But, with that being said, adopting these new beliefs when you have believing their super-crappy polar opposites for so long, will not happen at the snap of a finger. And, as I always say regarding this likely course of events, it’s okay. You want to start with where you are now, and work your way up. But, don’t be discouraged by this and think you can’t get anything good until you totally overcome your issues, and obtain some’ perfect’ vibration. I don’t think anyone has one. I imagine achieving that would result in not wanting anything at all.

But it’s only when you are okay with not being with them, that you open the path for the Law of Attraction to attract your specific person to you. Until you’re okay with not being with him/her, a part of you is resisting and making it impossible for you to have what you want. This means, according to the Law of Attraction, that until you’re okay with possibly losing him/her, it will be difficult for you to have the relationship you want with him/her. You have to be okay with not having him/her.


“I spent years stuck in problems and anxiety and wasn’t enjoying life at all. I discovered the Law of Attraction through a book and things got a little better, but it wasn’t until I discovered your website (and workshops) that things really began to change. I’m realising that it’s all about whether I am ‘tuned in’ or not. I’m finding it easier to be ok when I’m not feeling so good, too, which before was very difficult for me. I am also finding that people in my life seem to naturally ‘get it’ and live better lives without me trying to change their mind set (which I was prone to doing before). It seems like my connection naturally influences those around me and I don’t need to work things out when it comes to other people, as Life does that. Meditation I am really enjoying, I never realised how important it was when it comes to applying the Law of Attraction before your events. And a testimonial for you: After nearly 15 years of being single, when I had given up many times over, I met my ‘one’. I didn’t need to try to find him, we just met through friends when I was least expecting it. I can see how your work relaxed me and made the whole process effortless. Thank you.”
hey elizabeth!!!im really honoured to come across this website!!!It gave me hope when I was devastated. My story is like this. I used to like someone.In fact I really do love him with all my heart. I did my part and let him know about my feelings to him. He said that he dont wanna hurt me and he says I deserve someone better without even giving it a try. But my instinct always say that he do love me, he just dont want to show it. Every night, I would pray to god to give me signs if i should continue to believe in this love or not. I did receive signals not once but many times. Its like each time I want to move on in life something unbelievable happens, like getting a text from him and so on. I really want to share my love and happiness with him. I have completely let go and I am staying dettached. But I just want to know what else could I do to make him realise my love for him is pure? Please give me a piece of your mind. I really desire a relationship with him. I am looking forward for your reply.
I sell cheap gemstone beads, and they’re always problematic (quality) and a lot of work. I’m sitting on my porch thinking, “I want to go high end.” But I don’t have the money to buy expensive beads. Two weeks later a former customer emails asking if I want to go into business with him selling salt products. I used to run a warehouse and hated it, so I told him no, but you can invest in my business. He eventually invests $10K, and I buy high end beads.
Sorry for the late reply and thank for your answer 🙂 Actually what I was mostly aiming at was of course manifesting signs of my loved one before Christmas but having the goal of spending the holidays with him. I haven’t seen him in so long, he is quite far away and I have no idea how that will manifest itself but I am leaving it up to the universe to make it happen because Christmas used to have a very special meaning to us. Also during our book club and going over your book “how to manifest a specific person” one of the readers wanted to know if it was alright for her to chant (she is an assiduous buddhist) her buddhist mantra while using LOA. She wanted to know if it was compatible eventhough it is the same philosophy, she was afraid that perhaps practising two different methods might delay her manifestations in any way…I do not know if this is something you can help her with! Loving our little book club which is growing too!!!!
I was in a ten year relationship with my child’s father, but he was a cheater. Eventually I started seeing other people years down the line, mind you our relationship was up and down. Long story short I became pregnant with another’s man baby, which was hurtful to the both of us. I still felt a sense of this happening wasn’t all my fault I feel like he played a role as well. I used to beg him to get our relationship back on track for about three years so finally I gave up because of continuous cheating. Well finally last year we I thought we were getting somewhere and boom came to find out the cheating never stopped, well I left again to begin a new relationship which didn’t work out either plus here’s another baby on the way. Finally the guy that I was with for ten years we started seeing each other again during my pregnancy, but the catch is he wants me to give up baby for adoption. We were broken up for seven months and really I feel my child isn’t his business. Nonetheless, for some odd reason I still love and want to be with him, but if he can’t accept the children, then I have to depart from him. How do me and the children attract him for a positive family oriented relationship?
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and we live together. In the beginning of October things were bad, he forced me to move out thinking it would help things, which surprisingly it did. I thought this would only make things worse, I was constantly worried he would cheat on me, go behind my back, and betray me; like he has before. We were still together, just not living together. A week later after we spent some time talking and working through things, I moved back in. Ever since then over the few weeks things have been great, he’s treated me amazing, however I still have a fear of, “what if he is treating me like this but is potentially going behind my back?” A few days ago he had a missed call from a number with a area code of where his ex lives, I do not know if it was her, a telemarketer, or just a random wrong number. But it is has worried me over the past few days. I also worry when I’m at work and he’s at home, what he’s doing. I try so hard to imagine us happy and trying to believe in everything he says to me is true and sincere. I just have major trust issues. I care for him an immense amount and would do anything for him, I love him very much. However, I do believe that I would be okay with out him.. eventually in time. I do not want this to happen, but you said you have to imagine yourself being able to let go of that person. He is for sure the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I never want to lose him. What I am confused about is, if I am using the Law of Attraction to attract him more into my life, what if he is using the Law of Attraction to attract a different person in his life, such as his ex, instead of me. Which situation with manifest? He is not the type of person to ever think about these, he doesn’t even know what the Law of Attraction is, but I believe he could subconsciously be doing this and not even knowing it. Again, I think way too in depth about things and sometimes just make it worse for myself.
That was about the time my girlfriend Charise walked in the door with her arms full of Costco boxes. She’d thought of everything: diapers and formula for the girls, dinner for the next week, and even enough cash to keep the electricity and water on. That is the moment that has defined my #RelentlessPursuit. That is the moment I Hustle and grind for. 
Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.
Sо hоw dо уоu gеt tо feeling likе money whеn уоu dоn't hаvе it? It sounds likе аn impossible task but it'ѕ nоt thаt difficult. Onе оf thе bеѕt techniques iѕ learning tо detach frоm thе subject. If money iѕn't important tо уоu thеn уоu'll easily attract it tо уоu bесаuѕе уоu wоn't bе thinking оf thе lack ѕidе оf thе subject whеn evoked in thought оr conversation.
We can easily manifest money into our lives, or anything else for that matter, by expecting it to come to pass. Wishing and hoping doesn’t work. The Law of Attraction is founded on an expectation of a specific outcome. It revolves around the potential positive or negative energy that a given thought takes in your mind. When you expect the worst to happen, it often happens. When you expect the opposite, that often occurs as well.
The law of attraction has worked for me really well in the love area. When I first layed eyes on the girl im with now I wished on a shooting star that we’d fall in love and be together forever. Cheesy, I know. I visulized at night before bed her and I together and happy. And it happened. We found each other at the perfect time. We were both attracting each other. Ive never had such a comfortable and loving relationship before. I intend on marrying her, and spending the rest of my life with her. I believe it will happen. I know it will.
As I mentioned earlier, our soulmates frequently come into our lives to help us heal our deepest emotional wounds, and we come into their lives to help them do the same.   For some people, this may at first look like some form of  ‘Crazy, Stupid Love’, or a relationship that appears to bring out the worst both in you and your partner.  These are the kind of relationships where people break up several times but over time have a tendency to find their balance as deep healing begins to take place and eventually grow into ‘Soulmate Love’.
When we talk about true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. It represents that your partner cares for you as much as you do. He/she wants to be with you for the rest of his life. Commitment believes that no matter what, you both are there for each other even in worst situations. This is one factor that should be equally shared by both the partners.

Loved your kindle book! It’s given me hope and most importantly a sense of serenity which I haven’t had since my breakup I’m afraid. Moving on is never as easy as one thinks. People tell you to go out with friends, have fun etc…But how does one go out and “have fun” when all restaurants, bars, lounges, clubs or car radios play music and music is the last thing you even want to listen to when your heart is breaking in a million pieces. So that alone, prevents one from moving on peacefully. But your book…I don’t know, just gives one hope. It is easier (at least for me) to “let go” knowing that getting back with the love of my life is possible. Frankly, moving on with hope, regardless of the result, is so much healthier than without it. So for that alone thanks! Now my question :))… I haven’t see my ex for the past two months. He’s very very reluctant to speak to me, and the very limited email exchanges we have had since the breakup have been cold (on his end) at best, though he does reply everytime. I know he is hurt and dealing with it in his won male way I guess…We are thousands of miles away from each other and I want to manfiest spending christmas together. Is is advisable to manifest a certain date? Does that give it more power, or takes away from manifestation? I dont’ want to be obsessive about it, I want to be easy about it, but I must say that this Xmas was supposed to be special for us and I would love for that to be the case eventough it is around the corner. It just seems that manifesting an ex back is almost more difficult than manifesting a specific person you know but have never had a relationship with…Probably because of all the baggage and history. So anyway I just wanted to know if a specific date is ok? Thank you so much :))
I bought this a year ago after a break up and all I can say is that IT WORKS! The hardest part is letting go and letting the universe work. Any sadness, anger, etc. will hold you back. I mean that in every aspect of your life. I tried it last year on an ex and he came back but then I didn't want him back. I have an ex that I am working on and so far things are starting to manifest however I still have a bit of sadness in me so it is holding me back and I haven't fully let go yet and we were in a REALLY bad place. We just recently started talking so I realize I have a bit of work to do. Believe, trust and let go to the universe and let it do the work. Best of luck to everyone, just keep on believing.
It is powerful tool, if your thoughts. It is really tricky sometimes. Old habits usually steps in and refuse to step aside. I started with the secret. My mother gave it to me and said: i bought this book but i think you need it better. I was at a negative place in my life at that moment. After reading that bought all the other books too watch the film, but i felt like something was missing. I asked for help to understand better. The Universe answered and when i was at the bookstore the book Ask and its given by Esther and Jerry Hicks caught my attention. I wanted more information since it clearly wasn’t working for me. I stubbled over Kevin Traudeau and i listened to all of the cds. At first i helt so happy but then i descovered that it was a scam. I felt betrayed( i later understand that a lot of what he talked about is true). Diving deeper in to the teaching of Abraham. Joining groups on Facebook. Reading about Laws of Attraction everywhere i could find it. Using affirmations, meditation, writing down 5-10 things everyday that i am grateful for, thanking the Universe for all little things everyday, feeling powerful, loving myself, clearing out all bad thinking about money, reprogramming thoughts… i done it all. I did manage to manifest a computer and a neighbor that i disliked moved away and little things…but the things i really really want is more difficult to attract. So i will keep on doing what i do because i know Everything will work out for me, because i have the best team of Universal forces at my back.

For law of attraction to work, it is important for you to have a clear sense of your feelings. Often infatuation and short-term physical attraction are confused for love. Having opposite feelings to what you desire can impact the law of attraction. Here are some ways to understand whether you want to be romantically involved with your partner or it’s just another attraction.


Many people are guilty of continuously repeating negatives either in thoughts or words. A negative mindset can be representative of a current life situation and attracting negatives can be living proof that the law of attraction works. Attracting positives and getting out of the routine of negative thinking can be possible with visualizations, affirmations, and manifestations.

“Thank you for all of your help this year. Your work is extraordinary. I had been single for many years- the occasional date but nothing serious. In July I met a man and we have been enjoying life together ever since. I acknowledge myself for making my inner changes- but credit is seriously due to your workshops and groups; and the space they gave me to discover myself again.”
Phil, your blog was super awesome! I have immersed myself in LOA finally after years of not knowing the steps, and realizing it takes daily practice and filling your mind with positive enforcement of these principles. In fact, I just realized a dream of mine to become a writer and publish a book, and this has just happened this week! I am not a disciplined writer, but I got inspired by a self publisher and decided to try that, and it has worked beautifully, plus the book seemed to write itself, which was on The Law of Attraction and certain things I went into more depth on than the movie, The secret did. I enjoyed the movie, but did not find anything worked for me after watching it. I am so glad to see so many people with positive comments, and I wish everyone continued manifesting success!

Long before the well known Oprah-appraised movie/book The Secret came out… a book by Napoleon Hill titled Think and Grow Rich uncovered the mystical and coveted concept of the Law of Attraction. I remember reading this book when I was a teenager as it proclaimed I could quite literally create the life of my dreams. This concept was very sexy to me and profoundly shaped my ideas about what was possible as I was launched into adulthood.


Nice to see you around here again! Thanks so much for your comment and so glad you liked the post. You make an excellent point about how we can sometimes make ‘money’ the how as there are lots of ways we can experience the things we think can only come through money. That is great you have a routine that makes you feel good…that repetition is often a key to really reconditioning our minds. That makes perfect sense and is exactly what we want to accomplish…feeling the feelings now as if what we want is already here.

Another thing about feelings—get yourself out of situations that don’t feel like what you want. You don’t have to compromise or settle. You don’t have to experience a bunch of stuff that feels badly to also experience that which feels good. As you shore up your good energy, and stick to your standards and boundaries, these types of situations will naturally decrease, and at some point, move out of your experience completely.

This phenomenal story is about a young nutritionist Shikha. She was just at the beginning of her career with big dreams in her eyes. Like other ambitious youths, the desire to reach remarkable success was making her stressful. She was wondering how long it will take to live all her dreams. At times, the desperation to be at the peak of success was making her restless.


Remember even we who all preaches LOA etc have not reached to the potential of understanding the power that a human really has. Everyone has their own understanding and they put it accordingly. You yourself has abundance of energy.. believe in yourself.. you go to others only when you have doubts… remove this doubt and enjoy what you have now and also the one that you desire.

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