I really enjoy reading your posts and learning about opening up to deep and fulfilling love. After heart shattering loss over the course of the last two years I am now in the process of putting myself back together again. It’s still pretty messy but I really want to learn to love myself and be the best version of myself, for me and for my soulmate who I know is out there waiting for me to be ready for forever.
One of the coolest things that has happened, is that I needed some money. So I decided to use the law of attraction consciously this time around. I was really excited about it, and the money kept coming in, so I thought the law of attraction was working. But then I got a bill, and I was really confused why that happened. So I thought about making a new list, and take a look at the old list that I had made a couple of months earlier.
“Me and my husband weren’t getting on at all and then I remembered something a woman said at the group who was in a similar situation. So I did a version of the Positive Aspects process: I went through the alphabet thinking of good qualities about him: A- Attractive when we went out last week, B- Bought me a beautiful birthday present, C- Committed to his family and work, D- Determined to feel good, E- Easy going and relaxed… And on I went. After a very short time my feelings of anger and criticism melted away. I began doing this process every day, in the morning before work. Initially I have to admit I wanted to do the processes to change him- but after a while I was doing it because it felt so good. Within a week or so he bought me flowers- he hasn’t done that for years. He started paying me compliments and now he’s booked a holiday for us. He also has told me how much he loves me and I, too, feel more in love with him than I have in a long time.”
I am in a situation where the man I just got back into my life (applying the LOA) is saying he just wants to be friends. I don’t understand why because when we are together things are great. When we first got back cool after a nasty seperation, he was reaching out to me constantly. Then I told him I wanted to spend more time with him and it seems after I said that, things went sour and he jumped from wanting to be around me to saying nothing is there anymore and he just wants to be friends. No warning or anything. This is the man I want to be around. I am very happy with him and cannot be in the same place I was with him when we were on bad terms, I refuse to go back to that space! I have been saying affirmations like “I am fun to be around;I Am someone that comes naturally to ____; I attract ____ naturally. etc” I guess i’m in a rush to spend time with him due to lost time when we weren’t talking. PLease help me! I have a strong desire to be with and around this man.
Rina – Go back to the basics of using the Law of Attraction to attract a specific person. Right now, you’re focusing on what he isn’t doing. You’re thinking about him not contacting you which is creating more of him not contacting you. Change your thoughts to change the situation. Be okay with him not contacting you, but be open to receiving a message from him. See it as happening. Forget about the world around you and create the reality you want. Allow the world to transform to match your thoughts. Those are key elements for using the Law of Attraction for love for a specific person.
What is Love and what is the law of attraction and love? Is attraction the first step to fall in love? Look around and you will find many people asking the same question. The feelings if love is a part of everyone’s life, whether one choose to fall for it or not. It’s one feeling that affects everyone not once, but many times in life. Those who find love are often seen celebrating it, while there are some who accidentally fall in one-sided love.
I know this isn’t easy. I know how hard it is. It’s why, when working with the Law of Attraction, it’s often best to say, “I want X or something better” or “I want a relationship with my boyfriend or someone better.” Because what if you could have someone better? What if you could be with someone who didn’t want to spend a day without you, let alone not be able to meet you every few days?
That’s a great story. I would like to share with you how I manifested my dream job. I got a job I very much disliked at a biopharmaceutical company 8 months after getting my masters degree. But because it took me that long to get a job, it was somewhat precious to me. However, after one year, I was even more miserable and burnt out that I ever was and decided that enough is enough. I took the leap of faith and quit without any other job lined up. I took the time and freedom to explore what I really wanted to do and discovered my passion in the human resources field. However, the HR industry in my country is quite immature and I could not find any positions that fitted into my aspirations, goals, capacity and capabilities. I applied to many HR position half-heartedly. I have a long standing desire to move abroad but was unsure on how to make it happen. After 11 months of unsuccessful attempts, I intensely decided that I will be getting a job offer for a dream position from abroad NOW. I created a Manifestation Book and wrote down daily entries of getting a great job and an amazing location. A couple of days later I came across a job advertisement for a HR position in Germany. The position was all that I could ask for in a job. I applied to it. For the next 30+ days, I spent most of my waking hours believing that the job is mine. I did everything it took to train my mind that I am getting the job. Besides the daily journal entry, I sent job offer emails to myself and also recorded myself affirming about getting the job and listened to it before going to sleep. About 10 days after the closing date of the application, I received and email from the company inviting me to the Assessment Centre in Germany!! The interview and assessments went smoothly and a week later they offered me the job! The salary is great, the company is huge and famous and most importantly it is the job I had dreamed of and a dream location. I am starting on December 1st 2014 in Germany and very much looking forward to it. The Universe has given me what I wished for. If you really want something and believe with unshakable faith that you will have it, the whole Universe will conspire to make it happen!
There are also numerous references in the law of attraction community to the fact that the bigger you think, the more likely you are to attract it. Therefore, do not sell yourself short, and dream audacious dreams - as these are the only goals that will provide you with the strength of desire necessary to keep focussed when conflicting thoughts begin to emerge.
I have some questions about letting go of resistance. Looking back, I could finally let go of resistance by going on lots of dates and making myself exhausted, get sick and tired of trying to find the right guy. And after that moment, I could finally surrender and manifest guys that I actually wanted to be with. So maybe it could be one of the ways that people can let go of resistance? Is this the hard way?
Thank you so much for explaining the term soulmate, i felt i had met my true one, but because of past life experiences, we drifted apart, i still feel he is the one, so i will start my manifestation, as you have explained. I did meet with him in passing, a week ago, and he acted so awkward towards me, a lot of things have happened in the last 18 months, but i feel we are going to reconnect, i also feel our time apart was needed, as we were not in a healthy place, i wasn’t personally because of the loss of so many close family members. But i now feel on the right path, so thank you again for explaining things in great detail.
If you’re practicing the technique on something bigger, this exercise may be tricky, but use your imagination. If you’re trying to lose weight, go out and buy an outfit that fits the size you’re aiming for. If you want a new car, go to a dealership and shop around. If you’re aiming for something as big as complete financial freedom, start planning what you’re going to do with all that free time and money.
“I began appreciating the best of my past relationships and also began doing the techniques I had learnt from you about attracting new love. Things shifted quickly: a new waiter had started at my favourite cafe and we were enjoying some great conversations – he was just my type, too. More than ever and all over the place, I began noticing more people who were my kind of partner – and they seemed to like me too. And on my way home one evening, as I was mid-affirmation and feeling very romantic I looked down and there were rose petals everywhere, all across the pavement I was walking on. I was outside the Royal Opera House and thought ‘wouldn’t it be nice to go there’. Soon after – and this is my reason for sending the success story – I met my ‘someone special’ at a friend’s birthday gathering and for our first date he bought me tickets to the Royal Opera House!”
Another issue that really causes resistance in the realm of relationships is finding love is so incredibly important to us. We are really attached to this manifestation; we are terrified of being alone, and it never happening. It is hard to just sit back and relax, knowing the Universe has got this. We are constantly noticing our single status, and lamenting it.
Here were my rules: In order for it to count, the money had to be from an unexpected source. If I was already anticipating the money that showed up, it wouldn’t count, even if I’d temporarily forgotten about it. Also, I didn’t want it to be associated with work. (Meaning, an out of the blue speaking gig for $1k wouldn’t count.) Anything that I had to work for wouldn’t be included in this tally.
Above all, find ways to be happier now, no matter what is going on. Make your happiness and well-being a priority. The higher you are "vibing" the more things you will attract into your experience that mirror back all these great feelings. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. You can want the relationship, but release on the desperate sense of "need" around it.
I got to work – I compiled images of what I wanted and looked at them constantly, I started researching Australia, I had no savings but just enough (with the rest scraped together by my mum) for a one way ticket. I took the risk – left everything behind and within 2 weeks I was in a hostel in Sydney, feeling lost and very scared! Against all odds everything on my list came true, down to the very last detail. And they were all ‘random’ little gifts from the universe! All I had to do was relax, keep the faith and believe. At first I was miserable, but I simply found things that made me happy. I sat and watched the sun set over the Opera House. I walked along the coast and thanked the universe for such a beautiful place to live. I said yes to every invitation and met loads of new people.
At the end of the experiment, those who imagined they were physically younger showed signs of de-aging. Blood pressure was lowered, arthritis was diminished and even eyesight and hearing in this control group improved. By simply imagining themselves younger, some physical aging was actually reversed. Their thoughts and imagination made this happen.
1) The Soulmate List. The first list is a list of ‘Green Light’ qualities and attributes that you’d like your soulmate to have. In other words, this is what you want to “get” in a Soulmate. In this list, you’ll describe all of the physical and non-physical characteristics you envision your soulmate to have. Here you want to include things that will begin to describe the kind of man or woman who would really make your heart sing.
I am so excited. Today is my first day of my 21 day journey to attract a specific person into my life. Yesterday I spent the day mentally preparing myself for this journey. I cleaned out my space and room to give me even more of a peace of mind. I also completed some mundane tasks that I had to in order to ensure my highest vibration. (Don’t want life’s minutiae to bring me down :)) Today was a great day to say the least. Better than I thought my first day was going to be. I did have a brief moment of doubt and a pang of negativity halfway through the day. I am aware of it and can only improve on it tomorrow. Really interesting side note though. I had one of the best days professionally. My boss took me aside and told me how smart I was and offered me more positions. I got repeated complements about my looks for coworkers and others. It was a great day! I know that this is long but I hope someone reads it. I really want the universe to know what it has done for me.
I know this can sound like a tall order. We are so conditioned to basing how we feel on outside events. It is easy to feel good when something happens that gives us a reason to—cultivating warm, fuzzies in the absence (or what we perceive to be the absence) of something to be happy about can take a bit of work. Feeling good even if things happen that you don’t like can take some practice. Living reactively will really put a damper on the attraction process, and it is a habit that needs to be addressed.
The first method for manifesting money into your life is by knowing that it will happen. You quite literally cannot anticipate it to occur if you don’t know, wholeheartedly, that it will come to pass. You need to know it and you need to own that you know it. Regardless of whatever else is going in your life, knowing that something will eventually happen is an incredibly powerful way for manifesting things.
I’d been with this man half my life, since we were sixteen years old. We had an eight-year marriage and shared three beautiful children, including twin girls just over a year old. We’d been through it all: buying our first home, then losing it in foreclosure; being overjoyed when I got pregnant with our second child, then devastated when I lost it six months into my pregnancy. I thought we’d seen everything, but this I never saw coming.
In many cases, the underlying issue, when it is broken down to its absolute core, is fear of some kind. Fear that people won’t think we are good enough. Fear of being vulnerable to someone. Fear of actually being happy—yeah, lots of people are actually afraid of that. We get so wrapped up in our crap and it becomes such a strong part of our identity, we may not actually know who we are without all the stories we tell ourselves. If you identify yourself as the perpetually single person, an asshole magnet or simply ‘unlucky’ in love, who are you without those labels?
For law of attraction to work, it is important for you to have a clear sense of your feelings. Often infatuation and short-term physical attraction are confused for love. Having opposite feelings to what you desire can impact the law of attraction. Here are some ways to understand whether you want to be romantically involved with your partner or it’s just another attraction.
When we talk about true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. It represents that your partner cares for you as much as you do. He/she wants to be with you for the rest of his life. Commitment believes that no matter what, you both are there for each other even in worst situations. This is one factor that should be equally shared by both the partners.
And also note that start with the little things first coz u will achieve them fast and once u get them u will understand the power of universe… Think abt a cup of coffee with ur friend, make evrything clr(whether u want him/her to invite u or u r gonna invute him/her) … n keep thinking abt it if this is exactly what makes u happy, stay happy n keep thinking abt ur dream. if u see him daily bt talk rarely then soon u will notice that he/she is being attracted to u magically and one day u will be surprised whn he/she invites u:) please also note how fast u manifest the things also depends upon what u want coz if u hv 50 dollors in ur pocket and u wish to hav a plane as a gift then u might hav to wait for years to get that(just an example). The universe will send u ideas, through the ppl he has got. He will nt only send things to u bt also attract you to ur wishes. U will actually see and feel things coming to u dramatically and one day u will achieve it for sure… n believe me it works so just try with some simple things first to believe it. and yes keep practicing gratitude daily… be grateful for the eyes u have…for the family u hav…for the life u hav… for the knowledge u hav.. for the frnds u hav… be grateful for everything u hav.
“I don’t see it manifesting” is where you’re going wrong. You’re focusing on what you see around you. Stop looking at your reality like it is and start seeing it how you want to be. So long as you focus on your reality, your thoughts are filled with your current reality, and that’s what you are creating – more evidence of not being with him. Simply put, you are not at one with your desire. You have to change your thoughts. You need to be able to relax and let go. You need to make sure you aren’t obsessing over things and trying to control the situation. You need to focus on raising your vibrational energy and doing things that make you feel joyful. This article on resistance might help you get clearer so you can attract a specific person.
Each "failed" relationship has given you clues about what you want in your ideal partner. The problem is, many women and men focus on the negative instead of the positive. For example, by saying that you don't want a man who "puts his work before the relationship," you are focusing on a man who puts work before love and that is the desire you are unconsciously sending out through your energy.
Why dont you create a position or appoint a person to carry out a laboratory investigation and create a strategic plan to improve the operations of the pathology laboratory?BINGO! I was making myself recognized and indispensible…in the event that I wanted to apply for a fulltime position after the internship period. Since then I had to meet with the CEO to share my ideas and results and my strategic plan was well appreciated. I learned a lot from Everton Anderson and use many of the principles even today.
Your thoughts have the power to create, so it is possible that you created this situation, but you can also turn it around. Let go of any worries or fears you have in regards to his ex. Be open to being in a relationship with him again and having him there 100%. Focus on being at one with being the relationship. Keep your vibration high by doing things you enjoy. The higher you can keep your vibration, the faster you should see results using the Law of Attraction for love to attract your specific person.
Lately I’ve been teaching my daughter Emily (age 10) how to manifest coins. I do this by turning it into a game. When we’re out walking together, I challenge her to see if she can find more coins than I can. The first time I did this, she was really bad at it. I found several coins during our walk together, often coins that she walked right past without even noticing. Instead of finding coins, she didn’t notice anything. The coins didn’t register within her perceptual reality.
According to neuroscientists, as you continue to meditate, your brain physically changes, even though you’re not aware of it reshaping itself. They’re also beginning to understand why meditation is effective for managing stress. Using brain imaging techniques, scientists have observed changes in the threat system of the brain. The response kicks-off in the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for triggering fear. People who suffer from chronic anxiety have a more reactive amygdala, and this leaves them feeling threatened much of the time.
Just like the good old tracks that the sled follows down the mountain. And so we tell the same old story, over and over, about why we have our childhood wounds, and about how bad our previous relationship was, how we got dumped, how we’re not being loved the way we want to be, how unequal this relationship is, how we have these abandonment issues, how they cheated on us, how we’re too old to find love, too fat, too skinny, too white, too black, too gay, too straight, too poor, too rich, too unstable, too unreliable, afraid of commitment, too demanding… Blah, blah, blah. PLEASE STOP! The more you tell the same old story, the more you’re perpetuating it in your experience and the more you’re blocking love from coming into your life. Why? Because you keep focusing on it.
This post is part of a series by Shelly Bullard — a primer on raising your vibration and attracting your soul mate. For the next five days, we’ll post one article offering the foundational elements you need to go deeper in the search for self love, and the love of your life. When you’re ready to take the next step, check out Shelly’s course: How To Attract A Partner Who’s Ready For Deep, Devoted Love.
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