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“I hadn’t dated anyone properly for over ten years – and I felt like I was a lost cause! However, having heard some of the inspiring stories through your workshop, I relaxed into the possibility that change could happen for me (because at first it just didn’t seem possible). I followed the guidance about which technique to do at which time – I meditated daily – and over the space of about two months, I began to noticeably feel better consistently. I began to let loose of my ‘love’ obsession and began enjoying what I already had. I started to do better in my career too, taking more care of my appearance and gravitating towards exercise. And then, through work, seemingly ‘out of the blue’, I met someone special – and it’s a very healthy and supportive relationship, exactly what I always wanted.”
No matter what comes up, don't shut any of it down because it seems silly, irrational or whatever... if it is coming up, it's relevant and a very real feeling and belief that must be addressed. Pay attention to any memories that float in your mind...even if they have nothing to do with romantic relationships, there is a similar thread energetically, and will help you uncover beliefs and feelings that are blocking you.
The major dilemma with the LOA is: did I attract this or did I feel it coming? In your story I only see intuition, no attraction: you were in an unsatisfying relationship and deep inside you were feeling it would end sooner or later. You met someone at the right time for both of you and you are both attracted to each other. To put this to the test, start imagining every evening that Gisele Bundchen will fall in love with you and you will see that you won’t attract her just because you are not meant to be together. Getting my point?

4) Shine your unique light.  Be willing to, more than ever, be yourself with every person that you meet, and in every situation – no matter how casual the encounter might seem.  As Andy Warhol used to say, “Be yourself because everyone else is already taken.”  The more you are yourself, the faster your soulmate will recognize you. Remember: they are also looking for someone unique just like you, so when you stop being your true self, you’re also stopping them from recognizing you!
Many people have limiting beliefs which keep them from allowing abundance and happiness into their lives. If this describes you, realize that you must first change your limiting beliefs into thoughts that you are deserving, worthy, lovable, desirable, and capable—as well as smart enough, strong enough, attractive enough, rich enough, good enough, and “enough” in every other way that matters to you.
Katherine Hurst used to live a normal life until something happened that changed her life forever. She discovered the Law of Attraction and began a new, life-changing chapter. She now runs the world's largest Law of Attraction community with millions of followers. Her mission is to share her own experiences to inspire change and happiness in the lives of all.
I gained a good friend in sixth or seventh grade, and we hung out nearly every day. However, in the beginning of eight grade, she moved away to Michigan. She had given me her number, but I lost it! In my freshman year of high school one day, I just thought to myself, “I wonder how my friend is doing? I really want to talk to her.” I didn’t really think much of it though. It was just a passing thought. Later within the year, my mom came up to me and handed me a number. I asked her who’s number it was, and she told me that my friend’s mother had contacted my school to in order to hunt me down. She called and gave my mom her number so I could call my friend! O_O At the time, I wasn’t even thinking about LOA, but now as I look back, I realized it was! (I was just introduced to “The Secret” in eight grade too).
And that means, at least to me, that for some reason, it was meant for this story to be told to you today. Maybe there’s one ETR reader out there that this is specifically for. Maybe that one person is waiting for this exact blueprint to go and change their lives and they’ll get great inspiration and wisdom from my journey. I don’t know, but I hope so, and I hope it helps you. The world works in mysterious ways. So here goes…
When you meditate, that is your time it just sit in a quiet space and allow yourself to just chill and just be. It is not a time to think or to focus on what you want, but is instead the time you want to quiet your mind. You want to take just 10–15 minutes to sit in a quiet space and to just focus on one specific thing, for as long as you can during that time. It could be a mantra you repeat in your head, or a sound, like a ticking clock, or the sound of a fan. Something that is constant and repetitive, and easy to focus on. Because, when you stop thought and just focus on the one thing a few things begin to happen.
Above all, find ways to be happier now, no matter what is going on. Make your happiness and well-being a priority. The higher you are "vibing" the more things you will attract into your experience that mirror back all these great feelings. Be patient and compassionate with yourself. You can want the relationship, but release on the desperate sense of "need" around it.
Your English could easily pass for an English speaker. I also love writing and started to blog, but realized I didn’t have a theme that would produce thoughts to the world. It’s fine, as being on the computer is already quite time consuming. Or in the lingua of the above topic, I guess it’s not my all consuming wish :) In any case, I felt as you did – that all that attraction stuff does lead to hard work, and even then, no guarantees. I don’t care for any system that has built into it a “failure” clause, because you didn’t do this or that. Being positive, having dreams, working hard,all good stuff, but again, life isn’t ours always to control.
The process of attraction happens at the level of what we feel and believe, and when you don’t set standards and boundaries, this shows you don’t feel very good about yourself, and that you have a lot of crappy beliefs that essentially amount to not feeling good enough, and not being deserving of the best life has to offer. These types of beliefs can mess with various aspects of our life, but can be particularly problematic in the love department. And guess what types of people and situations we attract when we feel this way? Shitty, shitty, shitty ones.
The awesome LOA blogger Melody Fletcher termed the manifestations that show up to indicate we are on the right path as ‘breadcrumbs.’ The thing is though, many of us misinterpret them as ‘bad’ things that show us we still don’t have what we want. Sometimes, a manifestation is not just going to fall right into our lap—this is especially true of ‘wants’ that are really big and important to us–we typically have a lot of resistance to work through. Just allowing it in, in its full form, immediately, usually can’t happen.
2) De-Cluttering your Mind. De-Cluttering your Mind means exactly that.  It means letting go or releasing any fears or beliefs you have about love that are keeping love away from you.  For example, many people believe they have some kind of fatal flaw or secret that may repulse others.  For women, it normally is something physical, and for men, it is normally something in their financial situation or career. These insecurities will lead you to have thoughts such as:
As I mentioned earlier, the process of spiritual growth and development is one of releasing and letting go of old ways of being and embracing the new aspects of ourselves that are wanting to emerge.  And welcoming your Soulmate into your life, as an expression of this growth, requires that you now begin by clearing the decks.  This means beginning to remove all of the obstacles that are stopping, hindering, delaying or even distracting you from having the relationship that you truly want to have.  How? By Healing your heart, De-Cluttering your Mind, Releasing the past and Making Room for Love.
I hope you found this post enlightening, and it instilled a sense of hope in you, a spark of possibility that the relationship you want, not just any relationship, can happen for you. Please let me know your thoughts in the comments. What part resonated with you the most? Did you have any insights into your own situation reading this? Do you have any tips to share about attracting love? Looking forward to reading your comments and having a chat!
With total freedom, an individual is left free to focus all of their mental energies on what it is that they truly want from life. They are free from the burdens and stress of bills, debts and back-breaking work. Arguably, the biggest excuse used by large numbers of unsatisfied workers is that they are unable to live out their dreams as a result of a lack of cash flow.
Second, we will help you set some clear goals for yourself for the coming year... as without clarity on your goals it's impossible to expect the Law of Attraction to give you what you want as you first need to decide what you really want first... What goals would you like to achieve in the next 90 days? What new habits would you like to create? What would you like to attract in next 90 days? We will help you set S.M.A.R.T goals that will give you the result you want...
Another one from Abraham Hicks. I intend to read all of the Abraham, Esther and Jerry Hicks stuff lol. Sometimes I also listen to them on youtube. They were very inspiring and direct to the point and very helpful in my path to spirituality and goodness and patience and all the good things lol. I'll never stop learning and I'll never stop practicing loa. I believe that it is all worth it! :)
The Law of Attraction operates based on your unconscious mind. This means that whatever you’ve got going on inside will determine the things that are brought to you on the outside. The goal is to recognize recurring patterns as quickly as possible, so you can reconcile internal issues and get your ship sailing smoothly again. You see the signs and oftentimes you consciously choose to ignore them. The more you ignore the signs, the stronger they become, though. A big part of cleaning up what you’re attracting externally is to become aware of what you have going on internally.

I am so glad you found the post helpful. That is great that your faith in the ability to consciously create our reality is growing. As it does, you will see more and more ‘proof’, which will just reinforce that, setting of a wonderful cycle. Just always remember to be patient, and make your core focus feeling good about the work you are doing. Find content that resonates with you, and really focus on learning from those sources. That encounter with that person definitely shows you are moving towards what you want. Being able to truly be ourselves will make the process of attracting a relationship so much easier, you have no idea.
However, I know the general frame of mind here is that you can’t manifest money into your life by using the Law of Attraction. Yet, over and over again, people use this precise technique to help them move towards greater financial prosperity. You’ve likely even heard of people “willing” themselves into winning the lottery and receiving other types of windfalls.
January we got together..we’re best friends too…everything was going PERFECT…then my beliefs mess up with me… I started with feelings like: ” Oh no, it’s too good to be real, she for real doesn.t like me, I’m not good enough, she’ll find someone better, etc” . I started to be so jealous…and everytime I was saying that I needed a break, space from her..but I didn’t know how… because I needed to change my vibes and get self confident again… So, the Universe gave me this break, when We had a discussion a month ago. She asked me a break.
“I wasn’t able to get myself into a place to find love until I attended your workshop; and then I realised I had been trying too hard – but recently I met someone and although it’s new, it feels different to any relationship I’ve experienced before. I can totally put it down to the moment I stopped searching and needing someone; I started fully participating in my life instead of longing for it to be better. I had fun with the Focusing Process and I really ‘got’ Meditation and deep breathing, finally. It wasn’t instant – but trying out the different techniques and finding a way that worked for me was how it happened. I’ve known about the Law of Attraction for about two years and there were times when I wasn’t sure if it was working or if I was doing something wrong – but now I know that although it can take some time, it absolutely works. Thank you for the support when I needed it most.”
You are greater than what is going on around you. Your relationship with yourself is your most important relationship. What’s happened happened. It’s in the past and you can’t change it. It sucks, but it’s happened. You can still change what happens in the future. Focus on getting to a place where you feel better. The happier and more joyful you feel, the more positive results you will see.
As you start shifting beliefs around this area of your life, you may notice certain things in your experience. You are meeting more people with whom you have common interests. You find yourself having great conversations with people, the types of conversations you envision having with your partner. You may find yourself going on more dates frequently with people who seem like a better fit for you than people you were going out with previously.

When we talk about true love, commitment is more than just monogamy. It represents that your partner cares for you as much as you do. He/she wants to be with you for the rest of his life. Commitment believes that no matter what, you both are there for each other even in worst situations. This is one factor that should be equally shared by both the partners.
This was by far the best book that I've ever read on manifestation and I have been an advocate for and a student of the secret since maybe I was 13. literally every single word hit the core of my being I think a lot of it has to do with Elizabeth riding but I also think that my vibrational frequency Aligned so well what I needed to hear. I think it's great because not only does she talk about the fantasticness of you know attracting your other one but also learning how to forgive yourself and that other POS you know what I mean by piece of shiitake mushrooms that either you broke up with because they were cheating or they broke up with you because they didn't know your value... let me tell you something you're the most valuable person on this planet and also if everyone had the mentality that they are the best person I've ever met just imagine how amazing this planet would be. All of those innate inklings that you think and you read about on Tony Robbins or whatever she is outlined in this book flat-out literally line after line. Elizabeth i inspire also to be an author and if I can be like you to just one person like me one day then I'll know that my hard work and time paid off. When I volunteer with kids I don't care if I affect a thousand as long as I just have one that truly knows that I love them unconditionally and Elizabeth I was that broken child and you mended me up with some freaking Gorilla Glue you're amazing thanks again. Apologies about the typos I did voice to text because I wanted to get all that

If you are really struggling with relationships, there is something happening deep inside that is creating the outcomes you keep experiencing. You are getting something you want, you are protecting yourself from something you fear. You have some sort of image of yourself that deems you unworthy of love. Again, this may not vibe with your conscious mind, that is in a constant state of wanting happiness and good things. You are not cursed. You are not some horrible person that only deserves douches. You have the power to change this, if you are willing to do the inner work and take responsibility. And by responsibility, I don’t mean blame. Two very different energies there. One empowers us, and the other keeps us feeling terrible.

Sorry for the late reply and thank for your answer 🙂 Actually what I was mostly aiming at was of course manifesting signs of my loved one before Christmas but having the goal of spending the holidays with him. I haven’t seen him in so long, he is quite far away and I have no idea how that will manifest itself but I am leaving it up to the universe to make it happen because Christmas used to have a very special meaning to us. Also during our book club and going over your book “how to manifest a specific person” one of the readers wanted to know if it was alright for her to chant (she is an assiduous buddhist) her buddhist mantra while using LOA. She wanted to know if it was compatible eventhough it is the same philosophy, she was afraid that perhaps practising two different methods might delay her manifestations in any way…I do not know if this is something you can help her with! Loving our little book club which is growing too!!!!
Amazing, that’s what happen with me and my ex, we would break up and he would date other woman, and I would feel extremely insecure, jealous, crazy, and etc then he would put pics up of one chic and then cut me off. I was devastated, so now I got Elizabeth’s book and I am working on me, so that I can get the LOVE OF MY LIFE back and FOR GOOD this time, in my heart I truly, truly, truly believe we are SOULMATES, everyone tells me, that I should just move on, that I am a beautiful young lady and I will find someone else and that he’s not that into me, etc, but we where together for 4 years going on 5, and I had alot of negative doubts, and insecurities and we kept breaking up. But, I truly believe that he and I are meant to be, and I am so excited that I brought the book and am reading it, taking the steps, and working on me. Best of luck!!!!
Hi again, I just recently posted a question, well I thought of something else that I didn’t mention in my last question. See I am sort of confused a little with Letting Go part/the “being okay without him” part. The LOA states to visualize and feel your desire, like you already have what you want. Basically focusing on you is the major part of attracting a specific person, and of course being okay with not receiving what you want, letting go or detachment. If visualizing myself with my man makes me happy, if thinking about my man & I’s new relationship makes me happy, then that is okay to focus on? I’m confused as to how I’m suppose to do both, visualize and also let go at the same time..
I’m glad my book on using the Law of Attraction for love of a specific person worked for you! You should follow the same steps you followed the first time. It’s okay if you think about him, but you should focus on making yourself happy. Instead of thinking of the feeling of “feeling in love”, think of the emotion of “feeling loved.” That’s what you’re ultimately looking for in your relationship.
Energy of soul so strong and powerful and intense. Feels fear deep inside and wants to run away from feelings and try to cut contact off. The man runs in fear of love for he is not use to vibration with soul. Has internal conflict that drives him crazy for he doesnt understand soul love. He only understands what he can touch in physical and from his heart. He has never been exposed to soul love. Fear of the male is about the magical power of love and fear of the unknown and he thinks of running because he has to face the unknown. He needs space in his man cave to process. He fears change and loosing what he has built in in material world of life and what they possess in letting go or what doing now.. Needs to understand they have to have peace and love inside soul for nothing else matters. When he begins to live from the heart, self and soul with no fear then knows in heart that everything is o.k and is ordained by God.. He reacts in a different way from the soul and knows is is connected to pure Divine love and how to connect from heart and soul into Soul Love. He is calm in his soul with vibration of peace as he accepts the truth of this union. Real man listens to obey his soul and as he listens to intuition, it leads him from his heart what he needs to do to embrace this divine soul love union in this magical part of the partnership of magical love and exhange with twin. Has power to say, “I Love You” in front of eyes to twin for it is a prerequisite which allows soul relationship to flow and increase love at higher levels and is being his true self. He has embraced SOUL LOVE when uses this dignity to come out and not be afraid and share feelings and not run and hide them. Steps into real power next to his beloved he loves unconditionally. It is part of a Divine shift and process of evolution with your twin. Acceptance, will wake up refreshed and happy and weight taken off you. It comes in to clear your consciousness for everything to be o.k when you make shift. When you open to truth dont have to hide. Can say what have to say. Wanting twin for sex or lust is not soul love
“I made a list of the qualities I wanted in a partner- integrity, someone I find very attractive, commitment, focus, ambition, kindness. Then I realised they were qualities I wanted to embody more in myself, too. So I meditated on this following doing a Universe List prayer- in which I asked the Universe to ‘reveal these qualities in myself’ and ‘inspire me to more fully embody them’. Firstly, what happened is I received compliments from friends of how I reminded them of certain well-known people- and how younger and healthier I was looking. I began feeling calmer and more comfortable being me. I was happier being single than ever before and then ‘happened’ to go to a friend’s dinner party when I met the most wonderful man.”
The major dilemma with the LOA is: did I attract this or did I feel it coming? In your story I only see intuition, no attraction: you were in an unsatisfying relationship and deep inside you were feeling it would end sooner or later. You met someone at the right time for both of you and you are both attracted to each other. To put this to the test, start imagining every evening that Gisele Bundchen will fall in love with you and you will see that you won’t attract her just because you are not meant to be together. Getting my point?
For one of a million reasons, we feel like we can’t be ourselves. We long to be. We just want to move through the world as we truly are, without the masks. This is especially true when it comes to relationships. If you asked someone to make a list of what he wanted in a partner, I imagine ‘loving me for who I am’ would near the top of anyone’s list, or at least anyone who wants a real, authentic relationship.
As with all Law of Attraction work, trying to manifest love requires you look at the underlying assumption that holds you back. In this case, limiting beliefs that might block you from finding love. Try to write them down first. Then identify where they came from. Most importantly, write down a contradictory belief that you can then turn into a daily affirmation. Here is an article to get you started with three tips for creating powerful affirmations.

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