Again, we can only attract that to which we are currently a match, so this means we can’t wait to feel better about our lives until what we want comes. You have to make peace with your single status. You have to start finding ways to feel happy about your life now as it is. This doesn’t mean pretending to like things you don’t, but diligently working on adopting a perspective that actually makes you feel better. It is about focusing on the things in your life that are good, and building on that energy. It is about making time to do things that make you feel good, that help produce the feelings you think you would get from being in a relationship.
I’m glad my book on using the Law of Attraction for love of a specific person worked for you! You should follow the same steps you followed the first time. It’s okay if you think about him, but you should focus on making yourself happy. Instead of thinking of the feeling of “feeling in love”, think of the emotion of “feeling loved.” That’s what you’re ultimately looking for in your relationship.
“Since your workshop on Finding Love I have ‘found’ my ideal relationship- but it was in a different way to how I thought! And it’s all from writing lists of appreciation about my current partner and my current life. I refused to dwell on what was annoying me about him… I also focused on how it would feel in my ideal relationship. And what happened was this: my existing relationship has transformed. I was about to leave so it’s particularly strange. I transformed my attitude- and he transformed. I haven’t settled; I’m deeper in love than I’ve ever been. A good tip to share is I left all the ‘how’s’ and ‘who’s’ to the Universe thanks to the Universe List and, as ever, the Universe delivers. I highly recommend your work- and that’s no small thing coming from a self-confessed ‘workshop junkie’.”
You should remain in a state of “as if” when using the Law of Attraction for a specific person. When you give attention to what is, you give it power to create more of what is. You should relax and allow your manifestation to occur, as you have always done. It’s a great way to create what you want and, as you release resistance and become more detached, you’ll be able to reach that state more easily.
That’s a great story. I would like to share with you how I manifested my dream job. I got a job I very much disliked at a biopharmaceutical company 8 months after getting my masters degree. But because it took me that long to get a job, it was somewhat precious to me. However, after one year, I was even more miserable and burnt out that I ever was and decided that enough is enough. I took the leap of faith and quit without any other job lined up. I took the time and freedom to explore what I really wanted to do and discovered my passion in the human resources field. However, the HR industry in my country is quite immature and I could not find any positions that fitted into my aspirations, goals, capacity and capabilities. I applied to many HR position half-heartedly. I have a long standing desire to move abroad but was unsure on how to make it happen. After 11 months of unsuccessful attempts, I intensely decided that I will be getting a job offer for a dream position from abroad NOW. I created a Manifestation Book and wrote down daily entries of getting a great job and an amazing location. A couple of days later I came across a job advertisement for a HR position in Germany. The position was all that I could ask for in a job. I applied to it. For the next 30+ days, I spent most of my waking hours believing that the job is mine. I did everything it took to train my mind that I am getting the job. Besides the daily journal entry, I sent job offer emails to myself and also recorded myself affirming about getting the job and listened to it before going to sleep. About 10 days after the closing date of the application, I received and email from the company inviting me to the Assessment Centre in Germany!! The interview and assessments went smoothly and a week later they offered me the job! The salary is great, the company is huge and famous and most importantly it is the job I had dreamed of and a dream location. I am starting on December 1st 2014 in Germany and very much looking forward to it. The Universe has given me what I wished for. If you really want something and believe with unshakable faith that you will have it, the whole Universe will conspire to make it happen!
2) Open to the mystery of life. You have no idea when or where that special person could walk into your life. He or she could be someone you already know or met in the past. They could be someone you’ll be meeting on your next business trip or vacation. They could also be your next date’s brother or sister! Your next Facebook friend or Twitter follower. They could be someone you’ll be meeting at a coffee shop or at the train station while you wait for the next train. The key here is to surrender all pre-conceived ideas and drop all your expectations of how, and with whom it is to happen and continue to focus on ‘what’ you want by being fully available and present in each and every moment. Don’t worry about the how! Say ‘Yes’ to your soulmate, and open to the mystery of life!
The sense of utter helplessness was all-consuming. I was no stranger to hard times. I’d grown up in extremely difficult circumstances and had struggled all my life. I already knew what it felt like to go hungry, to not have a roof over my head, or a bed to sleep in at night. But this was different. Being resilient and scrappy is fine when it’s just you. But when you have children to feed, it’s a new kind of panic that washes over you in overwhelming waves. In the past I had always relied on #TheHustle to get me through anything; it was comforting knowing that no matter what came at me, I would always “find a way.” But this time, I knew Hustle alone would not save me, and I had no bright ideas.
You’ve got to put a roadblock on the sled path. Stop telling the OLD story and start telling the NEW story! The NEW story of how you want it to be. The story of what it’s like to be in the most magical, loving relationship with your Soulmate. Starting now. You’re going to start catching yourself when you’re chatting with friends and the OLD story starts to creep out. Notice it. Then shift to the NEW story.
Coins may be found on the ground while you’re walking around. Bills will sometimes be found on the ground too. Larger sums may manifest in the form of exchanges, business deals, inheritances, inspired action, and other ways. Assume that those larger sums are right in front of your face, staring at you and screaming at you to notice them. You just have to tune your vibe to the right frequency to pick them up.
And, just as an important side note: Your subconscious is way, way more powerful than you possibly give it credit for. Most people don’t realize this fact. Your subconscious knows exactly what you’re going to do. It’s infinitely more aware of what’s happening in the universe than your conscious mind. It simply won’t be bullied. It’s happy for you to tell it what to do, once you master the process of doing so.