2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’.  These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people.  This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
As I mentioned earlier, the process of spiritual growth and development is one of releasing and letting go of old ways of being and embracing the new aspects of ourselves that are wanting to emerge.  And welcoming your Soulmate into your life, as an expression of this growth, requires that you now begin by clearing the decks.  This means beginning to remove all of the obstacles that are stopping, hindering, delaying or even distracting you from having the relationship that you truly want to have.  How? By Healing your heart, De-Cluttering your Mind, Releasing the past and Making Room for Love.

**NOTE, this is an abbreviated version of my too-lengthy original review. In the original, I get very specific about the negative consequences of this material. So if you’re struggling with this ideology or starting to question things, please go to my blog for the full version: Responsible Spirituality (there’s a link on my profile or just google it). The original review is posted there, plus great comments from other ex-followers.**


In many cases, the underlying issue, when it is broken down to its absolute core, is fear of some kind. Fear that people won’t think we are good enough. Fear of being vulnerable to someone. Fear of actually being happy—yeah, lots of people are actually afraid of that. We get so wrapped up in our crap and it becomes such a strong part of our identity, we may not actually know who we are without all the stories we tell ourselves. If you identify yourself as the perpetually single person, an asshole magnet or simply ‘unlucky’ in love, who are you without those labels?

Great article, it’s so encouraging to see others having success using the LOA. It’s totally changed my life in the past 4 years. It took me from a single mom with not a penny to my name, to living my dream life, manifesting 2 vision boards. It’s a total life changer. I have lots of proof on my blog where i’ve posted each step of my journey. Keep up the good work!


Your English could easily pass for an English speaker. I also love writing and started to blog, but realized I didn’t have a theme that would produce thoughts to the world. It’s fine, as being on the computer is already quite time consuming. Or in the lingua of the above topic, I guess it’s not my all consuming wish :) In any case, I felt as you did – that all that attraction stuff does lead to hard work, and even then, no guarantees. I don’t care for any system that has built into it a “failure” clause, because you didn’t do this or that. Being positive, having dreams, working hard,all good stuff, but again, life isn’t ours always to control.
When you understand the law of attraction works by delivering you experiences that you are a match to now energetically, you come to realize the importance of feeling good now, and not putting all your focus on the undesirable bits of "what is." This doesn't mean pretending to be okay with things you don't like, but actually adopting a different perspective, and actually feeling better.
Be and feel happy now. When you feel happy, you draw more money and more opportunities to receive money to you. You’ll find things you normally buy are suddenly cheaper or on sale, like groceries or gas. You’ll find new opportunities to make more money…such as being asked to participate in a craft fair where you can turn your jewelry making hobby into a side business.
If you know yourself and are honest with yourself and appreciate yourself as much as you appreciate others and the universe you don’t need to be en guarde for ego violations all the time and point them out. :) People who DO have unhealthy ego problems wont hear you and those who have poor self esteem will put themselves down more. (wonder where they got that low self esteem to start….seems to be a lot of people around with it.)

“Me and my husband weren’t getting on at all and then I remembered something a woman said at the group who was in a similar situation. So I did a version of the Positive Aspects process: I went through the alphabet thinking of good qualities about him: A- Attractive when we went out last week, B- Bought me a beautiful birthday present, C- Committed to his family and work, D- Determined to feel good, E- Easy going and relaxed… And on I went. After a very short time my feelings of anger and criticism melted away. I began doing this process every day, in the morning before work. Initially I have to admit I wanted to do the processes to change him- but after a while I was doing it because it felt so good. Within a week or so he bought me flowers- he hasn’t done that for years. He started paying me compliments and now he’s booked a holiday for us. He also has told me how much he loves me and I, too, feel more in love with him than I have in a long time.”

Hello Kelli! I just came across your blog and it’s perfect timing! I’ve set my intention of meeting my soul mate recently, tried to work on limiting beliefs and all that. Yesterday, I joined some meet-up and met some good people. But I was so disappointed about the fact that the guy who I was a bit attracted to didn’t seem interested in me and ask me out. Even though he was not the exact type that I wanted but I started thinking like ‘maybe I’m not attractive enough..’ The very next day, I came across your blog and I’m very grateful for that.


While it might sound strange at first, you’ll be better at using the Law of Attraction for money and wealth if you connect with the smell of money. When you do this, you align your own vibration with wealth and abundance. As you do this, imagine yourself as having all the wealth you need. Don’t think about why you want money, or how you wish you had more money. Let your brain believe you are fully abundant, right now.
So, what changes can you make in your life right now that would make you feel better about your financial situation? Is your lack of a savings account gnawing at you? What could you do to start padding it a bit more? Are you using your credit cards a bit too liberally, when you should really be using cash? Do you have any expenses now that you can eliminate or reduce? Is it high time for a budget? Could you start cooking at home more rather than eating out five nights a week? 
3) The Third List: Your Gifts. The third list is, in my opinion, the most important one. Your soul mate will not be coming into your life to rescue you, make you happy, or save your life.  A soul mate is a friend and partner with whom you’ll be sharing your life.  Someone who will love, nurture and support you while you love, nurture and support them.  Someone who understands the power and beauty of a true soulmate union and will hold the space for love, even when you can’t.
Within your soul as twin you have to surrender. Surrender is to let go and follow the destiny made and written for you by God and trust the path of the unknown in your heart. Cant block truth about your Divine Love and hide feelings inside your heart and soul and suppress and deny them about twin.They do exist and you will think about your twin so have to be true to self and not deny truth of pure love. You cant forget them nor move on for you cant silence the soul for you feel them inside of you. There is an intensity of pressure to be together. Your soul will always scream inside of you to remember. Have to do inner work and face yourself and find peace and bring balance in your soul and understand that your souls were meant to be united together as One. Imperative that you listen and obey your soul cries and yearnings. If not the soul will allow experiences to be awakened when you try to disconnect from twin and close self out and not try to think, talk or see them. The Dark KNIGHT of Soul which is H.S. which comes to bring truth inside of you for you to accept this TF union. You will experience tension in head so much. Pressure and pushed to accept what need to be told and listen to soul that God is drawing you together. If dont surrender and resist things get rough. Loose patience, have high temperatures to accept what told and forced into and feel pain in temple area. The fire is the same flame from fire of soul of twin’s real love trying to be accepted into one body. Pain inside soul to wake up and connect to internal soul love inside you and connect with twin..Attempt to create a shift to awaken your soul vibration and accept way of life in your Divine sacred partnership as a TF. Set self free in freedom by finding truth and stop suffering by suppressing your soul and love and truth of who you are as a Divine Twin Flame. As you accept your union, love is just flowing and you feel different because it is soul love.
You should remain in a state of “as if” when using the Law of Attraction for a specific person. When you give attention to what is, you give it power to create more of what is. You should relax and allow your manifestation to occur, as you have always done. It’s a great way to create what you want and, as you release resistance and become more detached, you’ll be able to reach that state more easily.
“I am enjoying a wonderful relationship with a man who may quite possibly be ‘the one’ – and that’s after being single for 13 years. Certainly a big factor was due to regular use of your techniques and your romantic love workshop. I got myself into a position of not needing anyone yet at the same time anticipating the excitement of love – which I learnt was key – and this was accomplished through your teachings. I got on with my life and spent time on my interests and my career and with friends, whilst using your ideas to increase my expectation of love. Yes, there were some times of feeling lonely or doubtful, but I kept on going, supported by the success stories and others at your group, until I met him a through a ‘random’ invite and it’s been lovely ever since.”
Right from Day 1 when I saw secret for the first time, I had a belief that Law of Attraction works. While doing my research on LOA I came across Awesome AJ and connected with him on Facebook and then on WhatsApp. I use to discuss with him the power of positive words and how to rephrase our sentences with positive words. We use to discuss a lot of real-life situations and one of the discussion was around Team India’s campaign line for 2015 ICC Cricket World Cup. Star Sports came up with ‘We Won’t Give It Back’ campaign and we discussed the impact of billion people saying Give It Back and we all know what happened in the world cup we gave it back to Australia from whom we have taken it 2011.
I really enjoy reading your posts and learning about opening up to deep and fulfilling love. After heart shattering loss over the course of the last two years I am now in the process of putting myself back together again. It’s still pretty messy but I really want to learn to love myself and be the best version of myself, for me and for my soulmate who I know is out there waiting for me to be ready for forever.
I’ll bet a bunch of you reading this are arguing this point with me right now in that beautiful head of yours, but remember what I said earlier about us attracting based on what we feel and believe. So, if you really want to improve your financial situation as quickly and painlessly as possible, you need to start shifting your belief that money trouble is the worst thing that can happen to you, that some horrible fate will befall you if get behind on your payments.
Again, we can only attract that to which we are currently a match, so this means we can’t wait to feel better about our lives until what we want comes. You have to make peace with your single status. You have to start finding ways to feel happy about your life now as it is. This doesn’t mean pretending to like things you don’t, but diligently working on adopting a perspective that actually makes you feel better. It is about focusing on the things in your life that are good, and building on that energy. It is about making time to do things that make you feel good, that help produce the feelings you think you would get from being in a relationship.
Well lately I have been looking at this LOA and I would love to try it. I have been very unfortunate with love and relationships for about a year now. It seem like everytime I get close with a guy, he leaves with no explanation. I get really attached and it hurts soo bad when they leave. And with this last guy I was with I have been having negative thoughts saying things like, “oh he wont stay”, and “What if he leaves like the rest?” Well it happened , but here’s the thing, I don’t know if it could be because of the negative thoughts or his ex. Let me explain what I mean. Well me and this guy that I would never thought I would have feelings for start becoming really good friends. He was attracted to me, but couldn’t date me because he was already in a relationship with his girlfriend of almost 2 years. A month later she have been talking to him about breaking up and finally she did. Then me and him start getting close. Everything was going great until his ex wanted to come back. Well he let her and now I’m left in the cold once again. I strongly believe the only reason she’s back in his life is because she found out about me and got upset. I don’t think she love him like she say she do, but I don’t know. I do see us being a great couple, but how can I get the LOA to work for me and him and she’s in the way?

Ultimately, you don’t need money to create certain types of feelings, and you can create them now. What can you do now that gives you a greater sense of freedom? Perhaps it is learning to say no more, being more selective with how you spend your time, or scaling back on commitments. What can you do to feel fulfilled now? Maybe it is doing some sort of volunteer work, or making time for a hobby.
Physical compatibility in a relationship need not always mean love. There are many versions of love, and romance and lust are two basic ones. True love includes commitment, trust, respect and contentment. If these things lack in a relationship, it is definitely not love. A lot of people justify physical violence with passion. Passion in a relationship is definitely a natural phenomenon, but there’s a thin line between being passionate and violent. If you find your partner being too harsh on you, both physically and emotionally, then it’s not love.
But! Apart from being commercial stuff it’s underlying intention is to motivate people to do stuff. If you imagine real hard that you are getting a jet plane for your birthday, well it probably wont happen unless you are friends with Bill Gates. But if you really want to have 100 new RSS subscribers it’s not bad to really want it and to think about it because it will drive action. You might not be aware of it but action is what produced your results, thinking about them just pushed you to work harder.
“I was recently recalling being in France years ago when the friends I was staying with wanted to go to a casino. We picked up another friend-of-a-friend and I was told “He always wins”. Within 5 minutes of being in the Casino, the lights and the bells went off and the noise of an avalanche of coins- this guy had won the jackpot on the machine. He walked away and went on to win again on that visit… I was outside of a cafe in London and I suddenly said to my friend ‘I’m going in that Casino and I’m winning’. It was like the words came through me. I walked in, put my money in the slot and won £70. What was strange was the maximum jackpot win was £60 according to the machine! It’s funny, because I have ‘tried’ to do this since- especially when I went to Law Vegas- and I didn’t win. I now realise that it’s because the first time, like with the guy from France, I was in a vibration of calm knowing rather than a ‘trying to manifest’. I love sharing this because it is a feeling that reminds me when I am connected to source on all different kinds of subjects.”

It is powerful tool, if your thoughts. It is really tricky sometimes. Old habits usually steps in and refuse to step aside. I started with the secret. My mother gave it to me and said: i bought this book but i think you need it better. I was at a negative place in my life at that moment. After reading that bought all the other books too watch the film, but i felt like something was missing. I asked for help to understand better. The Universe answered and when i was at the bookstore the book Ask and its given by Esther and Jerry Hicks caught my attention. I wanted more information since it clearly wasn’t working for me. I stubbled over Kevin Traudeau and i listened to all of the cds. At first i helt so happy but then i descovered that it was a scam. I felt betrayed( i later understand that a lot of what he talked about is true). Diving deeper in to the teaching of Abraham. Joining groups on Facebook. Reading about Laws of Attraction everywhere i could find it. Using affirmations, meditation, writing down 5-10 things everyday that i am grateful for, thanking the Universe for all little things everyday, feeling powerful, loving myself, clearing out all bad thinking about money, reprogramming thoughts… i done it all. I did manage to manifest a computer and a neighbor that i disliked moved away and little things…but the things i really really want is more difficult to attract. So i will keep on doing what i do because i know Everything will work out for me, because i have the best team of Universal forces at my back.
As you start shifting beliefs around this area of your life, you may notice certain things in your experience. You are meeting more people with whom you have common interests. You find yourself having great conversations with people, the types of conversations you envision having with your partner. You may find yourself going on more dates frequently with people who seem like a better fit for you than people you were going out with previously.

Thank you for that piece of advice-should I remain in a constant state of “as if” with no attentiin on what is? Or should I focus in what I want, relax, and accept what is? Normally I focus in meditation on my intentions, relax, and allow my manifestations to occur—but, normally I am also not as Concerned about what I want to manifest. Should I be doing it differently?
Hi Phill, your article is a great inspiration, I came across this Law of attraction for the first time early last month in Oprah Winfre’s website, though I believe in the law but sometimes discouraged , your article is a great booster to me, your explanations are more detailed and I will pick up from there with perseverance , any further help will be appreciated .
Thanks for writing all your experience with LOA, I firmly believe in law of attraction and it started when I came across Mr. Wayne Dyer’s book, and I have manifested a lot since then, If I write all of them then I will have my own blog. After reading his book I started getting LOA related book as a gift from my family and friends as if universe wanted me to know something, Your site has validated my experience, so thanks a lot. All the best and God bless you.

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2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’.  These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people.  This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
“Various people told me they had a feeling I was going to meet my life partner – but it had been such a long time alone and I wasn’t so sure. Your workshop and my commitment to the practices such as Appreciation and the incredible Focusing Process got me to start enjoying what I already had and feel a little more optimistic. My life was going by and I was missing out because of my obsession with this one thing being ‘missing’. And so I decided to more involve myself in my career and redecorate my home. I also joined a gym and several social groups – something which was alien to me. As a result, I simply didn’t have time to be lonely. And then, just as they say ‘when you’re not looking for it’, I met my partner through one of the groups! What I really like about The Law of Attraction Centre is that it genuinely does change people’s lives rather than making false promises. It’s reassuring to know that you are teaching what works… I now live in Paris in what is considered to be the ‘best’ part: this is what I used to dream about when I was younger. I look forward to visiting and seeing everyone again at the groups this Summer. My partner is ‘into’ Law of Attraction too, of course, so perhaps I will bring him along.”
“I was dropped off around the corner from my home in London by a friend. Suddenly, a smartly dressed man- a hotel concierge- greeted me and reached to grab my bags. I explained I wasn’t going to the hotel- but what a sign of abundance! It reminded me of a few years ago when a limousine actually stopped, the driver got out, opened the door and said to me “Your car, Sir?”

It may sound silly to do this as an adult, but it’s a game worth playing. When you’re out with friends sometime, have a contest to see who can manifest the most money. You may not get too excited about finding coins, but you may generate some excitement about trying to best your friends in a silly contest. That silliness will actually help you get the right vibe, thereby improving your ability to manifest money.


It’s fun to think of this vibe-shifting process as shifting dimensions, as if you’re tuning in to a different perceptual frequency spectrum. That other reality was there all along. You just couldn’t see it before because you were tuned in to incompatible perceptual frequencies, frequencies that made the money invisible and undetectable by your senses. Maybe you were stuck on the red part of the spectrum, while the money was hanging out in the blue part.
Nice to see you around here again! Thanks so much for your comment and so glad you liked the post. You make an excellent point about how we can sometimes make ‘money’ the how as there are lots of ways we can experience the things we think can only come through money. That is great you have a routine that makes you feel good…that repetition is often a key to really reconditioning our minds. That makes perfect sense and is exactly what we want to accomplish…feeling the feelings now as if what we want is already here.
After meditating daily, for 2–4 weeks, and you are operating on a higher frequency you will notice that a thought or ideas suddenly come to you, during or after meditation. You will realize this is not just a random thought. It will feel different, like an impulse, you will have a desire to take action on it. It can be anything, even something completely random, like going to the grocery store to pick something up, or to call a friend you haven’t spoken to in a while. Whatever the inspired idea is, follow through with it because what it is is a stepping stone. It brings what you want to manifest a step closer to you. Things manifest in stages, not all at once. It may seem like something just comes to you out of the blue, but it doesn’t. It’s one thing that leads to another that will lead to another thing and that inevitably brings what you want to you. Don’t try to make it happen, just chill out, get out of your own way, and allow it to happen. The Universe will take care of the details, you just have to be ready.
Instead, Louise says you can transform your life by staying positive. "You have to start saying things that you feel really good about yourself. 'I love who I am. I love life. Life loves me. It's going to be smooth and easy. Life works for me.' And you just start doing that—it's planting seeds. You're not going to get it the first day, but you plant a seed and you water it and you continue the affirmations, and things start to shift and change in your life."
Hi again, I just recently posted a question, well I thought of something else that I didn’t mention in my last question. See I am sort of confused a little with Letting Go part/the “being okay without him” part. The LOA states to visualize and feel your desire, like you already have what you want. Basically focusing on you is the major part of attracting a specific person, and of course being okay with not receiving what you want, letting go or detachment. If visualizing myself with my man makes me happy, if thinking about my man & I’s new relationship makes me happy, then that is okay to focus on? I’m confused as to how I’m suppose to do both, visualize and also let go at the same time..

Listening to the law of attraction meditation in the past two weeks is the best thing I have done in years. The concept sits so tight in my head now that I don’t know why the rest of the world doesn’t live by it. Since I started listening to this mp3, wonderful things have happened. I got a Facebook message from a great guy I wasn’t expecting to; our mutual friend told him about me. We’re dating now and so far, so good. I’m happier and confident, have this inner feeling that all is well with me; I found the most perfect apartment for a great price and just signed the lease. My best friend won a three-day cruise vacation and she’s taking me as a plus one. I just have to pay for the flight. Beautiful things are happening so fast and I’m just shocked, thank you!


January we got together..we’re best friends too…everything was going PERFECT…then my beliefs mess up with me… I started with feelings like: ” Oh no, it’s too good to be real, she for real doesn.t like me, I’m not good enough, she’ll find someone better, etc” . I started to be so jealous…and everytime I was saying that I needed a break, space from her..but I didn’t know how… because I needed to change my vibes and get self confident again… So, the Universe gave me this break, when We had a discussion a month ago. She asked me a break.
I’ll bet a bunch of you reading this are arguing this point with me right now in that beautiful head of yours, but remember what I said earlier about us attracting based on what we feel and believe. So, if you really want to improve your financial situation as quickly and painlessly as possible, you need to start shifting your belief that money trouble is the worst thing that can happen to you, that some horrible fate will befall you if get behind on your payments.

“I was in a bar and the three people I spoke to (or rather came to speak to me) thought I was ten years younger than I am. There was a time when people guessed I was ten years older! It also happens more often in my day to day life, getting compliments and admiring looks. Unsurprisingly, I’d been writing this on my Universe List and Focusing process every day. Then last week I met someone who almost fitted my ideal partner- another match to the Focusing Process! I’ll keep you updated!”
How great would it be if you could call in your soul mate, the perfect person to spend the rest of your life with? Or become wildly successful and financially abundant? What if you could create anything you want and live a purpose-based life of happiness, joy, and total fulfillment? Learning how to manifest what your heart truly desires is something you’d love to master, right? The 2006 documentary The Secret inspired many to start thinking in new ways; did you hope that you, too, could manifest your dreams?

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Hi, my name is Bhuwan Pant and I am passionate about helping people find and achieve their goals & ambitions using Law of attraction laws. Often deep down we know what we want to do, where we want to be and with whom we want to experience life with, but just need a helping hand to ensure we are heading in the right direction. This Course will take you by hand on your journey to apply Law of Attraction in Your daily life and get desired results.
Imagine that scene where your ideal world and this world overlap – that park for example. Imagine that you’re there, but in the ideal world – you know everything that is in that park, every bench, every path, every tree, but you also know that everything else is just as you want it to be, although you don’t see it. You’re just there, in the park that you know, and the world is a great place. Stay in the park for as long as you need to fully embrace the feeling that the world outside of it is made by your desire.

It’s important to understand that mindfulness isn’t about changing anything or trying to understand it. This is because the analytical and judgement aspects — our automatic reactions — are unhealthy and actually perpetuate the problem. It reinforces the connection in our brain between the action and the negative feeling. To release that connection, approach it without judgement. Let it be.
5. See the positive. Focus on the good things about the specific person you want the Law of Attraction to bring you. Look for something to appreciate. This can be tough if there are negative feelings between the two of you, and you might only be able to find one thing in the beginning, but if you keep working at it, it will get easier. If you’re in a relationship with the person already, you should start to see his/her behavior change and things start improving between the two of you.

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