Right from Day 1 when I saw secret for the first time, I had a belief that Law of Attraction works. While doing my research on LOA I came across Awesome AJ and connected with him on Facebook and then on WhatsApp. I use to discuss with him the power of positive words and how to rephrase our sentences with positive words. We use to discuss a lot of real-life situations and one of the discussion was around Team India’s campaign line for 2015 ICC Cricket World Cup. Star Sports came up with ‘We Won’t Give It Back’ campaign and we discussed the impact of billion people saying Give It Back and we all know what happened in the world cup we gave it back to Australia from whom we have taken it 2011.
And this shows you are on the right path, but all too often we twist it. We lament those people that share the same interests as us, or with whom we had those great conversations, didn’t ask for our number. We feel bummed when that date we thought would be so great, turned out to be not the best match. We think we are still not getting what we want, or there is still something ‘wrong’ with us.
Now, suppose that you begin to get clear about the kind of person that your soulmate is.  And you decide he or she is Abundant, Affectionate, Ambitious, Beautiful, Caring, Charismatic, Considerate, Creative, and so forth. Now, imagine that this person – who possess all of these wonderful qualities – was simultaneously looking back at you and secretly seeing you the way that you are right now, do you think that they would be proud of what they were seeing?  Would they be interested in hanging out with you, in dating you?  Chances are, the answer is no.
But, with that being said, adopting these new beliefs when you have believing their super-crappy polar opposites for so long, will not happen at the snap of a finger. And, as I always say regarding this likely course of events, it’s okay. You want to start with where you are now, and work your way up. But, don’t be discouraged by this and think you can’t get anything good until you totally overcome your issues, and obtain some’ perfect’ vibration. I don’t think anyone has one. I imagine achieving that would result in not wanting anything at all.
Math says that 1 + 2 = 2. If you talk with one person who loves math and another who hates math, they’ll each have a different perception of math. One person believes math is intriguing and fun, while the other may have a belief that math is terribly frustrating. So, how you perceive and interpret your reality will also have an effect on what you are attracting in your life.

Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.
Obviously your senses pick up a lot as you go about your day, but you only notice a puny fraction of all that input. In order to manifest money, you need to tune your senses to bring to your attention useful input that you’ve been subconsciously dismissing as irrelevant background noise. This tuning process takes some time, but you can definitely do it.

Thank so much chitownblu! You’re right that getting rid of resistance and attachment are key. Tapping works well for this. Also, remember to focus on what you want. You descussed that you’re aware your desire has not manifested. That’s living from a point of what is, not from what you want. You’re giving energy to creating more of what you don’t want by doing this. It could also be a factor in things not attracting your specific person as your vibration is closer to alignment with not being with him, than being with him.


i have been trying to use law of attraction for some time now, specially when it comes to love because there is one specific person that i am in love. but somehow i am doing something wrong because things don’t manifest the way want… i don’t know what i’m doing wrong. i don’t know if it’s my energy that is negative, if it’s me that is not believing enough, if it’s the way i vizualise things… i even made a visualization board, i write and think about the things that i feel grateful for, every night i imagine myself with that person and that person feeling the same way for me as i do for him but it doesn’t seem to be working… this law of attraction process is very hard, how do i know what i’m doing wrong?
Think of all the awesome things you may have manifested already, things that came to you out of nowhere, in ways you could not have anticipated, and realize that can happen with money as well, if we are willing to make some space for that trust. You have no idea what inspirations will come to you, what solutions will present themselves, what people you will meet and what opportunities will arise.
So what does that tell you? Well, when I asked myself the same question years ago before I started doing this work, what I realized was that in order for me to attract and manifest my Soulmate, I must somehow develop and grow myself into the kind of person that I myself want to be with.   In other words, if you haven’t found the right person it’s probably because you are not being the right person! As Marianne Williamson says, “We must become the person we want to attract.”

Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.


The analogy is simple: if you’re carrying a passenger in your car, there won’t be room for your Soulmate to sit in it!  So, if you’re still in love with this person, but you know that they are not your soul mate and/or there is no possibility of a true, loving, committed relationship with them, it’s time to let them go.   This does not mean you have to stop loving them. It simply means that you have to find a new space in your heart for them, a special chamber where you will put all the people whom you have loved in the past.
So who is your Soulmate?  What does he or she look like? What are their qualities? What is it that makes them unique and attractive to you? For many of us, this journey towards our Soulmate begins by first experiencing what we do not want. Funny how life works, isn’t it? If you have been, or currently find yourself, in a relationship where you find that things are not flowing, it feels like it’s too much work, you argue and fight a lot, you don’t feel like you are compatible or complement each other, the passion is long gone, you constantly feel anxious about the relationship and you’re struggling to be happy, instead of feeling stronger, supported and inspired you feel weakened, or the person is in another relationship and not available to you, chances are that you’re not with your soulmate.
Thanks Mukul but you don’t get the full story here. I’m working on LOA for years and all I’m asking myself are basic questions after I found some flaws in it. I’m questioning certain principles because I managed to attract all the little things I wanted but not the big ones in which I strongly believed. As for the LA trip I used to be there for Christmas just because I could go and afford to pay for the trip. Once this possibility got reduced I can’t attract this anymore as no other possibility else than paying for my trip with my money shows up. There’s no LOA here just pure cause and effect: you want a holiday you pay for it, nobody offered me a trip, nobody invited me, I didn’t win any trip…No I have to pay for it, that’s mathematical.
This brings us to something you need to completly avoid. If you have ever thought or said “I would be happier if I could find my other-half” you are noticing what you don’t have and guess how the law of attraction will respond? With more of the same!  Remember that any thoughts of negation can only bring more of that same situation into your life. This is no different when applying the law of attraction to love and relationships.
I know the LOA says when you want to manifest a specific person you have to be willing to lose them – you have to let go and be ok with not being with them in order to manifest the relationship you want. It also says that you should visualize the relationship you want with this person as if you already have it. How can one do both? How can I imagine being in a relationship with this person but let them go and be ok with not the being with them at the same time?
I have read a number of books over the years regarding the Law of Attraction and the process of manifesting one's desires. This audio set does a phenomenal job in providing the context and content to help the reader change their point of attraction in terms of money, health, and relationships. Like anything, this is a process and the best way to get results is to approach it with a playful attitude. Some people have accused Esther and Jerry Hicks of teaching selfishness. Well, for one thing, there is a difference between being selfish vs Self-ish. Secondly, if one doesn't attend to their own vibrations, they are NO good to the world anyway. So, the best way to 'give back' is to get aligned with your own Well Being aka Source energy.
Thank you so much for such long reply! The more I’m working on myself with LOA, somehow the more my feelings are changing. Deep down, I know there will be more chances for me out there and therefore, I will meet the love of my life but my brain tells me that I shouldn’t have done that. Feels like my heart and my brain are in different places. Sometimes it’s quite the challenge. But I learned that I need to care for myself first and foremost!
“Me and my husband weren’t getting on at all and then I remembered something a woman said at the group who was in a similar situation. So I did a version of the Positive Aspects process: I went through the alphabet thinking of good qualities about him: A- Attractive when we went out last week, B- Bought me a beautiful birthday present, C- Committed to his family and work, D- Determined to feel good, E- Easy going and relaxed… And on I went. After a very short time my feelings of anger and criticism melted away. I began doing this process every day, in the morning before work. Initially I have to admit I wanted to do the processes to change him- but after a while I was doing it because it felt so good. Within a week or so he bought me flowers- he hasn’t done that for years. He started paying me compliments and now he’s booked a holiday for us. He also has told me how much he loves me and I, too, feel more in love with him than I have in a long time.”
I need some advise from you. I would like to say thank you to you. Your article gave me hope. However, here is my story. I am in love with this guy that I know since 2011. We were so close that we were in ‘NO STRING ATTACHED’ kind of relationship and I felt in love with him. Till now I believe he is the one for me but it is really hard because he don’t see me in that way. He cares for me but he always says I will be happier with someone else. I know its him that I always wanted. He is the amazing guy that I really wish to spend my time with. I did visual n all but its been almost a year and there isnt any results yet. I just want him to realise and notice whats he is missing. Want him to give me a chance of being with him. I truely love him since the first I met him. Please revert back to me. Your assistance are much appreciated.
One place where Abe and I agree is that there is a dual nature to everything. Everything. Abraham says, "In everything there is that which is wanted and that which is unwanted." So when you manifest something that you want, it is necessarily going to bring with it something that you do not want. Think about that for a moment. Abraham calls this unwanted aspect "a whole new platform from which to desire." I call it inviting unknown conse ...more
i broke up with my guy just a week back. we were in deep love.but he was realy irriated with me flirting around with other guyz.but i never had any affair with any guy while i was in relationship with him nigther did i cheat on him.dayz back first time he caught me lying ,well i had just called a guy friend of mine(who he dislikes) but i did not tell him about it while he was goin through my phone he just found his contact in the dialled no. and after that he broke up with me. but now when i have changed for him completely , i have stopped talkin 2 every guy friend of mine he doesnt trust me and he doesnt wanna come back.but i cant get over him,i realy love him truly. what do i do.i tried giving him some cute surprises and getting him back but he says his liking hasnt incresed for me at all.

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