Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.
Well lately I have been looking at this LOA and I would love to try it. I have been very unfortunate with love and relationships for about a year now. It seem like everytime I get close with a guy, he leaves with no explanation. I get really attached and it hurts soo bad when they leave. And with this last guy I was with I have been having negative thoughts saying things like, “oh he wont stay”, and “What if he leaves like the rest?” Well it happened , but here’s the thing, I don’t know if it could be because of the negative thoughts or his ex. Let me explain what I mean. Well me and this guy that I would never thought I would have feelings for start becoming really good friends. He was attracted to me, but couldn’t date me because he was already in a relationship with his girlfriend of almost 2 years. A month later she have been talking to him about breaking up and finally she did. Then me and him start getting close. Everything was going great until his ex wanted to come back. Well he let her and now I’m left in the cold once again. I strongly believe the only reason she’s back in his life is because she found out about me and got upset. I don’t think she love him like she say she do, but I don’t know. I do see us being a great couple, but how can I get the LOA to work for me and him and she’s in the way?

In my last LOA post, I talked in more general terms about what practical steps we can take to start feeling better about our lives as they are now because this will help us tremendously in genuinely shifting our energy, and giving less attention to the limiting beliefs that may have contributed to our situation as it stands now. And, I used money as an example, so this is a bit of repeat. But, some people may not have read that post, and for those of you that did, and are working on money manifestations, it probably wouldn’t hurt to be reminded again of how helpful this can be.
I thought maybe I’d buy a Toyota, since that was what I could afford - or so it seemed. But I had to stop by the Cadillac dealership for some reason that escapes me now. I ran into the Service Manager, who’d become a friend over the years of me bringing my car there for service. He asked where my car was; I told him it’d been totaled. “So, you’re here to buy a new one?” he asked. No, I can’t afford one. “Nonsense! I’ll introduce you to our sales manager, and you’ll drive a Cadillac out of here today!” I laughed, and agreed to meet the sales manager.
Once you get to the 1st position, it means thousands have been working the program since you started. All of those people will then pay you as the 1st and you won't believe the kind of money that has been generated. When your name (email address) reaches the 1st slot, 900 to 15,000 or more people will send you $5.00 dollars each. You could easily make up to $50,000 USD.
Your thoughts have the power to create, so it is possible that you created this situation, but you can also turn it around. Let go of any worries or fears you have in regards to his ex. Be open to being in a relationship with him again and having him there 100%. Focus on being at one with being the relationship. Keep your vibration high by doing things you enjoy. The higher you can keep your vibration, the faster you should see results using the Law of Attraction for love to attract your specific person.
This means that you may have to wait, while the Universe engineers the perfect and ideal timing for the two of you to come together, and learn to be patient while you deepen your faith, and your ability to give and receive love. If you and your soulmate have not met yet it is very likely that one of you have unfinished business or might be completing a relationship cycle with another person.
We all long for that connection with someone else. It is natural to want it. It is okay to want it. The absence of it in our life creates a very strong emotional reaction. We notice the lack of a relationship constantly. There is a huge vibration of lack. What we are ‘vibrating’ now will determine what we attract into our experience now, so we need to clean things up here a bit.
TF shows you real self and opens soul to feel unconditional Divine Love for it is divine power. On the soul level there are soul improvements to benefit you both as a mirror and you learn 2 are One in your energy feelings of soul connection. Over time you learn to work together as you live in true self and honor and listen to own soul as you walk the journey. Twin improves soul for soul journey and Divine marriage Union. There is magical connection and wont feel comfortable with anyone else if you choose not to commit. The soul is always looking for its counterpart to bring you close to divine powers that make you Divine beings and feel angelic power inside of you. This Divine Love vibration inside will change you and others around you and they will feel it.. The vibrations are not from the heart but from the soul.
My pleasure. I’m glad you found the response helpful. Melody is great, I have been a fan of hers for a long time. Focusing on that will do wonders for you..just wait and see! Getting what we want doesn’t have to involve doing a bunch of stuff we don’t and it doesn’t have to be painful, contrary to the more common ways of thinking. Several years ago, I visited Korea for a week when I was on vacation from my teaching job in Japan. I was only able to see Busan, but loved it. I would love to go back and see more of the country.
Hey Phil, my friend Claire sent this over after seeing me last night for the first time in months. I have been obsessively working on a project / startup to use rock climbing and adventure to help at-risk kids in the slums of Brazil. Check out our video if you are interested (www.indiegogo.com/adventureforgood) but that project is really not the focus. What I found is that although I love what I am doing and believe in it completely, I have been stressed out of my mind and without realizing it, I have been manifesting this stress into all aspects of my life and sometimes into the energy of my campaign. Reading your blog I was reminded of how important it is to manifest not only what you want but also how you want to feel. That energy is so important and certainly dictates how people feel around you. I have been bringing my computer to bed and stressing out over emails until I fall asleep… NOT healthy. This post really helped me reflect on practicing not only the law of attraction but the law of ‘feeling good’. Hope to bump into you around Boulder Phil.
I’ve noticed that as I’ve shifted my vibe to manifest larger sums of money and to manifest new experiences in other parts of my life, I seem to fall out of resonance with manifesting smaller sums. I’m not as good at manifesting coins as I was in 2006. That’s because my vibe isn’t tuned in to the coin manifesting frequency as much. These days I’m spending more time using the LoA to manifest cool social connections and travel experiences. I’ve tuned my vibe to focus on that part of the perceptual frequency. I also feel more excited and playful about manifesting in these other areas as opposed to adding to my financial score.
I know the LOA says when you want to manifest a specific person you have to be willing to lose them – you have to let go and be ok with not being with them in order to manifest the relationship you want. It also says that you should visualize the relationship you want with this person as if you already have it. How can one do both? How can I imagine being in a relationship with this person but let them go and be ok with not the being with them at the same time?
Most people's minds are like a wild dog or a stormy ocean...How to make the right decisions? As a result they get distracted all the time making the wrong decisions and they have difficulty to stay focused on their goals, priorities and what they want in life... In this step will teach you how to LASER-FOCUS your mind with Meditation and get more clarity so you can stay focused on your goals, make clear decisions and take productive action!
In my last LOA post, I talked in more general terms about what practical steps we can take to start feeling better about our lives as they are now because this will help us tremendously in genuinely shifting our energy, and giving less attention to the limiting beliefs that may have contributed to our situation as it stands now. And, I used money as an example, so this is a bit of repeat. But, some people may not have read that post, and for those of you that did, and are working on money manifestations, it probably wouldn’t hurt to be reminded again of how helpful this can be.
3. Love without fear of getting hurt. The scariest thing about love is opening yourself up to it. When you open yourself, there's a chance you might get hurt. If you're afraid of getting hurt, you might unconsciously be preventing someone from getting as close to you as you want. Be willing to take the risk and fully open yourself to love. You will manifest the love you want.
But again, theory, and real world application, are quite different, because of that good old resistance. Just wanting a great relationship isn't enough if you have a lot of blocks around allowing one in. You have to believe you can truly have one. When you think about meeting that perfect person for you, and it doesn't feel good, you have to examine that.

On the day he left, I didn’t have five dollars to my name. Our electric, water and gas bills were all past due, with shutoff notices pending, and the rent was late. I hadn’t worked in over two years, and the economy was in the middle of a deep recession. The car title was in his name, as was our bank account. Overnight, I went from desperate to stranded and destitute, with no way to provide for my three small children. 


Nice article, but i have some questions. I like one girl, she is so pretty, she is in my office but in other building. I only see her when office is closed and employees go there home. She was some days ago in my building working but her department shift to other building and she is here that time i just see her and she know that. But i dont have gutts to talk with her. Some time she also see me. But after she left my building the things changed. I also so shy thats why some time she is front of me but i not see her. and I think this thing i done worst. and one more thing i send her friend request thats she not accept from 3 weeks yet but she not decline also (becaouse there is “add as friend” is not shown “request send” msg still there) now she not see me or many times we not saw to each other but like her so much please help me.
“I began appreciating the best of my past relationships and also began doing the techniques I had learnt from you about attracting new love. Things shifted quickly: a new waiter had started at my favourite cafe and we were enjoying some great conversations – he was just my type, too. More than ever and all over the place, I began noticing more people who were my kind of partner – and they seemed to like me too. And on my way home one evening, as I was mid-affirmation and feeling very romantic I looked down and there were rose petals everywhere, all across the pavement I was walking on. I was outside the Royal Opera House and thought ‘wouldn’t it be nice to go there’. Soon after – and this is my reason for sending the success story – I met my ‘someone special’ at a friend’s birthday gathering and for our first date he bought me tickets to the Royal Opera House!”

The analogy is simple: if you’re carrying a passenger in your car, there won’t be room for your Soulmate to sit in it!  So, if you’re still in love with this person, but you know that they are not your soul mate and/or there is no possibility of a true, loving, committed relationship with them, it’s time to let them go.   This does not mean you have to stop loving them. It simply means that you have to find a new space in your heart for them, a special chamber where you will put all the people whom you have loved in the past.
It’s ironic how I’ve already been doing these steps without knowing i was doing it..well i met my soulmate we are going through our challeging times. at first it was me i stop talking to him for six months gave no explanation i was healing from an abusive marriage had so many insecurities i began healing became whole. I was at a party had no idea i would ever see or talk to him again because i changed my number yes i saw him there i went to say something he was gone I was trying to think how will i talk or see him again I found his number we started talking again we have a deep connection but since i’ve healed i notice he has some healing to do from past marriage he was in yes 10 yrs ago he has not let go of what happened. Anyway we had a brief discussion he is holding on why i stop talking to him said when he wanted relationship i didn’t I explained it wasn’t I didn’t want one i had just gotten out of an abusive marriage i was in for 12 years he was shocked said i should have told him now he’s saying he’s not ready for a relationship right now his career i transitioning he’s deciding if he’s going to retire after 25 yrs of serving in military relationship too much. I expressed i understand since that conversation we have seen each other twice in unexpected places to see each other. I’m sharing this because i know without a doubt he’s my soulmate & i’m his soulmate actually when we first met he told me I was the one. I’m trust & believe in this love journey!! Thank you so much this is confirmation for me!!! Much love for you Gabriel
I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex back. I was going crazy when my love left me for another guy last 3 month, then i meet a friend that introduce me to DR aluta the great messenger to the oracle that he supervene, I narrated my problem to DR aluta about how my ex left me Dr Aluta only said to me that i have come to the right place where i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect. He told me what i need to do after it was been done the next 5 days My EX called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness, ..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr aluta at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct at traditionalspellhospital@gmail.com and get your problems solve like me
“Thank you for all of your help this year. Your work is extraordinary. I had been single for many years- the occasional date but nothing serious. In July I met a man and we have been enjoying life together ever since. I acknowledge myself for making my inner changes- but credit is seriously due to your workshops and groups; and the space they gave me to discover myself again.”

There is a trick to The Law of Attraction and it's not as magical as one might imagine: we attract the things that we focus on. When we focus on not having enough, that thought form supports the "lack of" we routinely experience. We are forever reminded to use affirmations and to keep our thoughts positive, but "feeling sorry for myself" continues to be the mantra of many people. Furthermore, we can be bombarded with repetitive negative phrases in our thinking, such as:
I am out here to spread this good news to the entire world on how I got my ex back. I was going crazy when my love left me for another guy last 3 month, then i meet a friend that introduce me to DR aluta the great messenger to the oracle that he supervene, I narrated my problem to DR aluta about how my ex left me Dr Aluta only said to me that i have come to the right place where i will be getting my heart desire without any side effect. He told me what i need to do after it was been done the next 5 days My EX called me on the phone and was saying sorry for living me before now and also in the next one week after my love called me to be pleading for forgiveness, ..I am so happy and overwhelmed that i have to tell this to the entire world to contact Dr aluta at the following email address and get all your problem solve..No problem is too big for him to solve..Contact him direct at traditionalspellhospital@gmail.com and get your problems solve like me
Step 4: As you work to manifest your soulmate, the final stage of your journey to attract love involves cultivating patience. Embrace this sense of peace as you accept that the Universe can – and will – give you what you need. Although you’ve been focusing on how to manifest love with a specific person, looking for love through Law of Attraction techniques rests on your ability to trust that the Universe knows exactly what kind of partner can help you manifest love that lasts. Don’t fret about when you’re going to find your soulmate. But rather, rest easy in the knowledge that you will find them at the perfect time.

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