I recently released some resistance about finding the right guy. And I had this weird experience yesterday. I felt like maybe I could meet somebody yesterday when I went out with my friend. And I actually forgot about the fact that I thought about it. And I ran into somebody at a book store and he actually told me something that I didn’t expect and I didn’t know what to say so I couldn’t respond properly. I actually was with my friend who had strong opinion against something and I was afraid if she might not like me acting certain way. Anyway, so I actually wanted to talk to the guy more but for some reason, I couldn’t. But I discovered some limiting beliefs. I realized that I need to be myself even though I worry what my friend thinks about me. And if she doesn’t support me, maybe she’s not good for me even though I really care about her as a friend. The reason that I couldn’t be myself yesterday was because I cared so much about what my friend would think about me.
Creating a vision board is easy. Go through magazines or search the internet to find images that represent what you want to attract. It doesn’t matter if the images are metaphorical or literal. The important thing is that the images speak to you and connect with your desires. Attach the images to a board and place it in a prominent place where you will look at it every day.
2) Visualising and meditating is pointless without work. Mark Cuban says a famous quote which is: "Work like there is someone working 24 hours a day to take it away from you". Me getting my goals is a 2 part process. 1) Meditating and visualising and 2) working incredibly hard. Both go hand in hand, if you do one without the other, you will not (according to my experiencing) manifest it into reality. The reason is because simply meditating on something is wishing, which is not the same as visualising and working.
“My friend had found the love of her life not by meeting someone new- but from someone who was already in her life. It reminded me of something I read in a magazine article you’d written- about Cinderella and how that so much of her ‘good’ was already in her life: The pumpkin that became a carriage, the rags that became a ballgown etc.- and that there was no need to ‘go hunting’ for what you want as so much good is here, waiting to be revealed. From observing my friend, it was exactly like that: As she came into her connection, she realised the love of her life was already a good friend in her current experience. She had never seen him in that way before- but in the twinkling of an eye- she saw him in a new, romantic way. And he felt the same. And now they are married and one of the happiest couples I know.
This fear gets triggered in a variety of ‘romantic’ situations–you may not consciously be aware that it is fear, it may manifest itself in a variety of ways—and people that are good matches for you can’t make their way in. For example, you may meet some great people who you get along with great, but they just won’t be attracted to you, and it isn’t because there is anything wrong with you. In fact, if you were to ask someone why he wasn’t ‘feeling it’, he probably wouldn’t have a good answer. He wouldn’t’ be able to verbalize it.
The first thing to do when you feel that there is room for more love in your life is to fill your thoughts and actions with nothing but absolute love. By flooding your mind with feelings of positivity and love for yourself and those around you, your ability to love and be loved back can shine through to others. Here are some visualization exercises for love that you can consider too.
Here’s the thing: you can only attract that to which you are a match, and if you are hiding who you really are, or are trying to construct some ‘perfect’ version of yourself you believe makes you more attractive as a potential mate, you will only attract other people who are putting up these same facades. You will never make any true connections—you’re being inauthentic and everyone you meet is being inauthentic, and eventually it will all come to the surface in some way. One of the reasons people struggle to meet the right person is because everyone is just walking around, faking it.
I sell cheap gemstone beads, and they’re always problematic (quality) and a lot of work. I’m sitting on my porch thinking, “I want to go high end.” But I don’t have the money to buy expensive beads. Two weeks later a former customer emails asking if I want to go into business with him selling salt products. I used to run a warehouse and hated it, so I told him no, but you can invest in my business. He eventually invests $10K, and I buy high end beads.
Here were my rules: In order for it to count, the money had to be from an unexpected source. If I was already anticipating the money that showed up, it wouldn’t count, even if I’d temporarily forgotten about it. Also, I didn’t want it to be associated with work. (Meaning, an out of the blue speaking gig for $1k wouldn’t count.) Anything that I had to work for wouldn’t be included in this tally.
1) I have had a rather bad break-up with my boyfriend. All in all, he wants to move on completely and says that while he loved me and cared about me at the time of the break-up he simply wasn’t happy anymore and wants to move on to a new city, life etc… We have so financial dealings together but he says he no longer wants to worry about it because keeping in touch about cash isn’t healthy and we both need to move on. He has made it clear that there is no way he would get back into a relationship with me. And of course, after being told this I wrote him an angry email giving him a piece of my mind. While I love him more than life itself and visualize us being together again I must say that I find it very difficult to imagine us together, based on the way he seems to feel (or not feel…) about me. How do I let go of thinking of the outcome when all I can do is think about him and that perhaps he will meet someone else soon, or already has etc….
Thank you, I am so glad you liked it. The first thing I would say about your situation is to carefully examine whether you are just trying to ignore negative feelings and think ‘happy thoughts’ or you are actually thinking and focusing in a way that makes you FEEL better. The feeling is where we attract, not in casting aside negative thoughts, only to have that energy remain and grow.
“I was looking for a relationship and when I came to your group I realised that was my problem- I was looking too much, and all the time. It was a tiring process and I had done all of the dating sites and just met with disappointment. I could never square the advice I had been given- on the one hand I needed to create vision boards and focus on love or do actions, and on the other hand I needed to let it go because ‘you find love when you’re not looking for it’. The problem was I couldn’t stop looking no matter how much I tried. I realised I needed a hobby to replace my current hobby- looking for love- which wasn’t helping me find love and also wasn’t making me feel happy. So I put it all on the Universe List and joined a local political group of all things. Although I had read in certain spiritual books that politics could be ‘negative’, it felt good to me, and it was my guidance so I followed it. At first shy, I got my confidence up and began to speak to small groups of people. I became passionate about my local community. And then I met my ‘one’ as I now call him, through the organisation. The thing is I didn’t join the group to meet a man- and that seems to me a major point- I just followed my inner nudge to do something that I enjoyed and there he was.”
Sorry for the late reply and thank for your answer 🙂 Actually what I was mostly aiming at was of course manifesting signs of my loved one before Christmas but having the goal of spending the holidays with him. I haven’t seen him in so long, he is quite far away and I have no idea how that will manifest itself but I am leaving it up to the universe to make it happen because Christmas used to have a very special meaning to us. Also during our book club and going over your book “how to manifest a specific person” one of the readers wanted to know if it was alright for her to chant (she is an assiduous buddhist) her buddhist mantra while using LOA. She wanted to know if it was compatible eventhough it is the same philosophy, she was afraid that perhaps practising two different methods might delay her manifestations in any way…I do not know if this is something you can help her with! Loving our little book club which is growing too!!!!
Firstly, thank you for an amazing ebook , it has helped me a lot in my current situation. While I have managed to manifest a lot of my visualised scenarios with a particular person , I find that at times the situation regresses and he goes into a silent zone or just starts ignoring me altogether. It is hurtful and confusing all these mixed messages and I dont know how to read him. I read somewhere that it is my own fear that could be causing this and while I try to detach myself , it is hard. Should I be changing anything in my visualisations? Sometimes when I do my visualisations , I can feel the fear in my core, How do I release this?
Once you’ve made your decision, a big part of understanding how to manifest love with a specific person lies in getting a clear sense of what it is about this person that makes you believe that looking for love with them will truly make you happy. As such, part of making a manifestation commitment involves beginning to analyze yourself in a new, deeper way.
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