Thank you for that piece of advice-should I remain in a constant state of “as if” with no attentiin on what is? Or should I focus in what I want, relax, and accept what is? Normally I focus in meditation on my intentions, relax, and allow my manifestations to occur—but, normally I am also not as Concerned about what I want to manifest. Should I be doing it differently?
9) Finally, learn to fall in love with yourself fully. The more you learn to fully love and accept yourself, the more you’ll learn to recognize other peoples’ love, too. Begin by loving yourself and accepting yourself just the way you are, with all your quirks and idiosyncrasies (and we all have them). Work on accepting your weaknesses, your strengths, your limitations, your guilt and insecurities as part of your make-up.
When we don’t treat ourselves well, that is a sign of low self-esteem; it sends a message we are not ‘worthy’ of love and care. And guess what will be reflected back into your reality? Taking better care of yourself, and treating yourself with the respect and love you deserve, will help shore up beliefs that say ‘I am good enough.’ ‘I deserve someone who treats me well.’
Things happen to me all of the time similar such as I will be thinking about a person who I need to text and catch up with and will receive a text a day later. Its amazing. The since of how everything is energy on this planet and thoughts create vibrations is really neat stuff, I think this is a great foundational thing for young people to try and understand and focus on.
2. Focus on the positive. Let go of all your negative thoughts….such as “it's hard to find anyone,” “why don't they see how good I am,” and “no one will ever love me.” You have a lot of great qualities that make you so worthy of anyone's love and attention. Others do notice you and appreciate you. There is love all around you. Let it in. When you let it in and focus on the positive, you change your vibration and open a door for the Law of Attraction for love to bring you your specific person.
That night, I laid on the cold hardwood floor in our living room, my hair matted to the side of my head with tears that had finally run dry from my own dehydration. The only thought that floated in my semi-conscious brain was, “How the hell can I do this?” I’d tried so hard to think of a plan, anything, but nothing came, except that question over and over again. It seemed completely impossible. Yet somehow in that moment survival mode also kicked in, and with it came even more questions. Of course we’d have to move right away, but where? I didn’t have family who could take us in. And we’d need to sell everything we owned, but how? And I’d need a job, but doing what? And how could I afford to work when daycare would take up most of my salary?
“One simple and fun way in which I trust the Universe is using random play on my iPod- and I’m not joking. I find that the Universe’s choice of music (or spoken inspirational recordings) is always far more apt than my choice. And so since hearing about Esther and Jerry Hick’s (the Teachings of Abraham) relationship beginnings, and how they were clearly brought together (and when they compared histories, they realised they were in so many states and cities at the same time- showing that the Universe was constantly attempting to bring them together without their effort), I decided to apply this same idea of trusting the Universe for my relationship. And so I did processes. Within days of absolutely giving up on trying (which meant giving up on whenever I went out with friends immediately scanning the room for potential partners, thinking about my soul mate many times during the day and other forms of searching, despite telling myself and all my friends I was perfectly happy being single and letting it all unfold naturally!), I walked into a cafe I had been in so many times and immediately, naturally found myself within a conversation with one of the staff I had seen but never spoken to. We talked, exchanged telephone numbers… and who knows?! And who cares. Because for the first time I won’t be checking my phone every 5 minutes- I honestly don’t care if he calls or not- the fact is, I now understand that my ‘figuring it out’ way doesn’t work – the Universe knows better than I do. This is the first time I’ve exchanged numbers with anyone significant in about 6 months. And all from a couple of days of truly surrendering! And before the day was over, I was surprisingly contacted by someone I used to really like and then met another very eligible man.”
“I wasn’t able to get myself into a place to find love until I attended your workshop; and then I realised I had been trying too hard – but recently I met someone and although it’s new, it feels different to any relationship I’ve experienced before. I can totally put it down to the moment I stopped searching and needing someone; I started fully participating in my life instead of longing for it to be better. I had fun with the Focusing Process and I really ‘got’ Meditation and deep breathing, finally. It wasn’t instant – but trying out the different techniques and finding a way that worked for me was how it happened. I’ve known about the Law of Attraction for about two years and there were times when I wasn’t sure if it was working or if I was doing something wrong – but now I know that although it can take some time, it absolutely works. Thank you for the support when I needed it most.”
Additional to reading your very helpful posts I used to do the Soul Call Guided Meditation every now and then like you suggested in this post. It helped me keep my heart open and believing in the magic of everything that can be, it made me downright excited and tingly in my heart about the future. Unfortunately it is not available anymore so I wanted to ask if it is somehow possible to have access to it again? I tried a lot of other meditations but never got even a similar feeling afterwards.
As for manifestations that involve another person, you probably don’t want to put too much focus on that because we can’t create in another person’s reality. No matter what we do with our energy, it can’t ‘translate’ to someone else and make them do anything. Now, this isn’t to say that you can’t ever get back together with this person, as that may possibly be the best representation of the energy and feelings that you are trying to attract into your life–remember that no matter what we want, we are always after a feeling. What also happens sometimes is when we make changes in our own energy, we line up with different ‘versions’ of people, even if they have fundamentally stayed the same, and this can make it easier to get along with them,etc…
The best way to raise your money vibration is to rejoice in others good fortune. Whether the person is someone close to you, or a random person or a celebrity whose life you have seen on TV or the internet. Don’t try to find the negative reasons for their money, don’t try to justify why they have the fortune and not you. Or don’t feel bad that you don’t have the same.
“Over the last fifteen years, I’d read so many books about relationships; how to find my ‘soulmate’ or ‘the one’- and many other books like these. I even spent several thousand pounds on a few courses which advertised that they were going to tell me how to get my partner. But nothing worked, and with every new course I felt even worse and more defeated. When I discovered The Law of Attraction Centre, you made me realise that nothing would change until I changed. Although this sounds obvious, the way you said it meant I ‘got it’ on a deep level- and I signed up that day to your coaching. My initial thought was doubt: “How is this going to be different when nothing else has worked?”- and you seemingly read my mind (or maybe you’ve seen this time and time again), when you told me to follow the process and I would discover answers myself. I read the Success Stories archive over and over whenever I was feeling doubtful (which I was, I have to admit, many times in the early days)- and continued with my practice. Fast forward several months: My love life shifted in a way that was so dramatic it just had to be your work- I became ‘popular’ rather than totally invisible- that’s the best way I can describe it- and although I’m not sure if my boyfriend is ‘the one’ – the fact that I’m enjoying a real, fulfilling relationship for the first time in my life is a miracle in itself. Actually, the idea I’m not so desperate to force him to be ‘the one’ is probably a sign at how much I’ve changed: It was my neediness and desperation that was ruining my life more than anything else- which the ‘love search’ courses and books were just making even worse. I’m so grateful I found you and I’m now excited, rather than worried, at what the future will bring.”
This brings us to something you need to completly avoid. If you have ever thought or said “I would be happier if I could find my other-half” you are noticing what you don’t have and guess how the law of attraction will respond? With more of the same! Remember that any thoughts of negation can only bring more of that same situation into your life. This is no different when applying the law of attraction to love and relationships.
OMG Elizabeth, you just hit me bang on. I didnt even know i was thinking this negative all over. Thank you so much. But can you please help me with a list of to-do things or steps i must do to change my vibrations and feelings in my situation. As of now, i think of our past days when me and this girl were good friends and we used to laugh, talk, do everything. However, i am not able to “let go” which is vital for the Law of Attraction to work. I have read many articles and books but i am not able to customize it in my situation. Thanks in advance. Trust me you are doing a great job. 😀
YES I am a big believer of the law of attraction. It is real and everybody can do that only when they believe it. The Universe is so generous and execute the law of abundance. I remembered 14 years ago I was single and desperate. I was 38 years old and a shy person. I said to myself how can I order a husband form the universe, I did not have a lot of friend and introvert. But one night I awake and said must do something. I wrote down the qualifications I waned from the man, my soul mate – and I call myself the rule girl and play with my rule. And that’s how I search from the internet the love of my live. The law of attraction means you are purposely attract what you want. The law of attraction requires your active participation, EFFORT, EFFORT EFFORT and not passively dreaming and do not do anything. Do your part. I keep writing until then I found the man of my love I would say meet my specification, tall, engineer, smart, trustworthy, simple, and so forth and so forth. Now I am in USA. If I did now attract the one I wish I will be still single, lonely and sad. I moved from JAKARTA to CHICAGO. well people may say too good to be true but it work, it work and it still continue to work. Now I keep ordering from the UNIVERSE. The universe is waiting for you, there is no end because the universe is and endless place for those who believe with the law. NOW dear friends makes your order.
Hi Geoff! Thank you for your reply. I do understand the chapter is about getting an ex back. However, what I meant to ask is whether the same rule applies if the person you want to manifest a relationship with is someone you haven’t previously dated. You see I talk to him everyday and he often tends to talk about the girl he is with or unknowingly tells me how I mean a lot to him but only as a friend. And every time that happens I just can’t stop negative thoughts of fear and doubt cropping up in my mind, thus making it difficult for me to let go. So I want to know if I should maintain some distance, perhaps talk less often. The only issue here is that there isn’t really any problem between us. He knows I love him and we kind of sorted it out a couple of months back and have continued to be best friends. I don’t quite have a reason to suddenly cut down on talking to him and I am sure if I do that he would want to know why.
But, once you start seeing your external experience is a mirror of what you feel and believe, you will make the amazing realization that changing your internal world will change what you bring into your life. If you don’t believe you have to settle or compromise, you won’t. If you believe you will find the right person, you will. If you know you don’t have to end up alone, you won’t. Sound too simplistic? Is the skeptical part of you being activated and resisting this? Are you thinking of all your experiences that have ‘proved’ your current set of beliefs, beyond a shadow of a doubt, and saying to yourself that I don’t know what the hell I am talking about? But, this is really all there is to it.Life is so much easier than we make it out to be.
Attracting a good relationship doesn't mean that the relationship is going to be perfect or even permanent. Remember that you will attract someone who matches who you are in a given moment. If you or your partner change, the relationship may no longer be compatible. Sometimes we're meant to learn something from a relationship, and then move on when we're done.
This book is not only about money, it is about health, career, etc. It teaches us that it is easier to monitor our feelings than it is our thoughts as we all have an inbuilt Emotional Guidance System that uses our negative feelings to alert us that we are working against our own best self-interests, while our positive feelings indicate that we are aligned with our Inner Being and are vibrationally creating good things. We have to make the present moment as joyful as possible in order to create a better future for ourselves. I wholeheartedly recommend this book. Abraham is definitely one of my favorite teachers.
Don’t force yourself to do things that don’t feel good to you, if you really don’t want to do them. So, if you hate going to bars, don’t go every weekend. You want to act from a place of lightness and inspiration when you do act. You don’t want to act from a place of force or fear. There is never anything we must do to attract a certain thing into our life. If taking certain actions makes you feel good in the sense it nurtures a feeling that you will get find this relationship, then go for it. Just don’t get attached to the online dating, the blind dates, and the various outings that will put you in contact with the types of people you hope to meet. Have fun with it.
“There was someone who I liked. Well, it was more than ‘liked’. When I finally got the courage to speak to her after several months and tell her my feelings, she was very direct with me- looking me straight in the eye and saying “It’s never going to happen. I only see you as a friend”. I was absolutely crushed and also shocked- my guidance was normally very precise. But I also knew how guided she was, too. Despite her certainty, I couldn’t get her off my mind and felt very down about it. It’s awful wanting something so much which you simultaneously think is ‘impossible’ to achieve. These thoughts of longing lasted many months until finally, when it all got too much, I decided to give the processes a go. I began doing the Universe List. I ‘gave up’ trying to impress her, trying to be ‘good enough’ and trying in general. I fully embraced the situation and decided to release the control (which wasn’t working anyway). I said to the Universe, “if I’m meant to be with her I will be and if I’m not- so be it”. And I meant it, this time. Within days, we met up, and suddenly she expressed how she didn’t know what was going on but she saw me in a different light. My friends say it was like the uplifting ‘twist’ at the end of one of those crowd-pleasing Hollywood movies- something that doesn’t happen in real life. But it was happening, to me! Now, a year later, we are blissfully happy. We are experiencing what I have read described in spiritual literature as a ‘twin flame’ relationship. The biggest gift this situation brought me, though, is that when you give it all up to the Universe- things beyond your wildest imaginings can happen. It taught me surrender- which has caused all aspects of my life to flourish like never before. I have to add that The Law of Attraction Centre’s groups, workshops and community have been instrumental in assisting me making my life work.”
No, not psychic 🙂 I think a lot of people can relate to this, so you are certainly not alone in that! I think that was a really great decision..focusing on ourselves, recharging and what have you is one of the most effective ways to let love in our lives from an attraction perspective. The better you feel about yourself and life overall, when you are ready to get back in the game, you’ll meet people for sure. Relinquishing that control is key..not always easy but it makes the process so much easier when we don’t try to micromanage the process of infinite creation with our puny little brains 🙂 Thanks so much for sharing your thoughts!
The Law of Attraction operates based on your unconscious mind. This means that whatever you’ve got going on inside will determine the things that are brought to you on the outside. The goal is to recognize recurring patterns as quickly as possible, so you can reconcile internal issues and get your ship sailing smoothly again. You see the signs and oftentimes you consciously choose to ignore them. The more you ignore the signs, the stronger they become, though. A big part of cleaning up what you’re attracting externally is to become aware of what you have going on internally.
Holy Smokes! I freaking love this article you’ve shared Gabriel (and everything else on your site might I add!). That last sentence you shared about blessing my beloved and I and knowing that we are already deeply connected on a soul level… Feel it. I believe that stumbling onto this blog of yours is an indication of my commitment to grow and call my beloved man in. Something inside me felt called to have a google around tonight and I got you. Amongst other books and resources I have been working through to grow in the last year and a half, I am deeply resonating with everything I’ve seen on your site and I’ve had a good little look around! I would love to connect. Possibly for some one-on-one coaching and would even love to potentially have you on my podcast and interview you there so you can share all of your wisdom on matters of the heart.
Another positive reinforcement to my growing library. Abraham and Esther Hicks explain clearly and to the point how the laws of attraction as well as other laws of the universe can be used by anyone looking to improve their life situations. I reccommend it to anyone who is looking for answers to the questions of life... like "Why am I here"? It's in the book!
Thanks Mukul but you don’t get the full story here. I’m working on LOA for years and all I’m asking myself are basic questions after I found some flaws in it. I’m questioning certain principles because I managed to attract all the little things I wanted but not the big ones in which I strongly believed. As for the LA trip I used to be there for Christmas just because I could go and afford to pay for the trip. Once this possibility got reduced I can’t attract this anymore as no other possibility else than paying for my trip with my money shows up. There’s no LOA here just pure cause and effect: you want a holiday you pay for it, nobody offered me a trip, nobody invited me, I didn’t win any trip…No I have to pay for it, that’s mathematical.
You don’t have to go out on dates with people you’re not interested in, nor try to do something that goes against your own values. Notice what things or people you are consciously or unconsciously drawn to. You might be lead into amazing, rewarding, or at the very least a growing experience! Be willing to trust that inner voice and be open to the mystery that comes from there.
I have a funny story to share though and it’s not about my experience, it’s about my Mom’s. She got a letter in the mail late last year from a lawyer asking her information because her best friend of over 50 year’s husband had passed away and he was leaving her some money. Never in a million years would she had ever expected that. He was a tight wad, as we like to call them here in Texas. They didn’t have any children and she had passed away about five years earlier. Anyway he’s always given money to the college where he went and everyone just assumed that’s where it would go. Let me also clarify that the man was filthy rich!
I’m glad my book on using the Law of Attraction for love of a specific person worked for you! You should follow the same steps you followed the first time. It’s okay if you think about him, but you should focus on making yourself happy. Instead of thinking of the feeling of “feeling in love”, think of the emotion of “feeling loved.” That’s what you’re ultimately looking for in your relationship.
If you are an angry person, you will attract other angry people to sit around and talk about the messed-up world. You’ll attract scenarios that perpetuate your anger. If you’re a fearful person, you will likely attract other people who share your fears as well as situations that prove the world isn’t a safe place. If you have a belief that people cannot be trusted, you’ll attract events in your life that demonstrate all the myriad ways in which people are untrustworthy.
If you’re problem is habit you might want to check out Charles Duhigg’s latest book called The Power of Habit. In it he describes how we can hack into our habit forming system. It’s called the Habit Loop. I’m reading it now and I’m totally hooked. I have successfully implemented many habits and so far still sticking to them! Give it a go, I’m sure it can help with your writing.
For me, I find that since I have so much negative momentum on the subject of money itself, the best way to go about it is to find a way to feel really good, which I do through my morning manifestation routine, and then affirm that that feeling is what abundance feels like. By doing this every day, I’m training my thoughts to associate abundance with this great feeling right now, not some far off thing that ‘ll experience when I have money. Does that make sense?
This post is part of a series by Shelly Bullard — a primer on raising your vibration and attracting your soul mate. For the next five days, we’ll post one article offering the foundational elements you need to go deeper in the search for self love, and the love of your life. When you’re ready to take the next step, check out Shelly’s course: How To Attract A Partner Who’s Ready For Deep, Devoted Love.
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