If you’re problem is habit you might want to check out Charles Duhigg’s latest book called The Power of Habit. In it he describes how we can hack into our habit forming system. It’s called the Habit Loop. I’m reading it now and I’m totally hooked. I have successfully implemented many habits and so far still sticking to them! Give it a go, I’m sure it can help with your writing.


Hi Phill, your article is a great inspiration, I came across this Law of attraction for the first time early last month in Oprah Winfre’s website, though I believe in the law but sometimes discouraged , your article is a great booster to me, your explanations are more detailed and I will pick up from there with perseverance , any further help will be appreciated .


According to neuroscientists, as you continue to meditate, your brain physically changes, even though you’re not aware of it reshaping itself. They’re also beginning to understand why meditation is effective for managing stress. Using brain imaging techniques, scientists have observed changes in the threat system of the brain. The response kicks-off in the amygdala, the part of the brain responsible for triggering fear. People who suffer from chronic anxiety have a more reactive amygdala, and this leaves them feeling threatened much of the time.
i broke up with my guy just a week back. we were in deep love.but he was realy irriated with me flirting around with other guyz.but i never had any affair with any guy while i was in relationship with him nigther did i cheat on him.dayz back first time he caught me lying ,well i had just called a guy friend of mine(who he dislikes) but i did not tell him about it while he was goin through my phone he just found his contact in the dialled no. and after that he broke up with me. but now when i have changed for him completely , i have stopped talkin 2 every guy friend of mine he doesnt trust me and he doesnt wanna come back.but i cant get over him,i realy love him truly. what do i do.i tried giving him some cute surprises and getting him back but he says his liking hasnt incresed for me at all.
I had a choice – to do the easy option, hide from my fear of the unknown and stay in the situation where I would be avoiding what I really wanted, or make a change and take a risk to achieve what I wanted! I sat down and mapped out exactly what I wanted. I looked at a map of the world and looked at where made my heart happy at the thought of living there. Turns out it was Australia! The other side of the world. The rest of my list included: close friends, a fabulous apartment in the city, a good job, money, excitement and adventure, city life, warmth, sunshine, travel and a wonderful boyfriend.
That week I sold everything we owned on Craigslist and filed for divorce. I took the money I made from our belongings to pay for first and last month’s rent on a really tiny, super-shitty two-bedroom apartment. I had just enough left over for one more month of rent and a few groceries. That was all the money I had in the world: I didn’t even have a bank account. My sister convinced me to get on food stamps, just until I got on my feet, and though I cried when the case worker took my story, I knew I had no choice. I applied for every job I could find, but interviews were few and far between. When the second month came and my rent money was gone, I sold my wedding rings on Craigslist for a fraction of their value; enough for one more month’s rent. When the women came to pick up my rings, she looked around our little apartment at my twins running around in their diapers and said, “I don’t want to know. Please don’t tell me the story.” She didn’t want my “bad luck” giving her new wedding rings negative juju. 
You can tell if your affirmation is positive or negative by the way it makes you feel. If it makes you feel great, it is positive. If it makes you feel bad, it is negative. It's that simple. If you find yourself thinking negative thoughts, simply turn them around and start focusing on the positive. You will immediately feel better and you will be in alignment with love.
I recently purchased your book and started applying the loa to my relationship. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now but we’ve known each other since we were kids…In the beginning he was really into me and passionate, he always found some way to touch me..but a couple of weeks ago all of his affection has stopped and I found out that he still talks to his ex but for court related issues that will be going on until January. Now he seems almost scared to get close to me as if she has threatened him, but I see him everyday and we still kiss goodnight sometimes. He told me hes not completely over her but he never wants to be with her again and that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with anyone for a very long time, but he also says how attracted he is to me and how much he cares for me.
2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’.  These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people.  This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
After meditating daily, for 2–4 weeks, and you are operating on a higher frequency you will notice that a thought or ideas suddenly come to you, during or after meditation. You will realize this is not just a random thought. It will feel different, like an impulse, you will have a desire to take action on it. It can be anything, even something completely random, like going to the grocery store to pick something up, or to call a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. Whatever the inspired idea is, follow through with it because what it is is a stepping stone. It brings what you want to manifest a step closer to you. Things manifest in stages, not all at once. It may seem like something just comes to you out of the blue, but it doesn’t. It’s one thing that leads to another that will lead to another thing and that inevitably brings what you want to you. Don’t try to make it happen, just chill out, get out of your own way, and allow it to happen. The Universe will take care of the details, you just have to be ready.
That week I sold everything we owned on Craigslist and filed for divorce. I took the money I made from our belongings to pay for first and last month’s rent on a really tiny, super-shitty two-bedroom apartment. I had just enough left over for one more month of rent and a few groceries. That was all the money I had in the world: I didn’t even have a bank account. My sister convinced me to get on food stamps, just until I got on my feet, and though I cried when the case worker took my story, I knew I had no choice. I applied for every job I could find, but interviews were few and far between. When the second month came and my rent money was gone, I sold my wedding rings on Craigslist for a fraction of their value; enough for one more month’s rent. When the women came to pick up my rings, she looked around our little apartment at my twins running around in their diapers and said, “I don’t want to know. Please don’t tell me the story.” She didn’t want my “bad luck” giving her new wedding rings negative juju. 
I am writing this post in the apartment I manifested. I had the exact apartment in mind as some friends lived here a couple of years before, but at that time I didn’t have the salary to afford it. When I did, I starting thinking about the place again. The woman who lived here worked for me and was telling me she was thinking of moving, but perhaps not for a year or more. I started visualising that place being mine for after she left. Fortunately or unfortunately, depending on how you look at it, she suddenly left to go back to England, leaving me with a hole in my department but the flat that I wanted. Fortunately on both accounts I had a new department member within the week, plus the keys to the apartment, but cheaper than I had expected because the landlady said I didn’t need to pay for utilities as I was living alone! An intention I wrote about 6 months ago mentions a 2 bedroomed apartment by the sea, but with views of the mountains. My terrace is directly over the sea, I can see it from my bed, but from my front door I have clear view of the mountains.
“There was someone who I liked. Well, it was more than ‘liked’. When I finally got the courage to speak to her after several months and tell her my feelings, she was very direct with me- looking me straight in the eye and saying “It’s never going to happen. I only see you as a friend”. I was absolutely crushed and also shocked- my guidance was normally very precise. But I also knew how guided she was, too. Despite her certainty, I couldn’t get her off my mind and felt very down about it. It’s awful wanting something so much which you simultaneously think is ‘impossible’ to achieve. These thoughts of longing lasted many months until finally, when it all got too much, I decided to give the processes a go. I began doing the Universe List. I ‘gave up’ trying to impress her, trying to be ‘good enough’ and trying in general. I fully embraced the situation and decided to release the control (which wasn’t working anyway). I said to the Universe, “if I’m meant to be with her I will be and if I’m not- so be it”. And I meant it, this time. Within days, we met up, and suddenly she expressed how she didn’t know what was going on but she saw me in a different light. My friends say it was like the uplifting ‘twist’ at the end of one of those crowd-pleasing Hollywood movies- something that doesn’t happen in real life. But it was happening, to me! Now, a year later, we are blissfully happy. We are experiencing what I have read described in spiritual literature as a ‘twin flame’ relationship. The biggest gift this situation brought me, though, is that when you give it all up to the Universe- things beyond your wildest imaginings can happen. It taught me surrender- which has caused all aspects of my life to flourish like never before. I have to add that The Law of Attraction Centre’s groups, workshops and community have been instrumental in assisting me making my life work.”
“As I began to ‘unstick’ myself from old, tired and frankly boring thoughts around ‘how I wouldn’t meet anyone’ or ‘how, I wasn’t attractive enough’ thanks to a new routine including meditation and taking action like going to several of your workshops, I began to notice several things. Firstly: I looked younger, something I was initially told by people and then I could see myself. And secondly, I have noticed more available, interested men around me. I’ll keep you updated on how it goes from here!”
Hi Gabs, i have a long story but i’l cut it. After i said a prayer, talking to the Universe to send me a lady that i will get married to, i met a lady on facebook. She is a Gemini and i’m a Saggitarus. She became so deep in love with me and i culd sense it. But when she understood she was 2years older than me, her love began to undulate. She kept saying that i’m young and once she has a baby or two, she will look like my aunt cos of her size. Prior to our relationship, she has been in several relationshps with men, now she has a perspective bout men not been faithful. I assured her i was different and even if she has a child before that wont matter to me. But she seems to be falling apart. What do i need to do, to convince her of my love and my faithfulness and ensuring her loyalty? I love her and distance is not a barrier in my relationshp with her. Ur article is superb, it has updated my horizon. U can email me ur answers. emamaks2000@yahoo.co.nz. Thanks.
The journey of welcoming your Soulmate is a journey towards your authentic nature.  It’s not a journey of finding somebody who is going to love you, make you happy, or give you something that you don’t already have, but rather it is a journey of growing yourself and your own capacity to love yourself first before you can love others or welcome and recognize their love.  It is about becoming more yourself, doing all the necessary clearing out, and embracing all the darker, subtle, shadow aspects of yourself that you’ve been unwilling to look at.

Again, we can only attract that to which we are currently a match, so this means we can’t wait to feel better about our lives until what we want comes. You have to make peace with your single status. You have to start finding ways to feel happy about your life now as it is. This doesn’t mean pretending to like things you don’t, but diligently working on adopting a perspective that actually makes you feel better. It is about focusing on the things in your life that are good, and building on that energy. It is about making time to do things that make you feel good, that help produce the feelings you think you would get from being in a relationship.


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That was about the time my girlfriend Charise walked in the door with her arms full of Costco boxes. She’d thought of everything: diapers and formula for the girls, dinner for the next week, and even enough cash to keep the electricity and water on. That is the moment that has defined my #RelentlessPursuit. That is the moment I Hustle and grind for. 

The Law of Attraction doesn’t work by just sitting there and wishing for these things to come to you. So I want you to just start by creating a detailed list of every step you’ll need to take to achieve your goals. I guarantee this will make it easier to move into action. To hold you more accountable, feel free to share your action plan with me in the comments and I’ll be sure to follow up with you.
I need some advise from you. I would like to say thank you to you. Your article gave me hope. However, here is my story. I am in love with this guy that I know since 2011. We were so close that we were in ‘NO STRING ATTACHED’ kind of relationship and I felt in love with him. Till now I believe he is the one for me but it is really hard because he don’t see me in that way. He cares for me but he always says I will be happier with someone else. I know its him that I always wanted. He is the amazing guy that I really wish to spend my time with. I did visual n all but its been almost a year and there isnt any results yet. I just want him to realise and notice whats he is missing. Want him to give me a chance of being with him. I truely love him since the first I met him. Please revert back to me. Your assistance are much appreciated.
Focus on understanding your part in this overall process, rather than feeling guilty or ashamed. Recognizing how your fears have manifested in your life does not mean that the bad things in your life are your fault. It simply means that the Law of Attraction has responded to the signal you sent out. Just acknowledge that the system works and your new awareness will guide you. No need to shame yourself or even feel responsible.
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That week I sold everything we owned on Craigslist and filed for divorce. I took the money I made from our belongings to pay for first and last month’s rent on a really tiny, super-shitty two-bedroom apartment. I had just enough left over for one more month of rent and a few groceries. That was all the money I had in the world: I didn’t even have a bank account. My sister convinced me to get on food stamps, just until I got on my feet, and though I cried when the case worker took my story, I knew I had no choice. I applied for every job I could find, but interviews were few and far between. When the second month came and my rent money was gone, I sold my wedding rings on Craigslist for a fraction of their value; enough for one more month’s rent. When the women came to pick up my rings, she looked around our little apartment at my twins running around in their diapers and said, “I don’t want to know. Please don’t tell me the story.” She didn’t want my “bad luck” giving her new wedding rings negative juju. 


2) Visualising and meditating is pointless without work. Mark Cuban says a famous quote which is: "Work like there is someone working 24 hours a day to take it away from you". Me getting my goals is a 2 part process. 1) Meditating and visualising and 2) working incredibly hard. Both go hand in hand, if you do one without the other, you will not (according to my experiencing) manifest it into reality. The reason is because simply meditating on something is wishing, which is not the same as visualising and working.
The thing is that there is no way to know for sure if another guy is gay or bi in most situations, so it's harder to casually meet a guy on the street or at some social function without possibly getting into an awkward situation when you try to feel him out. This means that the options that are left to us can be...less wholesome situations. Combine that with the naturally high sex drive of a male, then multiply that by two and...well, you know how it is.

Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.


Twin Flames (TF) are Cosmic Marriages of One Soul and exchange of energy of the heart that is in perfect resonance with your own frequency which mirrors you with true heart connection preordained by the cosmos with a grand plan to fulfill the prophecy of love set forth by the cosmos that the 2 as 1 will travel the Journey of Life together. This encounter happens when you’re in line and have decided to evolve and fulfill and carry out your mission and are open to your spiritual path and have the same level of awareness from the lessons life has offered you. Once your TF walks in your life, life is never the same again for they change your life like you had never imagined and this soul connection lasts a lifetime as you live out the rest of your days on this earth together and return to source as ONE.. You felt familiar the moment you met, a lovely sort of deja vu. They know you more than you know yourself. They get you when no one else does and stand by you.. TF will show you everything that is holding you back and brings it to your attention as they reveal the layers of your spirit. Spiritual light to intertwine with other half of your soul. Share same soul union and align with twin. Divine soul union of 2 twin soul coactivation of love of christ which fills each others heart with infinite light and illumination meeting together to form a union to work together in the new earth in counseling, healing and restoration, etc in Sacred Divine Unconditional Comic Love. Love being the core of your being shining light to the world in one soul energy set forth in the same vibration and frequency in a Divine Holy Partnership.. lst there will be flow in soul that brings inner peace and the flow inside of your connection is so strong that you both think alike. There are no desires of control or trying to change them, compromises, conditions, expectations, etc. Only pure existence of unconditional love w/o prejudgment. You dont have to fight for anything as in me vs you for you are truly ONE. You are in mutual agreement and trust the unknown as it unfolds. There are no vibrations of stress no matter what energy or background or planets moving in the universe. THe two of you will feel deep sacred connection within each other’s soul. You will not live in the same vibrations as traditional relationships of 3D. You both come to a position of not needing or asking or wanting or getting for there are no desires in this soul relationship for you have everything you need, want and desire within you and dont have to please each other. You know they love you and dont have to ask for love, you just receive it in your soul connection of giving and receiving as you are continuously making love with one another on a soul level. It is not necessary to have to push for anything, you just receive and give free to each other as energy moves into one another and creates beautiful synchronicity. This energy is so pure and clean that flows between you it charges both of you. You wont need a lot of sleep because of twin soul connection your body and mind state is relaxed and have peace.
The degree of your self-acceptance will dictate the quality of your relationship. If you try to manifest a relationship when you're full of desperation and you have low self-esteem, you may indeed succeed, but the relationship will almost certainly be sub-par. You might drive your partner away, unconsciously cause drama in your relationship, or--more likely--attract a partner who is not good for you.
When it comes to what draws people to give this whole law of attraction thing a whirl, I would have to say finding a relationship is right up there near the top, along with getting more of that sweet, sweet cash. And people seem to really struggle in the love department. But manifesting a relationship is not any different than manifesting anything else, in theory.
I’m yet to develop a habit of writing something every day, or every other day, or producing one post per week… Without a habit in place there is no way I can have a good blog, it will just be a torture… Commenting on your blog is a first step since it forces me to write stuff and I’ve started writing some articles which are saved in my DropBox, one day they’ll see the light of day in blogosphere.
It’s important to understand that mindfulness isn’t about changing anything or trying to understand it. This is because the analytical and judgement aspects — our automatic reactions — are unhealthy and actually perpetuate the problem. It reinforces the connection in our brain between the action and the negative feeling. To release that connection, approach it without judgement. Let it be.
It is not uncommon for those who have been enlightened by the Law Of Attraction to have accumulated great sums of wealth unknowingly. This is because being ‘wealthy’ should not be something which is focused on cash alone. It is possible to achieve great ‘wealth’ in many areas of a person’s life. After all, money is simply pieces of paper. And all of the paper in the world is not going to guarantee a person life-long happiness.
I have understood that “If Its To Be, It’s Up to Me”, I will have to practice gratitude with discipline and perseverance that’s the key to fulfilling all my dreams. I have many challenges but I am not scared to face them and turn them into opportunities. Being positive, having faith and taking inspired action along with Wish and Let Go is the key to achieve my dreams.
For me, I find that since I have so much negative momentum on the subject of money itself, the best way to go about it is to find a way to feel really good, which I do through my morning manifestation routine, and then affirm that that feeling is what abundance feels like. By doing this every day, I’m training my thoughts to associate abundance with this great feeling right now, not some far off thing that ‘ll experience when I have money. Does that make sense?
You can try for Thanksgiving, but be careful with using specific dates. Many people get so focused on the date that they allow fears and doubt to creep up. As the date gets closer, they start wondering why it hasn’t happened yet and worry that it isn’t working. They end up not manifesting it not working when if they had stayed the course, they may have been someone the very next day.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I am so glad you liked the post. I think a lot of people have that fear, so you are certainly not alone in that. One of the things that has helped me most with that is remembering how ‘challenging’ the human experience is, and knowing we all have our ‘stuff’ that we hold inside, bad things that have happened to us, etc.. For the most part, I think lots of people actually want to talk about these things and not feel like they are the only one struggling. Intellectually we know that isn’t true, but how we feel is often very different. When we think about it this way, sharing our own ‘stuff’ feels less scary. And, as you work on your attraction, you will naturally begin to meet up with people who you do feel comfortable with, and will not pull away when things get closer.
So what does that tell you? Well, when I asked myself the same question years ago before I started doing this work, what I realized was that in order for me to attract and manifest my Soulmate, I must somehow develop and grow myself into the kind of person that I myself want to be with.   In other words, if you haven’t found the right person it’s probably because you are not being the right person! As Marianne Williamson says, “We must become the person we want to attract.”
Want to get everything in your life? This meditation will direct you to a secret portal that will help you to use the Law of Attraction to attract whatever you want in your life including success, money, love etc. You will use the Power of Love to heal yourself, your loved ones and eliminate all the negative blocks that are holding you back to achieve more success in your life. You’ll start feeling positive vibrations surrounding you and leave this meditation in a state of bliss.
At this point, you may still remain unconvinced that this universal principle — which attracts like to like — still seems interwoven in magic and, therefore, unreal. Perhaps it’s because we’re talking about intangible concepts like thoughts and feelings. At least with gravity, an apple thrown up into the air falls onto the ground. You may not understand it, but you can visibly and immediately experience the effects.

We live in a magical universe that can bring you exactly what you desire in the most amazing and even unbelievable ways. Getting caught up in the how can actually impede the law of attraction. If you are trying to control the how, you are likely getting in the way and making it more difficult than it has to be. Instead, let go of any ideas about how it has to happen and allow the universe to do its magic.

Of course using the Law of Attraction to get your ex back takes more than just visualization and affirmations. You risk losing your ex forever if you don’t apply the Law of Attraction in a certain way. That’s why I give you a simple, step-by-step system you can use to apply the Law of Attraction to get someone back even if they swear things are over and you should move on. For the full table of contents, click the “Look Inside” button at the top left of this page. You'll learn:
It is also important to remember to work on feeling better incrementally, and not trying to manifest things that are just too much of a stretch for our CURRENT vibration. For example, someone really struggling with money would probably not really feel it was possible to start making 10,000 a month in income, and to set that type of goal without already being able to feel that abundant right now, would result in lots of frustration, and the lack of results would just worsen the energy. It is also a good idea to put your focus on just feeling better overall, and not too much on specific manifestations. A lot can happen without specific focus when we just raise our vibration overall. You will notice cool things start to happen, and this will strengthen your trust in the process, which will make it easier to manifest specific things.
The real estate market seemed to turn worse every month. Half or more of the homes on the market were termed distressed properties - either foreclosures or short sales - where we tried to persuade the bank to take less than what’s owed on it, as a means of preventing them having to foreclose. An extremely difficult and laborious process, with very little cooperation on the part of the banks. Furthermore, the banks were cracking down on mortgage lending - meaning fewer people were able to qualify for mortgages.
Your experience is a common one with manifesting, regardless of the desire. We do all this work, inner and outer, we don’t get the results we want, we get super-pissed, say f$ck it, and give up. Then usually some good stuff comes in from the positive momentum that has been built up, now that the massive resistance has diminished. Now, while doing a lot of stuff that makes us feel badly, or taking a lot of action for a long time without results, usually leads us to a point where we surrender, it is not the best approach to take because it isn’t necessary. It’s not something you want to consciously do. You don’t want to force yourself into surrender. You can take action if you feel compelled, but just make sure it feels good, and you don’t get attached to those channels as being the way that person must come to you.
One thing I found on a website is the fact that the LOA makes people believe that they are totally in charge of their life which is not true.You think you can do everything with the power of your mind. They forget God’s will and what I’ll add is that they forget the notion of destiny. You will get things when they are within the brackets of you destiny. You may want something badly and you’ll never get it, just because it was not written this way for you. That’s why you can get the small things because they don’t compromise the big lines of your life chart. And I can still go further after my explorations I will soon be able to say that you don’t really attract things, you feel you’ll get them. It’s just intuition.

Keep in mind the disclaimer on the copyright page that reads, "The authors of this book do not dispense medical advice or prescribe the use of any technique as a form of treatment for physical, emotional, or medical problems without the advice of a physician, either directly or indirectly." It's important, considering a segment of this book is about physical health. It's interesting to me, because if we had regulation around careers and money, there would also be disclaimers about those. Through ...more

Thanks so much..so glad you liked it. Relationships can be tricky because there is so much emotional charge around them. It is easy to get off track, and you are right, going back to information that reminds us of these truths and helps us refocus is one of the best things we can do. The reinforcement is necessary to help us reprogram because essentially that is what we need to do. For me, there are two things. First, is getting into that space of trust and knowing by looking back on past manifestations. We have a tendency to put more trust in the negative ones and then dismiss the positive ones…which is one of our weird quirks. And I do my best to step back from anything that isn’t making me feel good and just go do something else, like read a book or take a walk.
This post is part of a series by Shelly Bullard — a primer on raising your vibration and attracting your soul mate. For the next five days, we’ll post one article offering the foundational elements you need to go deeper in the search for self love, and the love of your life. When you’re ready to take the next step, check out Shelly’s course: How To Attract A Partner Who’s Ready For Deep, Devoted Love.

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