Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.

2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’.  These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people.  This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
I know this can sound like a tall order. We are so conditioned to basing how we feel on outside events. It is easy to feel good when something happens that gives us a reason to—cultivating warm, fuzzies in the absence (or what we perceive to be the absence) of something to be happy about can take a bit of work. Feeling good even if things happen that you don’t like can take some practice. Living reactively will really put a damper on the attraction process, and it is a habit that needs to be addressed.

Well lately I have been looking at this LOA and I would love to try it. I have been very unfortunate with love and relationships for about a year now. It seem like everytime I get close with a guy, he leaves with no explanation. I get really attached and it hurts soo bad when they leave. And with this last guy I was with I have been having negative thoughts saying things like, “oh he wont stay”, and “What if he leaves like the rest?” Well it happened , but here’s the thing, I don’t know if it could be because of the negative thoughts or his ex. Let me explain what I mean. Well me and this guy that I would never thought I would have feelings for start becoming really good friends. He was attracted to me, but couldn’t date me because he was already in a relationship with his girlfriend of almost 2 years. A month later she have been talking to him about breaking up and finally she did. Then me and him start getting close. Everything was going great until his ex wanted to come back. Well he let her and now I’m left in the cold once again. I strongly believe the only reason she’s back in his life is because she found out about me and got upset. I don’t think she love him like she say she do, but I don’t know. I do see us being a great couple, but how can I get the LOA to work for me and him and she’s in the way?
hey elizabeth!!!im really honoured to come across this website!!!It gave me hope when I was devastated. My story is like this. I used to like someone.In fact I really do love him with all my heart. I did my part and let him know about my feelings to him. He said that he dont wanna hurt me and he says I deserve someone better without even giving it a try. But my instinct always say that he do love me, he just dont want to show it. Every night, I would pray to god to give me signs if i should continue to believe in this love or not. I did receive signals not once but many times. Its like each time I want to move on in life something unbelievable happens, like getting a text from him and so on. I really want to share my love and happiness with him. I have completely let go and I am staying dettached. But I just want to know what else could I do to make him realise my love for him is pure? Please give me a piece of your mind. I really desire a relationship with him. I am looking forward for your reply.
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“This last year has been the best year of my life in terms of relationships. I have dated several people who are the kind of types that I never used to even meet (or if I did, they were not attracted to me). Part of me is now thinking ‘where is my serious, soul mate relationship?’ which prompted a question I was going to e-mail to Michael but soon turned into a list of appreciation. Because as I think about this year and how totally different it has been to all the other years – which I believe is totally down to ‘doing the processes’- I have absolutely nothing to complain about. Plus, I’m figuring out what I want. I’m in a great place in my life. As I read in one of the other success stories last week- all that matters is the now. And life is very, very good now. I’m focused on this moment. I know it’s obvious and we’ve read it over and over- but all we have is the now. So why not accept it and enjoy it, now?!”
How does a Soul Call work? Well, remember that everything in the Universe is first created on the inner plane of ideas and emotions before it materializes. There’s plenty of scientific research that has proven that people who are thousands of miles away can actually affect each other’s heartbeat and capacity to experience love simply by thinking loving thoughts about each other.
If you are familiar with the Law of Attraction, then you will probably know that the possibilities are endless when it comes to what you can achieve and receive from the Universe. I have put together a list of successful celebrities that use and love the Law of Attraction, and how they have used it to achieve success in life. Hopefully, this can show you how you too can achieve great things through the Law of Attraction.
That’s a great story. I would like to share with you how I manifested my dream job. I got a job I very much disliked at a biopharmaceutical company 8 months after getting my masters degree. But because it took me that long to get a job, it was somewhat precious to me. However, after one year, I was even more miserable and burnt out that I ever was and decided that enough is enough. I took the leap of faith and quit without any other job lined up. I took the time and freedom to explore what I really wanted to do and discovered my passion in the human resources field. However, the HR industry in my country is quite immature and I could not find any positions that fitted into my aspirations, goals, capacity and capabilities. I applied to many HR position half-heartedly. I have a long standing desire to move abroad but was unsure on how to make it happen. After 11 months of unsuccessful attempts, I intensely decided that I will be getting a job offer for a dream position from abroad NOW. I created a Manifestation Book and wrote down daily entries of getting a great job and an amazing location. A couple of days later I came across a job advertisement for a HR position in Germany. The position was all that I could ask for in a job. I applied to it. For the next 30+ days, I spent most of my waking hours believing that the job is mine. I did everything it took to train my mind that I am getting the job. Besides the daily journal entry, I sent job offer emails to myself and also recorded myself affirming about getting the job and listened to it before going to sleep. About 10 days after the closing date of the application, I received and email from the company inviting me to the Assessment Centre in Germany!! The interview and assessments went smoothly and a week later they offered me the job! The salary is great, the company is huge and famous and most importantly it is the job I had dreamed of and a dream location. I am starting on December 1st 2014 in Germany and very much looking forward to it. The Universe has given me what I wished for. If you really want something and believe with unshakable faith that you will have it, the whole Universe will conspire to make it happen!

I’m yet to develop a habit of writing something every day, or every other day, or producing one post per week… Without a habit in place there is no way I can have a good blog, it will just be a torture… Commenting on your blog is a first step since it forces me to write stuff and I’ve started writing some articles which are saved in my DropBox, one day they’ll see the light of day in blogosphere.
If you’re problem is habit you might want to check out Charles Duhigg’s latest book called The Power of Habit. In it he describes how we can hack into our habit forming system. It’s called the Habit Loop. I’m reading it now and I’m totally hooked. I have successfully implemented many habits and so far still sticking to them! Give it a go, I’m sure it can help with your writing.
Sorry for the late reply and thank for your answer 🙂 Actually what I was mostly aiming at was of course manifesting signs of my loved one before Christmas but having the goal of spending the holidays with him. I haven’t seen him in so long, he is quite far away and I have no idea how that will manifest itself but I am leaving it up to the universe to make it happen because Christmas used to have a very special meaning to us. Also during our book club and going over your book “how to manifest a specific person” one of the readers wanted to know if it was alright for her to chant (she is an assiduous buddhist) her buddhist mantra while using LOA. She wanted to know if it was compatible eventhough it is the same philosophy, she was afraid that perhaps practising two different methods might delay her manifestations in any way…I do not know if this is something you can help her with! Loving our little book club which is growing too!!!!
In stopping all other thoughts you also stop resistance. Resistance is the negative emotion you feel when you think about what you want, but in a way that feels bad. It is when you give more attention to what you don’t have, and feel bad, rather than giving attention to what you want, in a way that feels good to you. In both cases you are thinking about what you wish to manifest, however one is focused in a way that allows it manifest, and the other is focused on the lack of what you want, and that keeps it from coming.

Hello there, many of you may have been blocked and feel frustrated because it looks like the LoA isn't working for you...Well, that's not actually true, the truth is that we were given only a fraction of the truth about the LoA. In the video below I talk about the other laws like the law of creation and the law of manifestation. This is not self-promotion...This is me trying to share my experience and knowledge with you guys! and remember it took time and energy to make this video.
This self-help book focuses on improving life in the areas of finances and health. The premise of the Law of Attraction is that what you get in life is a result of your habitual thinking and emotions; that the “vibe” that you put out determines what you will attract into your experience. Bettering your thoughts, emotions, and “vibe” will better your life experience, not only in what you experience internally, but also in what you receive from life.
At first when she would walk past a coin, and I’d pick it up and say, “Look at this, Emily. There was a nickel there, and you walked right past it! Your eyes definitely saw it because you were looking in that direction, but the coin didn’t register in your mind. You still need to adjust yourself to the right vibe. Remember — the coins are everywhere! You just have to command your eyes to notice them.”

Our relationship with money is quite the interesting one, and attracting it is like attracting anything else in our lives, but we have so much ‘stuff’ around it that it seems more difficult. I am always open to more, but as time has gone on and I have seen life from both a place of financial struggle and one where things were much more abundant, it became clear to me that the happiness level really isn’t affected as much. Less stress, sure..but that is not the same as feeling truly happy. That is a great perspective you had on your money situation and is likely a key factor in your success. It is easy to get a bit panicked and impatient with the online bit when that money isn’t coming as fast as we would like it to, or in the amounts we would hope. That is an amazing story about your mom, and like you said, never would have seen that as a source of money if you had to guess. I am so glad you shared that story because the more people read about these types of incidents, the more faith they build that this can happen for them too!
Remind уоurѕеlf thаt money iѕ rеаllу a fоrm оf abundance. And abundance саn соmе in аll shapes аnd sizes: еnоugh love, еnоugh friends, еnоugh food, еnоugh water. Tаkе уоur mind оff thе lack in уоur life аnd start counting аll thе parts оf уоur life thаt аrе working, thаt аrе abundant оr thаt flow with ease. Juѕt bесаuѕе уоu саn't pay a сеrtаin bill dоеѕn't mеаn thаt уоur relationships аrеn't working. List thе things уоu dо likе in уоur life: уоur house, уоur car, уоur kids, уоur friends, уоur Friday night beer аftеr work.... аnуthing thаt givеѕ уоu a feeling оf еаѕе iѕ worth putting оn уоur list.
It’s difficult to free yourself completely from doubt, fear or feeling as though you don’t deserve something. Your instinct might try to combat those feelings using negative thoughts like, “Don’t be afraid” or even direct conflicts like, “You deserve this.” Unfortunately, such methods are ineffective and simply don’t work because they reinforce negative thoughts and feelings.
2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that.  It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you.  For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others.  For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:
You want to ensure you have the members of this support team just a phone call or email away for when you need that extra support. This group is pivotal in your ability to really show up fully in your life and journey towards your soulmate, as it will challenge you to step up to the plate, release any old emotions that are stored in your mind and body, hold you accountable to your commitment, and demand clarity while it offers gentle support when you most need it.
I thought maybe I’d buy a Toyota, since that was what I could afford - or so it seemed. But I had to stop by the Cadillac dealership for some reason that escapes me now. I ran into the Service Manager, who’d become a friend over the years of me bringing my car there for service. He asked where my car was; I told him it’d been totaled. “So, you’re here to buy a new one?” he asked. No, I can’t afford one. “Nonsense! I’ll introduce you to our sales manager, and you’ll drive a Cadillac out of here today!” I laughed, and agreed to meet the sales manager.
I have been loving this girl, like crazy and madly since the past 18 months. However, she doesnt feel anything for me yet. I even expressed my feelings for her. She denied and asked to be friends. But since i was committed to her, i continued to behave the same. However, she took my commitment for desperation. Worst part is, i realised lately that she is seeing my best friend, who knew everything about my feelings for this girl. She doesnt even realise that this guy is playing around with her. Now, i feel betrayed and as though my friend has taken advantage of the situation. Now, she hardly talks to me. Things are getting worse day by day. And she is supposed to be leaving for some other country for higher education soon, after which i wont be able to meet her often. Please please please tell me how do i win her. She is the most beautiful soul i’ve ever met. 🙂
I thought maybe I’d buy a Toyota, since that was what I could afford - or so it seemed. But I had to stop by the Cadillac dealership for some reason that escapes me now. I ran into the Service Manager, who’d become a friend over the years of me bringing my car there for service. He asked where my car was; I told him it’d been totaled. “So, you’re here to buy a new one?” he asked. No, I can’t afford one. “Nonsense! I’ll introduce you to our sales manager, and you’ll drive a Cadillac out of here today!” I laughed, and agreed to meet the sales manager.
When you want to become a money magnet, you must understand that money has a relationship with gratitude. Because the thought of money either makes you feel positive or negative most of the time. If it makes you feel positive then that’s great. But if it makes you feel negative because your focus is on the lack then this is where Gratitude works like magic.
For me, I find that since I have so much negative momentum on the subject of money itself, the best way to go about it is to find a way to feel really good, which I do through my morning manifestation routine, and then affirm that that feeling is what abundance feels like. By doing this every day, I’m training my thoughts to associate abundance with this great feeling right now, not some far off thing that ‘ll experience when I have money. Does that make sense?
You don’t have to go out on dates with people you’re not interested in, nor try to do something that goes against your own values. Notice what things or people you are consciously or unconsciously drawn to.  You might be lead into amazing, rewarding, or at the very least a growing experience! Be willing to trust that inner voice and be open to the mystery that comes from there.

For example, you want to attract a romantic partner, but deep down you don’t think that he exists, or that a person so perfect would even be with you; or if you’re earning $2,000/month and you’re trying to manifest a job where you could be earning $50,000/month – which, no matter how much you want it, can easily seem out of your reach and stay in the domain of wishful thinking.
Sо hоw dо уоu gеt tо feeling likе money whеn уоu dоn't hаvе it? It sounds likе аn impossible task but it'ѕ nоt thаt difficult. Onе оf thе bеѕt techniques iѕ learning tо detach frоm thе subject. If money iѕn't important tо уоu thеn уоu'll easily attract it tо уоu bесаuѕе уоu wоn't bе thinking оf thе lack ѕidе оf thе subject whеn evoked in thought оr conversation.
No matter what we attract, it is always there to help us, so you want to think about this scenario and what feelings came up around it, and that can clue you in to how it is useful for your journey of attracting a relationship. As for your friend, I am not sure what topic of conversation was involved as far as you feeling like you can’t be yourself around her, but as some general advice, anytime we feel like we can’t be ourselves in a certain situation or around a certain person, it is a problem plain and simple that must be examined. Ultimately, it comes down to determining whether your reluctance to be yourself is more based in your own fears, and your friend would more than likely accept you, or if your friend is someone who is very judgmental or wouldn’t be able to accept you for who are because of strong beliefs she holds about certain things.

I really enjoy reading your posts and learning about opening up to deep and fulfilling love. After heart shattering loss over the course of the last two years I am now in the process of putting myself back together again. It’s still pretty messy but I really want to learn to love myself and be the best version of myself, for me and for my soulmate who I know is out there waiting for me to be ready for forever.
“After several months of doing your processes, and feeling better, I joined my local walking group- something I never would have done before. I’ve met new friends and then, on an event where we got together with other walking groups, I got to know a man who I’ve been dating ever since (it was last October). There’s something different about this relationship- rather than waiting for it to go wrong or ‘checking up’ on what he’s doing- I feel relaxed. Your Universe List process has really kept me grounded through it all, and stopped me going into worries on this subject- and so many others.”
Thanks for this article ! its really encouraging, I have been reading about the LOA and the secret and all that for nearly two years now, I manifested my boyfriend, although we’ve broken up now, i still believe that we might be together one day again, or ill meet someone even better! either way, i am working to try and be happier, and not lose belief in the things i want to have! I sometimes give up because i just go about my day and forget to think positive etc, and be grateful for things, but im really working on it now and hopefully it will work! Again, thanks for this, it has helped me to understand a lot more !
said on Oprah show: I only have one thing to say to you. OH MY GOD! I sent out 142 copies in total before 20 replied like the instructions said. Then I went on a short vacation. When I got back my account had over $32,000 dollars in it already and the money was still coming! I'm still floating on air (especially with my new car). I thought the "Guardian System" sounded cheesy, but now I realize it is the formula that makes this letter really work! THANKS.

If you’re looking to learn how to manifest love fast, the key message you need to internalize is that you have to start looking for love with real intention. What this means is that you must learn how to align yourself with a vibrational frequency that can attract love rather than further disappointment, and that you need to develop a vivid, clear sense of what you’re actually trying to do when you aim to manifest love.

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