Our current state of affairs, whether it is in the realm of love, money, or any other aspect of our life, is always serving us in some way. We are getting some benefit from how things are now, no matter how absurd that seems to your conscious mind. But, here’s the thing..the part of you calling the shots is your subconscious mind, and there are all sorts of crazy thoughts, and limiting beliefs, floating around there that sabotage you in countless ways.

I recently purchased your book and started applying the loa to my relationship. I have been seeing this guy for about 2 months now but we’ve known each other since we were kids…In the beginning he was really into me and passionate, he always found some way to touch me..but a couple of weeks ago all of his affection has stopped and I found out that he still talks to his ex but for court related issues that will be going on until January. Now he seems almost scared to get close to me as if she has threatened him, but I see him everyday and we still kiss goodnight sometimes. He told me hes not completely over her but he never wants to be with her again and that he doesnt want to be in a relationship with anyone for a very long time, but he also says how attracted he is to me and how much he cares for me.

Your future can be anything that you choose it to be. There is a limitless number of possibilities for you to step into, just as there is a limitless versions of you and a limitless versions of everyone else in your life. Everyone takes a role according to the reality you create. If you create a reality with him in it, he will be in it. If you create a reality without him, he won’t be in it. It’s all about you and what you create.


Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.


If you were to meet your soulmate today, and you chose to live together, would there be room in your life for them?  Okay, think you know what I’m getting at?  If you don’t start making actual time and space to be with your soulmate, you’re sending out a clear message to the Universe that you’re not ready to welcome him or her into your life. If what you truly want is to welcome your One into your life, and you are fully committed, then one of the best ways that you can accelerate this process is by consciously making room for them.
When we don’t treat ourselves well, that is a sign of low self-esteem; it sends a message we are not ‘worthy’ of love and care. And guess what will be reflected back into your reality? Taking better care of yourself, and treating yourself with the respect and love you deserve, will help shore up beliefs that say ‘I am good enough.’ ‘I deserve someone who treats me well.’
Now if a little voice tells you that you won’t get what you want to get by imposing the LOA principles to it, it doesn’t mean you have bad thoughts, it might just be you subconscious who knows what is written in your destiny and knows this is not something for you to get. There again: read Florence’s book, there are good examples as how to deal with this. Like lets say you want to meet a girl. With the LOA you’d start shaping her: I want her to be blond, tall thin, nice College graduate etc… And your little voice would tell you: “this is never going to happen”. Well it might be true it will never happen. But if like Florence you’d say: “I want to me the perfect girl, the one which is mine by divine selection”. Well there you might attract her and not have that little conflicting voice show up. Because you are not imposing your will but just calling on what is in store for you.
“One simple and fun way in which I trust the Universe is using random play on my iPod- and I’m not joking. I find that the Universe’s choice of music (or spoken inspirational recordings) is always far more apt than my choice. And so since hearing about Esther and Jerry Hick’s (the Teachings of Abraham) relationship beginnings, and how they were clearly brought together (and when they compared histories, they realised they were in so many states and cities at the same time- showing that the Universe was constantly attempting to bring them together without their effort), I decided to apply this same idea of trusting the Universe for my relationship. And so I did processes. Within days of absolutely giving up on trying (which meant giving up on whenever I went out with friends immediately scanning the room for potential partners, thinking about my soul mate many times during the day and other forms of searching, despite telling myself and all my friends I was perfectly happy being single and letting it all unfold naturally!), I walked into a cafe I had been in so many times and immediately, naturally found myself within a conversation with one of the staff I had seen but never spoken to. We talked, exchanged telephone numbers… and who knows?! And who cares. Because for the first time I won’t be checking my phone every 5 minutes- I honestly don’t care if he calls or not- the fact is, I now understand that my ‘figuring it out’ way doesn’t work – the Universe knows better than I do. This is the first time I’ve exchanged numbers with anyone significant in about 6 months. And all from a couple of days of truly surrendering! And before the day was over, I was surprisingly contacted by someone I used to really like and then met another very eligible man.”
“The Law of Attraction processes have been so life-changing for me- and I wanted to share the rather magical story of how I met my husband: I’m an artist, and during a particularly powerful meditation, I saw a vivid image of a man. As soon as I came out of the meditation I drew the picture of him, as I’d seen it. I intuitively knew this man was my soul mate- although I had never seen him before. A few months later I was invited to a party. Although I didn’t initially want to go, my friend encouraged me and I went. As soon as I walked in, I instantly recognised the man from my drawing standing across the room- and he seemed to ‘recognise’ me too. We instantly reconnected and have been together ever since, now married for 6 years. It really does sound like one of those Hollywood movies, I know- and it feels like one!”
“He was an actor and I had his poster on my wall- and a huge thing for him- as a teenager. After using the Law of Attraction processes, specifically appreciating my relationships, I saw movement on my non-existent love life. Following a series of incredible synchronicities, before I knew it there ‘he’ was, across the table from me in one of those ‘name’ restaurants in London. It was like one of those fairy-tale movies. We ended up dating a few times and had a really good time together… Who would have thought my dream would come true all these years later?!”
That week I sold everything we owned on Craigslist and filed for divorce. I took the money I made from our belongings to pay for first and last month’s rent on a really tiny, super-shitty two-bedroom apartment. I had just enough left over for one more month of rent and a few groceries. That was all the money I had in the world: I didn’t even have a bank account. My sister convinced me to get on food stamps, just until I got on my feet, and though I cried when the case worker took my story, I knew I had no choice. I applied for every job I could find, but interviews were few and far between. When the second month came and my rent money was gone, I sold my wedding rings on Craigslist for a fraction of their value; enough for one more month’s rent. When the women came to pick up my rings, she looked around our little apartment at my twins running around in their diapers and said, “I don’t want to know. Please don’t tell me the story.” She didn’t want my “bad luck” giving her new wedding rings negative juju. 
I’ve been dating my boyfriend for almost a year now and we live together. In the beginning of October things were bad, he forced me to move out thinking it would help things, which surprisingly it did. I thought this would only make things worse, I was constantly worried he would cheat on me, go behind my back, and betray me; like he has before. We were still together, just not living together. A week later after we spent some time talking and working through things, I moved back in. Ever since then over the few weeks things have been great, he’s treated me amazing, however I still have a fear of, “what if he is treating me like this but is potentially going behind my back?” A few days ago he had a missed call from a number with a area code of where his ex lives, I do not know if it was her, a telemarketer, or just a random wrong number. But it is has worried me over the past few days. I also worry when I’m at work and he’s at home, what he’s doing. I try so hard to imagine us happy and trying to believe in everything he says to me is true and sincere. I just have major trust issues. I care for him an immense amount and would do anything for him, I love him very much. However, I do believe that I would be okay with out him.. eventually in time. I do not want this to happen, but you said you have to imagine yourself being able to let go of that person. He is for sure the person I want to spend the rest of my life with, and I never want to lose him. What I am confused about is, if I am using the Law of Attraction to attract him more into my life, what if he is using the Law of Attraction to attract a different person in his life, such as his ex, instead of me. Which situation with manifest? He is not the type of person to ever think about these, he doesn’t even know what the Law of Attraction is, but I believe he could subconsciously be doing this and not even knowing it. Again, I think way too in depth about things and sometimes just make it worse for myself.
I started with manifesting pennies in the Summer of 2006. Then I graduated to nickels, dimes, and quarters. I focused on quarters for several weeks. Then I progressed to dollars to $100 to $1000 to $10K to $50K. Overall it took less than a year to go from manifesting pennies to manifesting $50K. After that point I become more interested in non-monetary manifesting and had some especially fun times with manifesting in my social life — friends, mentors, and other yumminess. In fact, I honestly feel that manifesting money is a bit boring compared to all the other cool stuff you can manifest. It’s like playing a video game and obsessing over the score. That can be fun for a while, but eventually you want to focus on more interesting aspects of the game world.
If you think that once you have money, you will become stronger, you’re crazy. Absolutely deluded! More likely — if you actually did manifest money from that kind of vibe — you’d grow even weaker. This would be a bad outcome for you, even though it seems like what you want. You’d be a weak-minded, weak-hearted person with more money, and you’d still see the money as more powerful than you, even while it’s in your possession. You’d then become attached to it and afraid of losing it because you’d still mistakenly see it as a power source. It would become a source of security for you, a constantly vulnerable one. The more money you had, the more paranoid you’d become about losing it. This would really mess you up big time. So be very, very glad that you naturally attract less money when you think of money as a power source. If you invite money into your life from that crazy frame of giving away your power, then money will become your Master, and you will be forever its slave. Don’t even go there!
Thanks so much for your comment,and I am so glad you found the post helpful. Isn’t it amazing how we always have an option on how to view our circumstances? Whatever it happening right now is there to help you fine tune your money desires, and help you work on any limiting beliefs. Things will improve, you’ll pay off the debt and no harm done. That is what happened with me. The very fact you are reading about LOA to shore up your energy is a huge step in the right direction and I’m sure you are doing great!

This post is part of a series by Shelly Bullard — a primer on raising your vibration and attracting your soul mate. For the next five days, we’ll post one article offering the foundational elements you need to go deeper in the search for self love, and the love of your life. When you’re ready to take the next step, check out Shelly’s course: How To Attract A Partner Who’s Ready For Deep, Devoted Love.

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