It’s important to understand that mindfulness isn’t about changing anything or trying to understand it. This is because the analytical and judgement aspects — our automatic reactions — are unhealthy and actually perpetuate the problem. It reinforces the connection in our brain between the action and the negative feeling. To release that connection, approach it without judgement. Let it be.
i have been trying to use law of attraction for some time now, specially when it comes to love because there is one specific person that i am in love. but somehow i am doing something wrong because things don’t manifest the way want… i don’t know what i’m doing wrong. i don’t know if it’s my energy that is negative, if it’s me that is not believing enough, if it’s the way i vizualise things… i even made a visualization board, i write and think about the things that i feel grateful for, every night i imagine myself with that person and that person feeling the same way for me as i do for him but it doesn’t seem to be working… this law of attraction process is very hard, how do i know what i’m doing wrong?
2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that.  It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you.  For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others.  For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:
Simply put, money is just a story that someone invented and that took hold. It was decided, that some particular shape of coin, or inlaid metallic object, and piece of paper was worth more than the material it represented. This started out as a thought in someone’s mind. That thought is now commonplace. We now expect that a piece of paper with a certain number on it, with a specific color and other identifying elements, is worth something more than the paper it’s printed on.

You have no idea the million different ways you can meet someone. Sure, it may be through the typical avenues, like a mutual friend or a blind date. Or, it could happen in the most unexpected, and craziest of ways—the type of situation that makes a great ‘how we met’ story. So, do your best to stop trying to figure out how you would meet this person. Don’t look at the current framework of your life as some sort of filter through which you sift possibilities.

Hi Elizabeth, Ive just read the book – ive always visualised and practised gratitude and its worked well for me. However when it comes to love, not so much. I read the section on vibrational matches. When i think of him i feel fearful & anxious. I know this means im blocking him but its the way i feel. Ive been in love with him for nearly 2 years, but alas he now has someone else.


If you know yourself and are honest with yourself and appreciate yourself as much as you appreciate others and the universe you don’t need to be en guarde for ego violations all the time and point them out. :) People who DO have unhealthy ego problems wont hear you and those who have poor self esteem will put themselves down more. (wonder where they got that low self esteem to start….seems to be a lot of people around with it.)
I am not criticizing the LOA, I am in deep search of the true principle. I am even exploring it to it’s origins to try and see where it came from and who was REALLY successful with it. And unfortunately it comes down to the fact that the richest people from the LOA are the people who sell the theory. I don’t believe in Rhonda neither in any participants to THE SECRET. The only people whose theories I still believe in are Wallace Wattles and Florence Scovell-Shinn.
Well lately I have been looking at this LOA and I would love to try it. I have been very unfortunate with love and relationships for about a year now. It seem like everytime I get close with a guy, he leaves with no explanation. I get really attached and it hurts soo bad when they leave. And with this last guy I was with I have been having negative thoughts saying things like, “oh he wont stay”, and “What if he leaves like the rest?” Well it happened , but here’s the thing, I don’t know if it could be because of the negative thoughts or his ex. Let me explain what I mean. Well me and this guy that I would never thought I would have feelings for start becoming really good friends. He was attracted to me, but couldn’t date me because he was already in a relationship with his girlfriend of almost 2 years. A month later she have been talking to him about breaking up and finally she did. Then me and him start getting close. Everything was going great until his ex wanted to come back. Well he let her and now I’m left in the cold once again. I strongly believe the only reason she’s back in his life is because she found out about me and got upset. I don’t think she love him like she say she do, but I don’t know. I do see us being a great couple, but how can I get the LOA to work for me and him and she’s in the way?
Right from Day 1 when I saw secret for the first time, I had a belief that Law of Attraction works. While doing my research on LOA I came across Awesome AJ and connected with him on Facebook and then on WhatsApp. I use to discuss with him the power of positive words and how to rephrase our sentences with positive words. We use to discuss a lot of real-life situations and one of the discussion was around Team India’s campaign line for 2015 ICC Cricket World Cup. Star Sports came up with ‘We Won’t Give It Back’ campaign and we discussed the impact of billion people saying Give It Back and we all know what happened in the world cup we gave it back to Australia from whom we have taken it 2011.
Sorry for the late reply and thank for your answer 🙂 Actually what I was mostly aiming at was of course manifesting signs of my loved one before Christmas but having the goal of spending the holidays with him. I haven’t seen him in so long, he is quite far away and I have no idea how that will manifest itself but I am leaving it up to the universe to make it happen because Christmas used to have a very special meaning to us. Also during our book club and going over your book “how to manifest a specific person” one of the readers wanted to know if it was alright for her to chant (she is an assiduous buddhist) her buddhist mantra while using LOA. She wanted to know if it was compatible eventhough it is the same philosophy, she was afraid that perhaps practising two different methods might delay her manifestations in any way…I do not know if this is something you can help her with! Loving our little book club which is growing too!!!!
What I didn’t realize was that I had already used the laws of attraction without realizing it. Months prior, I had tried a moon manifest, writing down my desires for a new place to live. While that manifestation took a little longer, my apartment is amazingly perfect for me. I think you are right, the universe provides in the order you need, and bigger manifestation take a little more time. Can’t wait to see where life can go from here!
I’ve read your book and followedour blog religiously-thank you so much for sharing your knowledge! I have been intending to manifest a specifuc relationship with my ex. I was even inspired to randomly buy him a plane ticket to see me-however on the am of his flight he contacted me and said he didn’t feel comfortable coming—I was so positive and sure to that he would come. I visulized him coming and our relationship reignitung—–what happened? What did I do wrong?
The law of attraction has proven itself to me on many occasions. I really do believe, it is hard to say in words exactly as it’s more of a feeling. I will try to explain. I want something to happen, I put the desire out there then in my minds eye actually visualise it happening – totally. Even put images on a vision board, dream pictures in my mind and get excited knowing it’s coming and is on its way to me. This is when the magic happens. I get this urge for action, a complete gut feeling to do something and an inner drive over takes me. Then when I have completed the task in hand, only afterwards, have I realise the law of attraction delivers. I hope this makes sense, I have received things like getting the job I wanted in the past, building the house I used to draw out in my mind, starting a successful business, receiving unexpected money etc.
“It’s been a year since I met my soul mate- and it just gets better and better. It all began when I came along to the groups and managed to distract myself so much with the good in my life (through daily appreciation and meditation) that I literally bumped into him in the street. It seems the phrase ‘you find love when you are not looking for it’ may be true. Yes, I wanted to meet someone but it seems that when I dropped my obsession, I met him.”

Hey Phil, my friend Claire sent this over after seeing me last night for the first time in months. I have been obsessively working on a project / startup to use rock climbing and adventure to help at-risk kids in the slums of Brazil. Check out our video if you are interested (www.indiegogo.com/adventureforgood) but that project is really not the focus. What I found is that although I love what I am doing and believe in it completely, I have been stressed out of my mind and without realizing it, I have been manifesting this stress into all aspects of my life and sometimes into the energy of my campaign. Reading your blog I was reminded of how important it is to manifest not only what you want but also how you want to feel. That energy is so important and certainly dictates how people feel around you. I have been bringing my computer to bed and stressing out over emails until I fall asleep… NOT healthy. This post really helped me reflect on practicing not only the law of attraction but the law of ‘feeling good’. Hope to bump into you around Boulder Phil.

Another one from Abraham Hicks. I intend to read all of the Abraham, Esther and Jerry Hicks stuff lol. Sometimes I also listen to them on youtube. They were very inspiring and direct to the point and very helpful in my path to spirituality and goodness and patience and all the good things lol. I'll never stop learning and I'll never stop practicing loa. I believe that it is all worth it! :)
“I love your work at the Centre- it’s practical, it’s real and it feels so good to have found a loving community! Last year I was doing the Focusing Process about an ex-partner of mine, who I was out of communication with for months. The process really made me finally feel relaxed about it all. Just as I put the pen down, after finishing the last ‘box’, the phone rang- and it was her. We are now great friends and have both found wonderful new partners- all thanks to the Law of Attraction and your workshops (which we have both attended).”

When you do find yourself meeting with someone, don’t pin all your hopes on this person being the ‘one.’ You really don’t even know him yet, and you have no idea if this person is really compatible with you, or is the type of person you would want to be with over the long-term. Sure, you can be excited, and look forward to it, but release any expectation around how things will play out. Work on getting yourself into a state of ‘surrender’ where you just accept what happens as it happens, knowing all the while, what you want is coming, even if you have no idea how that looks right now.


You can’t attract someone who loves you for who you are, if you are not really BEING who you are. Not being yourself because you think there is something wrong with you will also lead you to attracting people who mirror these feelings back to you, which to those unaware of how law of attraction operates, will falsely take these experiences and encounters as ‘proof’ they are right in feeling that way about themselves.
The first time I did this a few weeks prior I had a very different routine than the second time. My first attempt included several manifesting tools and resulted in a near-miss of $70,000 on day seven. (Way to overdeliver, Universe!) But when it didn’t come to fruition by day ten, I got irritated and dropped it. That $70k check is still on its way, but it doesn’t count for the ten-day limit on this project.
I’ve noticed that as I’ve shifted my vibe to manifest larger sums of money and to manifest new experiences in other parts of my life, I seem to fall out of resonance with manifesting smaller sums. I’m not as good at manifesting coins as I was in 2006. That’s because my vibe isn’t tuned in to the coin manifesting frequency as much. These days I’m spending more time using the LoA to manifest cool social connections and travel experiences. I’ve tuned my vibe to focus on that part of the perceptual frequency. I also feel more excited and playful about manifesting in these other areas as opposed to adding to my financial score.

Hi Geoff! Thank you for your reply. I do understand the chapter is about getting an ex back. However, what I meant to ask is whether the same rule applies if the person you want to manifest a relationship with is someone you haven’t previously dated. You see I talk to him everyday and he often tends to talk about the girl he is with or unknowingly tells me how I mean a lot to him but only as a friend. And every time that happens I just can’t stop negative thoughts of fear and doubt cropping up in my mind, thus making it difficult for me to let go. So I want to know if I should maintain some distance, perhaps talk less often. The only issue here is that there isn’t really any problem between us. He knows I love him and we kind of sorted it out a couple of months back and have continued to be best friends. I don’t quite have a reason to suddenly cut down on talking to him and I am sure if I do that he would want to know why.
TF shows you real self and opens soul to feel unconditional Divine Love for it is divine power. On the soul level there are soul improvements to benefit you both as a mirror and you learn 2 are One in your energy feelings of soul connection. Over time you learn to work together as you live in true self and honor and listen to own soul as you walk the journey. Twin improves soul for soul journey and Divine marriage Union. There is magical connection and wont feel comfortable with anyone else if you choose not to commit. The soul is always looking for its counterpart to bring you close to divine powers that make you Divine beings and feel angelic power inside of you. This Divine Love vibration inside will change you and others around you and they will feel it.. The vibrations are not from the heart but from the soul.
Hi Phill, your article is a great inspiration, I came across this Law of attraction for the first time early last month in Oprah Winfre’s website, though I believe in the law but sometimes discouraged , your article is a great booster to me, your explanations are more detailed and I will pick up from there with perseverance , any further help will be appreciated .
“I wanted to write in and thank you and share a testimonial about your work that may help others: I had tried it all- online dating, offline dating, blind dates- you name it. After doing your workshop about love a few years ago I realised that I was trying too hard to ‘make it happen’ out of fear that if I didn’t do anything, nothing would happen. But nothing was happening even with all my work- worse than nothing actually- a lot of pain and disappointment. The more I dated the more doubtful I became that I’d ever meet ‘the one’. So I threw myself into my work, writing every day on the Universe List to ‘Bring me my husband in the perfect time’ and ‘bring me more interests’. I also started doing a daily appreciation list and got involved in some new projects to distract me from my dating obsession.
Once you’ve made your decision, a big part of understanding how to manifest love with a specific person lies in getting a clear sense of what it is about this person that makes you believe that looking for love with them will truly make you happy. As such, part of making a manifestation commitment involves beginning to analyze yourself in a new, deeper way.

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