Here’s the thing: you can only attract that to which you are a match, and if you are hiding who you really are, or are trying to construct some ‘perfect’ version of yourself you believe makes you more attractive as a potential mate, you will only attract other people who are putting up these same facades. You will never make any true connections—you’re being inauthentic and everyone you meet is being inauthentic, and eventually it will all come to the surface in some way. One of the reasons people struggle to meet the right person is because everyone is just walking around, faking it.
This post is part of a series by Shelly Bullard — a primer on raising your vibration and attracting your soul mate. For the next five days, we’ll post one article offering the foundational elements you need to go deeper in the search for self love, and the love of your life. When you’re ready to take the next step, check out Shelly’s course: How To Attract A Partner Who’s Ready For Deep, Devoted Love.
If you watched “The Secret” and didn’t realize why things are still the same, now you know why! It’s not enough to want to find the love of your life; you must also tune into love right now before it comes across your path. You need to feel the thing you want to manifest. Be the thing itself. And in order to be the thing you want to attract, the limiting beliefs got to go.
“Something had come up with my boyfriend- one of my fears, actually. When this had happened in the past I had never been able to deal with it and the relationship was immediately over. I forced myself to do one of the techniques I learnt about in your workshop- looking for the good in the situation. I didn’t feel good when I was writing this list for at least ten minutes, I felt numb- but I had nothing to lose so continued. After a while I felt myself ‘shift’; more relaxed, I even found myself laugh. Then a new idea came into my mind; a new way of looking at the situation. My boyfriend texted me a suggestion of how we could move on- and it was the exact same idea that had appeared in my mind! From a ‘no going back’ situation, in about half an hour, your technique shifted my worldview and that’s no exaggeration! Thank you for the peace you provide.”
It may sound silly to do this as an adult, but it’s a game worth playing. When you’re out with friends sometime, have a contest to see who can manifest the most money. You may not get too excited about finding coins, but you may generate some excitement about trying to best your friends in a silly contest. That silliness will actually help you get the right vibe, thereby improving your ability to manifest money.
Jason, it is you unconscious at play. Positive thinking and LOA doesn’t work, if your unconscious sabotages your wishes and goals. Your unconscious is much more powerful than your conscious, and it has been downloading experiences and been programmed since your were born. So you need to reprogram (or dehypnotize) your unconscious to get what you want. Believe me, I have been where you are, and I couldn’t understand why I didn’t get the results, I wanted. Then I trained as a hypnotist, and suddenly I understood what was going on…
My life transformed in the space of a few months purely through visualising what I wanted and FEELING what it would be like to have it. I’m not saying I have it all, far from it and I still have days where I lose hope, but I would say the most important thing when you’re feeling down is to simply try and raise yourself to a slightly better feeling. Keep doing that, until you’re in a place to start imagining what you want… the rest is written in the stars! If you are struggling to find a happier place, a quick and effective way to do it is be grateful. Think of all you are grateful of and it will undoubtedly lift you up.
I don’t have any rituals per se, but there are certain things I do that help me feel more abundant. When I am enjoying something I paid for, whether a tasty meal, a massage or something else that gives me pleasure in some way, I really try to tune into the feeling of appreciation I have for it, and the sense of contentment I feel in that moment. I also try to develop a sense of appreciation for having money to pay bills..rather than feel like I am putting my money towards something I don’t want to put it towards, I express appreciation that I have the money to pay the bill. Awhile back, I went through really bad times financially, and the inability to pay my bills created a lot of shame and embarrassment,and I am happy not to be experiencing that anymore.
Hi JG – I’m glad you’re enjoying my book on attracting a specific person! Detachment will come with time. Don’t worry so much about whether you’re doing things right. The Law of Attraction isn’t about perfection. Also, as I discuss in the book, focus on doing things that make you happy. It’ll be far more effective than trying to cover the doubts up with affirmations.
Another of the best ways to attract money is to ensure you spend the wealth you have on things that really matter. When you live in a way that aligns with your values, you get much money pleasure from spending and develop a much more positive relationship with money. And when you view money in a positive, loving way, you’ll attract more money instantly!
“What I most love about this work is how Life sorts everything out once you step out of the way. I sent out a request for a new partner and more fun and, realising I had been trying so hard to get these things to happen (online dating, speed dating, blind dates, dating clubs, looking for men in supermarkets with no success at all, I gave up and handed it over to Life on the Universe List . What really helped me, too was throwing myself into sports. I realised my previous hobby had been ‘looking for a boyfriend’ and I needed a new one. This request to ‘bring me an enjoyable hobby where I can meet likeminded friends’ again went on the Universe List . I was drawn to join a local swimming club and a running club and started doing these activities three times a week. It felt good to me to know that not only did running and swimming feel good, but as I was participating, ‘my team’ (as I call the Universe) was sorting out my relationship behind-the-scenes. I started to relax about the relationship subject, feeling less desperate. And in a short time, I have met some great men through the groups and one of them is very close to my ideal – I’ll let you know how it goes.”
Again, we can only attract that to which we are currently a match, so this means we can’t wait to feel better about our lives until what we want comes. You have to make peace with your single status. You have to start finding ways to feel happy about your life now as it is. This doesn’t mean pretending to like things you don’t, but diligently working on adopting a perspective that actually makes you feel better. It is about focusing on the things in your life that are good, and building on that energy. It is about making time to do things that make you feel good, that help produce the feelings you think you would get from being in a relationship.
The Law of Attraction is a very simple spiritual law. If your energy field matches the results you wish to achieve, you will dramatically increase the chance of those results manifesting in your reality. Your beliefs, attitudes, emotions, dominant thoughts, and subconscious thoughts all contribute to our your energy field and determine what you will attract into your reality.
What The Secret didn’t share is that activating the Law of Attraction requires more than inherent desire, an active imagination, and creating a vision board. Positive affirmations don’t work as a standalone. Meaning, a person who is broke isn’t going to manifest his or her rent by sitting around thinking positive thoughts alone. A person who is struggling with a health challenge may not overcome that challenge through positive thoughts by itself.
Hi I would like to give you my result using the manifestation box well it’s not my story but my 12 year old story she used the box to get an Ipad she put in a picture of it and wrote of it as if she had it and all the things that she was able to do on it. It took her 5weeks to get it but the only thing she wish she had done differently was be a little more specific she said “I want an Ipad” so she got an Ipad through her school for a year cause they started their first year of testing students use of Ipads in school. So while she has gotten an Ipad it is not her very own ,the box does work my 10 year old use it to get her new easy bake oven without asking me or telling me that she wanted one. I want to say thank you for this article it eliminates stress in trying to manifest things it’s so much easier this way even my kids are using it and getting results. Thank you.
When it comes to love, people get disappointed when their dates don't meet their expectations and they don't see evidence that true love is coming. Out of disappointment or fear of being disappointed, they give up, never knowing what they missed. The key to the law of attraction is that once you are clear you desire something specific, you must commit to it for as long as it takes to manifest in your life.
There is a process to it too. What really happens (this is my own break down of the law) is that once we focus on something we want; our mind starts to calculate how to get that desire met. Then we start to put those thoughts into actions, resulting in us achieving what we want without consciously calculating how to do it. When we couple our desires with conscious and strategic planning, we can achieve almost anything.
This step is important because those competing signals can be quite strong. Weaken the signal or change the direction of those thoughts like this: Approach those feelings with the love and compassion that you would feel towards a lonely, small child or a hurt animal. When you love yourself, you open up the possibility to receive your greatest desires, and you begin to only desire the things that are best for you.
Another issue that really causes resistance in the realm of relationships is finding love is so incredibly important to us. We are really attached to this manifestation; we are terrified of being alone, and it never happening. It is hard to just sit back and relax, knowing the Universe has got this. We are constantly noticing our single status, and lamenting it.
Step Four: Release the ball of light with your intention upward into the heavens. With your eyes still closed visualize the ball of light exploding in the heavens and causing it to rain gold coins all around you. Feel the money, see the gold, allow the excitement to fill your body with enthusiasm. Wealth, prosperity, and money are flowing to you from the INFINITE FIELD, THE UNIVERSE.
“There was someone I liked for a long time and I just wasn’t sure if he liked me back. Well it wasn’t just liking- I was crazy about him… and it was becoming really tiring. The whole situation was annoying me- it was like an addiction. So I put on the Universe List ‘Take away my attachment to Mark’ and ‘Bring me a wonderful partner’. Then, a few weeks ago, he contacted me to say that he had some great news… he was getting married and wanted me as a ‘best man’ type figure!! Whilst initially having a Julia Roberts in My Best Friend’s Wedding moment, I actually felt a strange sense of relief just moments after. Within a day or so my attachment to him has evaporated- I feel genuinely happy for him (and even for her) and strangely wonder what I saw in him in a romantic way- even though he is a great person. I have also learnt things about myself and how this is a pattern I’ve been in before. And, what’s more, I even have met someone else who seems fantastic and actually likes me back. It seemed my attachment had jammed the romance door, preventing anyone from coming in for so many months. It is so amazing that I am starting to realise that everything that happens to me is a gift- and it is wonderful that I can now swiftly see the truth in situations which would have one time floored me and kept me feeling depressed and resentful for many months before I ‘got it’. Thank you, Universe!”
I have been applying the visualization techniques of the Law Of Attraction for a couple of years. I have been able to manifest those things I truly believed to the core of my being. And although I still think sometimes maybe this has all been an accident, I have seen the wonder and absolute amazement of the Universe and how it has led me to all the things I have truly, deeply wanted. I look back and see how the matrix of the Universe moved me to what I wanted without me even knowing it. It was like intuition that I didn’t realize was happening, if that makes sense.
The awesome LOA blogger Melody Fletcher termed the manifestations that show up to indicate we are on the right path as ‘breadcrumbs.’ The thing is though, many of us misinterpret them as ‘bad’ things that show us we still don’t have what we want. Sometimes, a manifestation is not just going to fall right into our lap—this is especially true of ‘wants’ that are really big and important to us–we typically have a lot of resistance to work through. Just allowing it in, in its full form, immediately, usually can’t happen.
Keep in mind the disclaimer on the copyright page that reads, "The authors of this book do not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly." It's important, considering a segment of this book is about physical health. It's interesting to me, because if we had regulation around careers and money, there would also be disclaimers about those. Through ...more
When you want to become a money magnet, you must understand that money has a relationship with gratitude. Because the thought of money either makes you feel positive or negative most of the time. If it makes you feel positive then that’s great. But if it makes you feel negative because your focus is on the lack then this is where Gratitude works like magic.
We live in a magical universe that can bring you exactly what you desire in the most amazing and even unbelievable ways. Getting caught up in the how can actually impede the law of attraction. If you are trying to control the how, you are likely getting in the way and making it more difficult than it has to be. Instead, let go of any ideas about how it has to happen and allow the universe to do its magic.
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I recently released some resistance about finding the right guy. And I had this weird experience yesterday. I felt like maybe I could meet somebody yesterday when I went out with my friend. And I actually forgot about the fact that I thought about it. And I ran into somebody at a book store and he actually told me something that I didn’t expect and I didn’t know what to say so I couldn’t respond properly. I actually was with my friend who had strong opinion against something and I was afraid if she might not like me acting certain way. Anyway, so I actually wanted to talk to the guy more but for some reason, I couldn’t. But I discovered some limiting beliefs. I realized that I need to be myself even though I worry what my friend thinks about me. And if she doesn’t support me, maybe she’s not good for me even though I really care about her as a friend. The reason that I couldn’t be myself yesterday was because I cared so much about what my friend would think about me.
I really need your help.. The thing is I like one guy very much. Since the first time I saw him, I felt the connection I have never felt with someone else before.. This time I am sure he is the One. I see myself marrying him one day… even when I feel bad, I still have that picture in my head of me saying “I do” to him… He has all the qualities that I wanted in a guy.. He even is born on the same day as me.. Since I saw him looking at me, I felt he liked me… however, I’m a type of person who doubts a lot. like really a lot… Long story short, on December last year I added him on facebook and he messaged me immediately. It really showed that he was interested in me. An we had so much in common that I couldn’t even believe this can be true… so we were chatting on and off. we both are shy… and i remember that I would message him of desperation sometimes.. I messaged him in February.. we had a nice conversation, but for some reason I started doubting and crying… I was broke… then I found (again) the LOA, your articles were very inspiring..I was feeling quite good and would sometimes get on a level that I didn’t need him to make me happy. Then a miracle happened, after a month of our conversation, he asked me out. It was an amazing date. He was so happy then.. he even blushed a few times.. then, after a week he asked me out again. and again it was a wonderful time that we shared.. and after the date he said this: “there will be infinity of dates like this”, and the look in his eyes and.. and his smile said even more – he was very very happy when with me. He was glowing. However… i for some reason shied away and didn’t even message him after a date.. the next day I saw him and he was very said when I said hello to him. I could see the sadness in his eyes… then I felt guilty… i started doubting… and things got worse… I tried to fix the situation after more than a month… I asked him out myself. but he couldn’t go.. and then it was a breakdown for me… it was an awful period… I was very negative.. and i saw hi groupmate being with him at university all the time… it took me a couple of months to feel better… at the end of June I was feeling good. I was relaxed… And then I got a message from him. It was the nicest compliment I had ever received..I will not go into details, but I was on and off with my emotions… I thought that in September (because we study at the same university, except for he is a year older than me) things will be very good.. but they are not… we only say hello to each other… and most of the time ignore each other like we don’t exist… his groupmate is still being flirty with him and I don’t know what to do. It’s his last year in university.. I don’t have much time and this puts even more stress on me.. One of my friends keeps telling me that if he cared he would have done something by now… it hurts, because… because I had a chance to have him in my life but because of my fears and doubts I messed it all up.. Another friend says that I have to do something.. that I have to message him… but I don’t feel good now.. I’m not inspired and I don’t know if I ever will.. I simply love this person with my whole heart, and he is amazing… and I’m scared to lose him.. Any advice how I could calm down and go in the direction of my desire? because I feel like i’m going the opposite way. Maybe someone is in a similiar situation as me?
I really enjoy reading your posts and learning about opening up to deep and fulfilling love. After heart shattering loss over the course of the last two years I am now in the process of putting myself back together again. It’s still pretty messy but I really want to learn to love myself and be the best version of myself, for me and for my soulmate who I know is out there waiting for me to be ready for forever.
However, I know the general frame of mind here is that you can’t manifest money into your life by using the Law of Attraction. Yet, over and over again, people use this precise technique to help them move towards greater financial prosperity. You’ve likely even heard of people “willing” themselves into winning the lottery and receiving other types of windfalls.
Think about what you want and why you don’t believe that you can have it. Then think about what the ideal world would look like to you, the world in which anything was possible, and pick one image or scene that represents it. It should be something where both this world (in which you don’t believe you can do it) and the ideal world overlap. For example, your ideal world could also have that peaceful corner of your favorite park, right?
And that means, at least to me, that for some reason, it was meant for this story to be told to you today. Maybe there’s one ETR reader out there that this is specifically for. Maybe that one person is waiting for this exact blueprint to go and change their lives and they’ll get great inspiration and wisdom from my journey. I don’t know, but I hope so, and I hope it helps you. The world works in mysterious ways. So here goes…
said on Oprah show: I only have one thing to say to you. OH MY GOD! I sent out 142 copies in total before 20 replied like the instructions said. Then I went on a short vacation. When I got back my account had over $32,000 dollars in it already and the money was still coming! I'm still floating on air (especially with my new car). I thought the "Guardian System" sounded cheesy, but now I realize it is the formula that makes this letter really work! THANKS.
And then, sometimes I think that the current relationship will eventually end in some way if the person working consciously with LOA makes such dramatic shifts that she and her current partner are just too far away from each other vibrationally. This could definitely happen without your ending it specifically–the other person could end it, it could be mutual and amicable, something could happen that creates a large rift and you both can’t see a way to move past it, or you may decide to end it and it won’t feel as scary as it may currently because you just know it is the right thing to do. I don’t think being unhappy with a relationship as it currently is now is an absolute sign that it is not right..ultimately, it depends on so many individual factors, and as the person doing the LOA work gets deeper and more in touch with what is happening, she will have a sense of what she really wants and how she thinks it will play out. It does take a degree of honesty that can feel a bit uncomfortable, but necessary.
If you are bemoaning your single status, and feeling like you are incomplete without a relationship, you are vibing "lack" and you will just get more of it. This doesn't mean giving up on the idea of having a relationship, it simply means, that if you want to manifest a relationship in order to feel whole and complete, you must find a way to feel whole and complete now.
Then you start your day-wise practice where you keep a Gratitude Journal and write 10 points of gratitude and 10 pints of appreciation for yourself. And in addition to that, you do the activity as per the day’s practice. This helps you to raise your vibration and align your emotions with your dream. You send an unlimited amount of positive signals to the Universe that works for your manifestation. Your vibration becomes stronger with positive affirmations and visualizations and ultimately when you match your vibration with your dreams, the Universe grant your wish and it materializes in the form of manifestation or reality.
But Matt and I became quick friends through the Mastermind group and every six months or so we’d connect by email or at an event. As Matt later explained, “We always wanted to work together on some project, but there was just never a good fit.” After all, he was busy traveling the world and I was engrossed in building my Turbulence Training business.
Thanks for writing all your experience with LOA, I firmly believe in law of attraction and it started when I came across Mr. Wayne Dyer’s book, and I have manifested a lot since then, If I write all of them then I will have my own blog. After reading his book I started getting LOA related book as a gift from my family and friends as if universe wanted me to know something, Your site has validated my experience, so thanks a lot. All the best and God bless you.
Abundance Checks. Every month, take a blank check and fill in your name, the amount, and all the other details. Sign it “The Universe,” “God,” “Source,” or any cosmic entity you prefer. Even “Your Fairy Godmother” works. Look at the check every day when you wake up and when you go to bed. Feel that you already have that money now. Imagine spending it. Really immerse yourself in how wonderful it is. Know that the money is already yours.
Thank you for responding, but how do I find out where and when I went wrong? The person that I have been on and off with for ten years, how do I get that back on track with him without the resentment and just have a good family life. I will only allow myself to go but so far because my children comes first and that is partly his problem it’s like he wants me to love him but hate my kids or just want them to go away. Do I apply the LOA or do I let go and focus on my blessings which are my children and many other things?
Anyone who is stuck in indolence and debts can notice that he has come to this by a gradual and systematic refusal to do what he likes and what he believes in as a whole. That's why we must always do the things that truly fill us with joy, and for that, you don’t usually need much money. That's what is waiting for us here and now, what all our loved ones are waiting for. It always begins with what is available, here and now, from a small to an ever-increasing thing.
The Universe becomes a far more active partner in helping you create the life you desire when your intentions are specific. You don’t just want money fast; you want X amount of dollars fast or even more. Once I walked into a casino with only $1.00 in my pocket, having forgotten my wallet at home. Amazingly, I walked out of the casino with a sizeable sum of money. I set an intention that I wanted to turn that dollar into $20.00. I could have driven home to get my wallet, but I was already there and decided to invoke the power of the Law of Attraction. By the time the dust settled that day, I had won $2400! Remember, I started with only $1.00
We were in the 3rd week of magic practice and he was filled with a load of gratitude. Amid all those grateful days, he got a call from one of his Supplier (he is an entrepreneur) and was informed that he is getting a sponsored free trip to Goa for the annual sales meeting. It was totally unbelievable. It has never happened before and now it has come suddenly.
Phil, your blog was super awesome! I have immersed myself in LOA finally after years of not knowing the steps, and realizing it takes daily practice and filling your mind with positive enforcement of these principles. In fact, I just realized a dream of mine to become a writer and publish a book, and this has just happened this week! I am not a disciplined writer, but I got inspired by a self publisher and decided to try that, and it has worked beautifully, plus the book seemed to write itself, which was on The Law of Attraction and certain things I went into more depth on than the movie, The secret did. I enjoyed the movie, but did not find anything worked for me after watching it. I am so glad to see so many people with positive comments, and I wish everyone continued manifesting success!
Coins may be found on the ground while you’re walking around. Bills will sometimes be found on the ground too. Larger sums may manifest in the form of exchanges, business deals, inheritances, inspired action, and other ways. Assume that those larger sums are right in front of your face, staring at you and screaming at you to notice them. You just have to tune your vibe to the right frequency to pick them up.
one day Esther Hicks writes something about The LOA ..and Claims its the final way to put this law to WORK! but then sometime later she comes again with another IDEA!! to sell…”How to get in the Vortex! ( what the hell ! )and again and again…it never ends with these new age movement people! they always have a book to sell , a Vibrational calibrator sound track! and bla bla bla!
i do not know about the Law of Attraction previously, but when i know about this through my teacher i realize that whenever i went to my home via train, my reserved train coach stops exact my position where ever i stay on the platform. the platform has two bridges and i do not know, my coach stops nearby that bridge form which i entered and sometimes such conditions happen that( buying water bottle or place where crowd is less or etc), these condition reaches me that exact position. it happened me form 2 years (aprrox. 7-8 times till now ).
The best part she got the deal for website building at a very magical price. And then there was no looking back, flowing of clients is increasing every day. People kept on finding their way to her for the consultation. So many people are changing their body images, health & fitness following her advice. She is now changing people’s lives who are looking for an amazing solution to living in good health or achieve perfect body shape.
The preparation for welcoming your soul mate requires that you make a conscious commitment to start healing the deepest wounds of your heart. Notice that I said “start” healing the deepest wounds of your heart, because for the majority of us, this is a lifelong process and it doesn’t mean you have to be fully healed to manifest your One. In fact, one of the things that a soul mate will do is HELP you to heal your deepest emotional wounds, and chances are you’ll be helping them heal their deepest emotional wounds as well. BUT you must be willing to clear out all of the past hurts, anger, resentments, and anything else that makes up the thick wall of protection and distrust that you have built around your heart so that you can start welcoming love in.
5) Start each day by turning your Heart Light on. How can you do this? With a gratitude prayer for all that is happening in your life and for the deep knowing that your Soulmate is even now on his/her way to you. Affirm that you are meeting in Divine and Perfect time, and know that while you wait patiently for their arrival in your life, both you and your Soulmate are growing, and wrapping up any unfinished business while the Universe engineers your connection.
Katherine Hurst used to live a normal life until something happened that changed her life forever. She discovered the Law of Attraction and began a new, life-changing chapter. She now runs the world's largest Law of Attraction community with millions of followers. Her mission is to share her own experiences to inspire change and happiness in the lives of all.
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