As I’ve mentioned a few times before, I learned some time back that no one was responsible for my happiness but me. When I look at the big scheme of things, I’ve got it great. I may not have much but everything I have I own. I’ve struggled from time to time with money issues too since coming online not sure if I could make my bills but I always did. So I know that it’s not the end of the world if I’m late with a payment, although I rarely am. I’m obsessed with everything being on time. LOL!!!
2) Open to the mystery of life. You have no idea when or where that special person could walk into your life.  He or she could be someone you already know or met in the past.  They could be someone you’ll be meeting on your next business trip or vacation.  They could also be your next date’s brother or sister!  Your next Facebook friend or Twitter follower.  They could be someone you’ll be meeting at a coffee shop or at the train station while you wait for the next train.  The key here is to surrender all pre-conceived ideas and drop all your expectations of how, and with whom it is to happen and continue to focus on ‘what’ you want by being fully available and present in each and every moment. Don’t worry about the how! Say ‘Yes’ to your soulmate, and open to the mystery of life!
A wish box is an interesting approach. I had done something similar years ago. I created a box, colored it pink and then put in it all the words and a picture of a person I wanted to meet. I put the box away and didn’t think about it much. About six months or so later, I met a guy that looked so similar to the one I wanted to meet, it was scary! A bell definitely went off.
So, what changes can you make in your life right now that would make you feel better about your financial situation? Is your lack of a savings account gnawing at you? What could you do to start padding it a bit more? Are you using your credit cards a bit too liberally, when you should really be using cash? Do you have any expenses now that you can eliminate or reduce? Is it high time for a budget? Could you start cooking at home more rather than eating out five nights a week? 
So who is your Soulmate?  What does he or she look like? What are their qualities? What is it that makes them unique and attractive to you? For many of us, this journey towards our Soulmate begins by first experiencing what we do not want. Funny how life works, isn’t it? If you have been, or currently find yourself, in a relationship where you find that things are not flowing, it feels like it’s too much work, you argue and fight a lot, you don’t feel like you are compatible or complement each other, the passion is long gone, you constantly feel anxious about the relationship and you’re struggling to be happy, instead of feeling stronger, supported and inspired you feel weakened, or the person is in another relationship and not available to you, chances are that you’re not with your soulmate.
“What I most love about this work is how Life sorts everything out once you step out of the way. I sent out a request for a new partner and more fun and, realising I had been trying so hard to get these things to happen (online dating, speed dating, blind dates, dating clubs, looking for men in supermarkets with no success at all, I gave up and handed it over to Life on the Universe List . What really helped me, too was throwing myself into sports. I realised my previous hobby had been ‘looking for a boyfriend’ and I needed a new one. This request to ‘bring me an enjoyable hobby where I can meet likeminded friends’ again went on the Universe List . I was drawn to join a local swimming club and a running club and started doing these activities three times a week. It felt good to me to know that not only did running and swimming feel good, but as I was participating, ‘my team’ (as I call the Universe) was sorting out my relationship behind-the-scenes. I started to relax about the relationship subject, feeling less desperate. And in a short time, I have met some great men through the groups and one of them is very close to my ideal – I’ll let you know how it goes.”
But again, theory, and real world application, are quite different, because of that good old resistance. Just wanting a great relationship isn't enough if you have a lot of blocks around allowing one in. You have to believe you can truly have one. When you think about meeting that perfect person for you, and it doesn't feel good, you have to examine that.
Just like the good old tracks that the sled follows down the mountain. And so we tell the same old story, over and over, about why we have our childhood wounds, and about how bad our previous relationship was, how we got dumped, how we’re not being loved the way we want to be, how unequal this relationship is, how we have these abandonment issues, how they cheated on us, how we’re too old to find love, too fat, too skinny, too white, too black, too gay, too straight, too poor, too rich, too unstable, too unreliable, afraid of commitment, too demanding… Blah, blah, blah. PLEASE STOP! The more you tell the same old story, the more you’re perpetuating it in your experience and the more you’re blocking love from coming into your life. Why?  Because you keep focusing on it.
When it comes to what draws people to give this whole law of attraction thing a whirl, I would have to say finding a relationship is right up there near the top, along with getting more of that sweet, sweet cash. And people seem to really struggle in the love department. But manifesting a relationship is not any different than manifesting anything else, in theory.
Life can be very challenging for most of us.  You’re going to have good days, and you’re going to have not so good days.  In fact, many things are going to be out of your control and it’s great to recognize that you’re not always going to be on the top of your game.  Therefore, you need to have some sort of support system in your life so that you can show up fully, especially once you meet your Soulmate. Why? Because bringing all of life’s challenges into one relationship, especially with your romantic partner, will place a very heavy burden on your relationship, not to mention draining the sexual and creative energy from it.  You cannot have that! You need to enlist the support of others and create your own group of amazing, challenging, and supportive friends.
Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.
To add, he has been saying he has “something in the works” and I asked what he meant and he said it was a surprise but that is has to do with he and I and our love and that he knows it’s going to make me extremely happy. He never does anything for me, or buys me things so I’m having a hard time trying to imagine what this could be. I’m deep down hoping that maybe he could be talking about proposing to me. He said I should expect this “surprise” in one to two weeks. Is it possible for me to use the Law of Attraction to make this actually be a proposal?
Am new here and I start knownig about the law of attraction 3 month ago.. actually my case is a little complicated.. lets get straight the topic.. since my childhood i was a good looking guy that girls are atrected to .. in my adolescence i felt in love for the first time when i was 17.. but the frustrating thing is after 17 years .. my face has changed .. and i mean it really! am not handsome anymore .. even i dont wanna say am ugly but people make fun of me .. like am disfigured 🙁 .. since that moment I hate myself so much its like its not me .. this not my real face .. mutation!! and i hate myself more coz i felt so unworthy to be loved .. am now 25 year old and still struggle to live a normal life .. I cant live happy if am not in a love relation coz that first relation makes me live in wonderland.. I knew a girl 4 month ago via facebook .. i can see we both attracted to each others . and I think I love her.. she want to meet me in real life but am so scared so scared to get rejected coz i know am ugly somehow .. so please help elizabeth tell me what should I do .. she didnt said she love me but I know that she miss me all the time and think about me .. am really tired of being so scared to be rejected
I’d been with this man half my life, since we were sixteen years old. We had an eight-year marriage and shared three beautiful children, including twin girls just over a year old. We’d been through it all: buying our first home, then losing it in foreclosure; being overjoyed when I got pregnant with our second child, then devastated when I lost it six months into my pregnancy. I thought we’d seen everything, but this I never saw coming. 

So who is your Soulmate?  What does he or she look like? What are their qualities? What is it that makes them unique and attractive to you? For many of us, this journey towards our Soulmate begins by first experiencing what we do not want. Funny how life works, isn’t it? If you have been, or currently find yourself, in a relationship where you find that things are not flowing, it feels like it’s too much work, you argue and fight a lot, you don’t feel like you are compatible or complement each other, the passion is long gone, you constantly feel anxious about the relationship and you’re struggling to be happy, instead of feeling stronger, supported and inspired you feel weakened, or the person is in another relationship and not available to you, chances are that you’re not with your soulmate.
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Your experience is a common one with manifesting, regardless of the desire. We do all this work, inner and outer, we don’t get the results we want, we get super-pissed, say f$ck it, and give up. Then usually some good stuff comes in from the positive momentum that has been built up, now that the massive resistance has diminished. Now, while doing a lot of stuff that makes us feel badly, or taking a lot of action for a long time without results, usually leads us to a point where we surrender, it is not the best approach to take because it isn’t necessary. It’s not something you want to consciously do. You don’t want to force yourself into surrender. You can take action if you feel compelled, but just make sure it feels good, and you don’t get attached to those channels as being the way that person must come to you.

My book Hustle Believe Receive  is how I went from a newly single mom with nothing, relying on state aid to survive, to an executive of a software company in just eighteen months. It’s the story of how I manifested four vision boards in six years, and completely changed not only my life but my children’s. It’s how I went from living in a “poor me” world, to being a take-charge-of-my-future badass. It’s the tale of how I learned to dream HUGE and what it felt like to live out those dreams quicker, and bigger than I’d ever imagined, often without spending a dime of my own money! It’s how I learned to work smarter and not harder.  It’s how I Changed my Crew. And it’s the story of how, for the first time in my life I learned to truly be grateful, live a “pinch-me moment” kinda life, and how I found my joy. 

“Thank you for sharing the Abundance Game at the ‘Opening to Abundance’ workshop. I have been doing it every day for a few months now and I have noticed that a lot of things that I write on it have come to me – I’m definitely going to keep doing it. The positive experiences have included receiving a booking from a new client out of the blue for £2,000 and being bought a wonderful holiday away with my family.”
For example, these negative beliefs are like big holes in your container. Take a container and fill it with water. Water will not stay in the container if it has holes in it. The negative beliefs are like those holes in your container of prosperity. The more holes the less you can have. Unfortunately for many people, their container has nothing to hold at the bottom, forget about the holes.
I am not criticizing the LOA, I am in deep search of the true principle. I am even exploring it to it’s origins to try and see where it came from and who was REALLY successful with it. And unfortunately it comes down to the fact that the richest people from the LOA are the people who sell the theory. I don’t believe in Rhonda neither in any participants to THE SECRET. The only people whose theories I still believe in are Wallace Wattles and Florence Scovell-Shinn.

Then something strange happened. Someone at work who I thought was a really good person confided in me about a problem he had – and he had done exactly what my partner had done and was suffering because of it. It was uncanny how similar it was to my situation, but here I was hearing the ‘other side’. At first it was difficult because I had my own judgement, but as I listened to him, I started to understand what my partner was going through – something I had never thought of before. For all this time I had seen him as a really horrible person out to get me, but I felt myself soften as I heard my colleague’s story. I started to see it from his point of view, which was so similar to my ex partner’s. Like a miracle, new insights and this relaxed sense of forgiveness washed over me. This was the answer I had asked for. I can honestly say I have let go of this situation that had been taking over my life and I feel great. This Universe List process is powerful!”
While planning can help you to expect your outcome, if you can’t actually see it coming to pass in your mind, there’s no way it’s going to occur. If you can consider that everything in your life, whether or not you want it or not, was once a figment of your imagination, you’ll realize that you hold the power to turn your dreams into reality. This is real and its exact and it’s specifically how some of the most famous people in the world achieved success.
Second, I’ve been working on getting friendly with money for years. I know that when I feel frustrated about money, it has to reflect my frustration. When I’m scared about money, it matches that vibe, too. Whatever I’m feeling is what it has to show me. So I’ve been working on getting friendly with it for a while now. That part didn’t happen in ten days.
Simply put, money is just a story that someone invented and that took hold. It was decided, that some particular shape of coin, or inlaid metallic object, and piece of paper was worth more than the material it represented. This started out as a thought in someone’s mind. That thought is now commonplace. We now expect that a piece of paper with a certain number on it, with a specific color and other identifying elements, is worth something more than the paper it’s printed on.

Meditation, even on its most basic level, allows the mind to quiet which allows your natural frequency to rise as your mind is taken off of anything that may have been bothering you. Relaxation techniques used for meditation calm both your mind and your body, allowing you to feel more well-being, and when you’re set up for manifesting from a place of general pleasure and piece of mind, the results of that manifestation simply can’t turn bad.
But, once you start seeing your external experience is a mirror of what you feel and believe, you will make the amazing realization that changing your internal world will change what you bring into your life. If you don’t believe you have to settle or compromise, you won’t. If you believe you will find the right person, you will. If you know you don’t have to end up alone, you won’t. Sound too simplistic? Is the skeptical part of you being activated and resisting this? Are you thinking of all your experiences that have ‘proved’ your current set of beliefs, beyond a shadow of a doubt, and saying to yourself that I don’t know what the hell I am talking about? But, this is really all there is to it.Life is so much easier than we make it out to be.
Let’s say you want to make an extra $50,000.00, $100,000.00, or even $1 million dollars more. Or let’s say that you want to release the weight that you don’t want on your body. Or let’s say that you want to find a soul mate that you’re not with right now. It’s not enough just to have the idea, desire or the goal. It’s not enough just to write it down. It’s not enough to have a vision board or to talk about it. What you have to understand is you have to get the conscious mind and the subconscious mind to line up in harmony with each other to create synchronicity and you have to impress it over and over again into the emotional subconscious mind so coherence is created between the two part of your brain.
It brings you back to when your soul was created and you get a glimpse of divine soul love inside of you and now your soul journey begins. The exchange allows each other to love each other with infinite love that has no limits of what is going on in the depth of soul love. Your soul know who your twin is by their resonance vibration in your soul for you are them. Inner part I becomes WE as one unit and it is a sacred divine appointment when you meet ordained by God. When the I becomes We the two feel enormous love and a sacred resonation of happiness. It ignites love that is permanent and everlasting as you let go of ego and both agree to commit to soul love. Get out of the runner and chaser modalities. Your soul deep inside knows your twin anyhow you may not feel it physically in 3D. Accept self as a soul for love is w/in the soul as TF’s merge into Divine Love and Marriage and connect and reunite as ONE. There is a precious sacred love in your connection together from the soul. It creates a strong bond as the soul’s light comes into you and sometimes your dont know what is going on for it is so strong and something you are not use to in a 3d relationship. Your twin allows you to unite as Divine beings on your journey of truth. A union with God as One shows compassion and knows the way from your heart. We abandon what we know about 3d relationships and work toward Divine soul union in uniting as ONE in love and light. TF has high level of a strong intimate and bonding connection. It is a soul connection and not sex connection. You are put together from deep soul love in union with God joined as ONE. Magic happens for the soul love between TF’s because Divine Love is so powerful and takes blind faith to be together which is your final trust in life.
Now if a little voice tells you that you won’t get what you want to get by imposing the LOA principles to it, it doesn’t mean you have bad thoughts, it might just be you subconscious who knows what is written in your destiny and knows this is not something for you to get. There again: read Florence’s book, there are good examples as how to deal with this. Like lets say you want to meet a girl. With the LOA you’d start shaping her: I want her to be blond, tall thin, nice College graduate etc… And your little voice would tell you: “this is never going to happen”. Well it might be true it will never happen. But if like Florence you’d say: “I want to me the perfect girl, the one which is mine by divine selection”. Well there you might attract her and not have that little conflicting voice show up. Because you are not imposing your will but just calling on what is in store for you.
When it comes to interest in law of attraction, I would have to say the two things people are most trying to get is love or money, perhaps both at the same time. Relationships can be a tricky area of manifestation, not because it is inherently harder to attract them than other things, but because of all the ‘stuff’ we have built up over the years that lays heavy in our vibration. We have all sorts of beliefs that tell us we aren’t good enough. Our past failed romantic endeavors are etched into our minds, and we are convinced we can’t experience anything different. We worry we will never meet someone, or that we will have to settle for less than what we want.We stay in relationships that we know aren’t right for fear we won’t find something better.
You can tell if your affirmation is positive or negative by the way it makes you feel. If it makes you feel great, it is positive. If it makes you feel bad, it is negative. It's that simple. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, simply turn them around and start focusing on the positive. You will immediately feel better and you will be in alignment with love.
4) Shine your unique light.  Be willing to, more than ever, be yourself with every person that you meet, and in every situation – no matter how casual the encounter might seem.  As Andy Warhol used to say, “Be yourself because everyone else is already taken.”  The more you are yourself, the faster your soulmate will recognize you. Remember: they are also looking for someone unique just like you, so when you stop being your true self, you’re also stopping them from recognizing you!
First, lots of people mistakenly focus just on their thoughts, all the while feeling like crap, and then get disappointed when they don’t seem to be making any progress. While thoughts are certainly an important part of the equation, we attract based on what we feel, and if we don’t feel good, all the affirmations and happy thoughts in the world won’t do jack unless we manage to build some momentum on the level of emotion.
Coins may be found on the ground while you’re walking around. Bills will sometimes be found on the ground too. Larger sums may manifest in the form of exchanges, business deals, inheritances, inspired action, and other ways. Assume that those larger sums are right in front of your face, staring at you and screaming at you to notice them. You just have to tune your vibe to the right frequency to pick them up.
It is powerful tool, if your thoughts. It is really tricky sometimes. Old habits usually steps in and refuse to step aside. I started with the secret. My mother gave it to me and said: i bought this book but i think you need it better. I was at a negative place in my life at that moment. After reading that bought all the other books too watch the film, but i felt like something was missing. I asked for help to understand better. The Universe answered and when i was at the bookstore the book Ask and its given by Esther and Jerry Hicks caught my attention. I wanted more information since it clearly wasn’t working for me. I stubbled over Kevin Traudeau and i listened to all of the cds. At first i helt so happy but then i descovered that it was a scam. I felt betrayed( i later understand that a lot of what he talked about is true). Diving deeper in to the teaching of Abraham. Joining groups on Facebook. Reading about Laws of Attraction everywhere i could find it. Using affirmations, meditation, writing down 5-10 things everyday that i am grateful for, thanking the Universe for all little things everyday, feeling powerful, loving myself, clearing out all bad thinking about money, reprogramming thoughts… i done it all. I did manage to manifest a computer and a neighbor that i disliked moved away and little things…but the things i really really want is more difficult to attract. So i will keep on doing what i do because i know Everything will work out for me, because i have the best team of Universal forces at my back.
I read some people suggesting to visualize how money are falling from the sky to you. I literally read this on a blog post few days ago… I can’t resist but laugh and ask myself, what the heck? I mean, that’s crap! Money doesn’t fall from the sky! You’ve got to see and feel the money as if it was real. See yourself doing the things that will bring the money to you, and this is unique to your own situation, I don’t know what you do in life, and remember, you’ll have to step into action to see the results!
I’ve been studying LoA for a few years now and have read countless books on the matter. To me, Napoleon Hill’s book was by far the best because it wasn’t just full of platitudes, it actually gave me some actionable items and did tell me that a certain amount of work was involved. This was important to me because I have a core belief (right or wrong) that you can’t get something for nothing. With that said, even with all the research I have done, and the belief that LoA exists, I have yet to experience any positive outcomes from using any of the techniques. Doing yet more research, I have come to the conclusion that there are two things that I am doing wrong, or more concisely, unable to achieve. The first being that I can not seem to attach a feeling to a desire. Try as I may, there remains some disconnect somewhere. Second, I have a lot of negative self talk and some negative core beliefs (both of which I am working to change… more research). I believe that these two things sabotage any attempt by me to manifest things. As I am practicing LoA, the little voice in my head (my Ego) will tell me that I am being foolish, or that “this doesn’t work”, etc. I tell it to shut up but it never does and introduces doubt every time. This actually brings up a third problem. Unwavering faith. You mentioned faith to get you back on track. Where do you find this? How do you develop it? Do you have any suggestions on any of these issues? Any help is greatly appreciated. Thank you.
Living “as if” can be a powerful way to help yourself to manifest love. What this means is that you should try to live every day not as though you’re looking for love but as though you’ve already found it! Embrace self-love and dress as you would if you were spending time with your partner. Try to make space for them in your home. See yourself as a person with a loving soulmate and a bright future, and make plans accordingly.

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