This is the time to pamper yourself, to prove how valuable you are and to take the time to do something special for yourself. Maybe you have always wanted to stay at a beachfront hotel, get a massage or a pedicure, learn a new language, rent a particular movie, or have a gourmet dinner served in your home. No matter how big or small, the time to fulfill your desires is now.
Thanks for sharing your thoughts and I am so glad you liked the post. I think a lot of people have that fear, so you are certainly not alone in that. One of the things that has helped me most with that is remembering how ‘challenging’ the human experience is, and knowing we all have our ‘stuff’ that we hold inside, bad things that have happened to us, etc.. For the most part, I think lots of people actually want to talk about these things and not feel like they are the only one struggling. Intellectually we know that isn’t true, but how we feel is often very different. When we think about it this way, sharing our own ‘stuff’ feels less scary. And, as you work on your attraction, you will naturally begin to meet up with people who you do feel comfortable with, and will not pull away when things get closer.
Ultimately, you don’t need money to create certain types of feelings, and you can create them now. What can you do now that gives you a greater sense of freedom? Perhaps it is learning to say no more, being more selective with how you spend your time, or scaling back on commitments. What can you do to feel fulfilled now? Maybe it is doing some sort of volunteer work, or making time for a hobby.
2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’. These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people. This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
Well, that concludes my manifesto for creating wealth with the law of attraction and money. Will it work? Well, I’m going to put my faith in it and see where it takes me. I’ve never undertaken such a massive shift in thinking before, and I’m interested (to say the least!) to see the results. My previous experiments with the Law of Attraction have been successful – but I’ve never undertaken a project of this size before. I’ve got a funny feeling I’m going to be blown away.
“What I got from your workshop was how to calm my mind- and I am so grateful for that. After years of reading books and going to seminars which told me to ‘cheer up’ (like I didn’t already know that) – I now have tools to know how to do that. One little story: I put on my Universe List ‘bring me more abundance’ and ‘enable me to receive my abundance’ and then began my Appreciation Journal practice. I thanked Life for all the abundance I already had- things, people and of course money. I also thanked the Universe for the abundance and money I knew was on its way… A cheque came through the post from someone I had forgotten owed me money, I got a pay rise at work and my mother called me up to say she wanted to give me money (which is totally unlike her).”
Hi Phill, your article is a great inspiration, I came across this Law of attraction for the first time early last month in Oprah Winfre’s website, though I believe in the law but sometimes discouraged , your article is a great booster to me, your explanations are more detailed and I will pick up from there with perseverance , any further help will be appreciated .
Intimacy means knowing each other and sharing most coveted parts of your lives. The self-revealing behavior, when reciprocated well, forms an emotional bond which is hard to break. With continues sharing, this bond tends to strengthen over time and bring the partners much closer. Friendship is the first step to intimacy, so before you decide to get into love, make sure you both share good friendship.
Physical compatibility in a relationship need not always mean love. There are many versions of love, and romance and lust are two basic ones. True love includes commitment, trust, respect and contentment. If these things lack in a relationship, it is definitely not love. A lot of people justify physical violence with passion. Passion in a relationship is definitely a natural phenomenon, but there’s a thin line between being passionate and violent. If you find your partner being too harsh on you, both physically and emotionally, then it’s not love.
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I recently purchased your book and started applying the loa to my relationship. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now but we’ve known each other since we were kids…In the beginning he was really into me and passionate, he always found some way to touch me..but a couple of weeks ago all of his affection has stopped and I found out that he still talks to his ex but for court related issues that will be going on until January. Now he seems almost scared to get close to me as if she has threatened him, but I see him everyday and we still kiss goodnight sometimes. He told me hes not completely over her but he never wants to be with her again and that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with anyone for a very long time, but he also says how attracted he is to me and how much he cares for me.
On the day he left, I didn’t have five dollars to my name. Our electric, water and gas bills were all past due, with shutoff notices pending, and the rent was late. I hadn’t worked in over two years, and the economy was in the middle of a deep recession. The car title was in his name, as was our bank account. Overnight, I went from desperate to stranded and destitute, with no way to provide for my three small children.
Sometimes this can be the hardest part of the Law of Attraction to grasp because when there's a person we love or are attracted to, he/she is all we can think about. We think the solution is in using the Law of Attraction to get the person to love us or notice us. But the Law of Attraction is about you – your thoughts, your feelings, and your vibration.
“My friend had found the love of her life not by meeting someone new- but from someone who was already in her life. It reminded me of something I read in a magazine article you’d written- about Cinderella and how that so much of her ‘good’ was already in her life: The pumpkin that became a carriage, the rags that became a ballgown etc.- and that there was no need to ‘go hunting’ for what you want as so much good is here, waiting to be revealed. From observing my friend, it was exactly like that: As she came into her connection, she realised the love of her life was already a good friend in her current experience. She had never seen him in that way before- but in the twinkling of an eye- she saw him in a new, romantic way. And he felt the same. And now they are married and one of the happiest couples I know.
Ever notice how travel magazines show a beautiful destination, maybe a white sand beach and azure blue sky? And, there is always a table and empty chair. Your mind is attracted to the empty chair. It wants you to be there. Goals are the same. The law of attraction is energised by the gap between here and there. So long as it is bridgeable (see tip 21).
“After your workshop, I got in, made myself a tea and relaxed into meditation, which then naturally led into the visualisation technique you taught us…. I imagined myself relaxing as visions came to me of wealth and beauty without any effort on my part… and I felt the knowing that ’it was done’. This morning my husband called me from work and told me that he had just been paid a large amount of money he had been chasing up for nearly a year – but had given up on receiving. The person who owed it had contacted him and said he had just paid in-full. My intending for more money whilst fully letting go of my need for it had worked!”
“There was someone who I liked. Well, it was more than ‘liked’. When I finally got the courage to speak to her after several months and tell her my feelings, she was very direct with me- looking me straight in the eye and saying “It’s never going to happen. I only see you as a friend”. I was absolutely crushed and also shocked- my guidance was normally very precise. But I also knew how guided she was, too. Despite her certainty, I couldn’t get her off my mind and felt very down about it. It’s awful wanting something so much which you simultaneously think is ‘impossible’ to achieve. These thoughts of longing lasted many months until finally, when it all got too much, I decided to give the processes a go. I began doing the Universe List. I ‘gave up’ trying to impress her, trying to be ‘good enough’ and trying in general. I fully embraced the situation and decided to release the control (which wasn’t working anyway). I said to the Universe, “if I’m meant to be with her I will be and if I’m not- so be it”. And I meant it, this time. Within days, we met up, and suddenly she expressed how she didn’t know what was going on but she saw me in a different light. My friends say it was like the uplifting ‘twist’ at the end of one of those crowd-pleasing Hollywood movies- something that doesn’t happen in real life. But it was happening, to me! Now, a year later, we are blissfully happy. We are experiencing what I have read described in spiritual literature as a ‘twin flame’ relationship. The biggest gift this situation brought me, though, is that when you give it all up to the Universe- things beyond your wildest imaginings can happen. It taught me surrender- which has caused all aspects of my life to flourish like never before. I have to add that The Law of Attraction Centre’s groups, workshops and community have been instrumental in assisting me making my life work.”
It could also mean that a particular area of your life might need your attention, such as your career, finances, health, raising children, or that simply, your time is just not ripe for love yet. Whatever the timing might be, what I know for sure is that the time you invest in getting ready for your soulmate is an opportunity to continue to work on yourself, and remove all of the mental and emotional blocks that are keeping you from love. It is the perfect time to get to know yourself fully and deeply and get ready for love.
“Thank you for your excellent workshop. I arrived feeling very low- about to divorce and preparing to ready myself to move on and find someone else. After applying your principles for just a few weeks, I ended up falling in love with my husband all over again. Something I hadn’t seen coming- but I’m very pleased it happened this way… Life certainly works in mysterious ways.”
When things aren’t going well, the Law of Attraction is something that should be paid attention to because you attract to you energies that are a reflection of what’s going on inside you. To be more specific, what’s going on outside is actually a barometer for how things are on the inside. This is the best time to focus in on what you are attracting to you as a pattern and create a pattern interrupt.
“One simple and fun way in which I trust the Universe is using random play on my iPod- and I’m not joking. I find that the Universe’s choice of music (or spoken inspirational recordings) is always far more apt than my choice. And so since hearing about Esther and Jerry Hick’s (the Teachings of Abraham) relationship beginnings, and how they were clearly brought together (and when they compared histories, they realised they were in so many states and cities at the same time- showing that the Universe was constantly attempting to bring them together without their effort), I decided to apply this same idea of trusting the Universe for my relationship. And so I did processes. Within days of absolutely giving up on trying (which meant giving up on whenever I went out with friends immediately scanning the room for potential partners, thinking about my soul mate many times during the day and other forms of searching, despite telling myself and all my friends I was perfectly happy being single and letting it all unfold naturally!), I walked into a cafe I had been in so many times and immediately, naturally found myself within a conversation with one of the staff I had seen but never spoken to. We talked, exchanged telephone numbers… and who knows?! And who cares. Because for the first time I won’t be checking my phone every 5 minutes- I honestly don’t care if he calls or not- the fact is, I now understand that my ‘figuring it out’ way doesn’t work – the Universe knows better than I do. This is the first time I’ve exchanged numbers with anyone significant in about 6 months. And all from a couple of days of truly surrendering! And before the day was over, I was surprisingly contacted by someone I used to really like and then met another very eligible man.”
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So glad you enjoyed the article. You are certainly not along in having trouble with money manifesting. Lots of deep programming to work through and it actually goes a lot deeper than just money stuff. The most important thing to remember is by focusing your energy on the things you want the money for…travel, certain experiences, whatever, and if money is part of the equation of getting it, it will come in. And do whatever you can to feel abundant now, no matter how small the thing is…all you need is a bit more positive energy to start allowing in a different experience.
I’m yet to develop a habit of writing something every day, or every other day, or producing one post per week… Without a habit in place there is no way I can have a good blog, it will just be a torture… Commenting on your blog is a first step since it forces me to write stuff and I’ve started writing some articles which are saved in my DropBox, one day they’ll see the light of day in blogosphere.
Step 1: Essentially, you need to make the decision that you really want to attract this life partner. Then, truly commit to the idea of spending the rest of your life with this person. Making this commitment may involve processing old wounds (e.g. via journaling or therapy). Hopefully, the past can be left behind and you can opt to embrace hope instead of fear.
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