“I was very focused on a particular person and wanting them to like me. Based on what I learnt at a Law of Attraction Centre workshop I decided to practice loving thoughts about what I liked about people rather than thinking about what they thought about me. I spent 15 minutes making a list of the Positive Aspects of a previous partner and the current person I liked. After this I realised that I had felt negative not because of how they did or didn’t feel about me but because I wasn’t thinking lovingly about them. And then guess what, they got in touch and the funny thing was when they did get in touch it was less important as I was already feeling good!”
Rina – Go back to the basics of using the Law of Attraction to attract a specific person. Right now, you’re focusing on what he isn’t doing. You’re thinking about him not contacting you which is creating more of him not contacting you. Change your thoughts to change the situation. Be okay with him not contacting you, but be open to receiving a message from him. See it as happening. Forget about the world around you and create the reality you want. Allow the world to transform to match your thoughts. Those are key elements for using the Law of Attraction for love for a specific person.
I come up from my basement and see my tent on the landing on top of the stairs. “I should set you up in the backyard and camp out. Oh. I don’t even have a sleeping bag.” Two days later a women’s sleeping bag comes up in my Amazon Vine queue, and two days later I have a sleeping bag. (As a Vine reviewer. I receive free product in exchange for my review.)

When you’re ready, use meditative technique of your choice to calm the thoughts in your mind – focus on your breathing or on a single object in front of you. If your thoughts wonder off, let them, don’t be disturbed about it, just notice that you were distracted (it’s normal) and gently bring back your attention to the object of meditation. When you sense that you’re fully relaxed and that your mind isn’t wondering anymore, you can go to the next stage.
Step 1 is important because it prepares your mind and body to receive whatever you’re asking for. Our brains don’t know the difference between reality and imagination. When you engage in full, sensory imagination, your brain fires up your body to move forward. Muscles, blood flow, heart, lungs and every part of your body gear up to take part in whatever you’re imagining.
I hope you found this post enlightening, and it instilled a sense of hope in you, a spark of possibility that the relationship you want, not just any relationship, can happen for you. Please let me know your thoughts in the comments. What part resonated with you the most? Did you have any insights into your own situation reading this? Do you have any tips to share about attracting love? Looking forward to reading your comments and having a chat!
As you start shifting beliefs around this area of your life, you may notice certain things in your experience. You are meeting more people with whom you have common interests. You find yourself having great conversations with people, the types of conversations you envision having with your partner. You may find yourself going on more dates frequently with people who seem like a better fit for you than people you were going out with previously.

“I was in a bar and the three people I spoke to (or rather came to speak to me) thought I was ten years younger than I am. There was a time when people guessed I was ten years older! It also happens more often in my day to day life, getting compliments and admiring looks. Unsurprisingly, I’d been writing this on my Universe List and Focusing process every day. Then last week I met someone who almost fitted my ideal partner- another match to the Focusing Process! I’ll keep you updated!”


Expect that the universe is more likely to give you things if you’re already grateful for what it has provided to you. Giving an asked-for birthday gift to someone and barely receiving a thank you, you’d likely avoid providing a second gift. On the other hand, you’d get excited about giving a repeat gift to someone who enthusiastically expressed their appreciation for your gift. Imagine the universe in the same way.

For one of a million reasons, we feel like we can’t be ourselves. We long to be. We just want to move through the world as we truly are, without the masks. This is especially true when it comes to relationships. If you asked someone to make a list of what he wanted in a partner, I imagine ‘loving me for who I am’ would near the top of anyone’s list, or at least anyone who wants a real, authentic relationship.
When you do find yourself meeting with someone, don’t pin all your hopes on this person being the ‘one.’ You really don’t even know him yet, and you have no idea if this person is really compatible with you, or is the type of person you would want to be with over the long-term. Sure, you can be excited, and look forward to it, but release any expectation around how things will play out. Work on getting yourself into a state of ‘surrender’ where you just accept what happens as it happens, knowing all the while, what you want is coming, even if you have no idea how that looks right now.
My life transformed in the space of a few months purely through visualising what I wanted and FEELING what it would be like to have it. I’m not saying I have it all, far from it and I still have days where I lose hope, but I would say the most important thing when you’re feeling down is to simply try and raise yourself to a slightly better feeling. Keep doing that, until you’re in a place to start imagining what you want… the rest is written in the stars! If you are struggling to find a happier place, a quick and effective way to do it is be grateful. Think of all you are grateful of and it will undoubtedly lift you up.
Yet I continued my LoA manifestation practice even in spite of all this. I could vividly imagine the way I’d feel once this burden of real estate sales had been removed from my shoulders. I vividly imagined myself relaxing in the warm sun, sipping a margarita poolside in Mexico. I felt how happy I would be to sleep till I awakened naturally, rather than waking every day to an alarm clock. I visualized making new friends, and being surrounded by a friendly, welcoming community.
It’s difficult to imagine that thoughts and feelings can have an effect on the world around us. Fortunately, advances in technology and science allow us to visibly and immediately experience the effects of our thoughts. Just like watching an apple fall through the air, there are experiments that demonstrate the immediate effects of thoughts and feelings.

You are welcome. You seem to already have that deeper knowing..now it is all about building that trust and working a bit with your mind to be more accepting of the beliefs and new reality you are looking to create. Everything that happens contains a lesson to strengthening our manifesting so whatever happened with that guy will be valuable in evaluating what is going on inside and moving forward with greater clarity.
Loved your kindle book! It’s given me hope and most importantly a sense of serenity which I haven’t had since my breakup I’m afraid. Moving on is never as easy as one thinks. People tell you to go out with friends, have fun etc…But how does one go out and “have fun” when all restaurants, bars, lounges, clubs or car radios play music and music is the last thing you even want to listen to when your heart is breaking in a million pieces. So that alone, prevents one from moving on peacefully. But your book…I don’t know, just gives one hope. It is easier (at least for me) to “let go” knowing that getting back with the love of my life is possible. Frankly, moving on with hope, regardless of the result, is so much healthier than without it. So for that alone thanks! Now my question :))… I haven’t see my ex for the past two months. He’s very very reluctant to speak to me, and the very limited email exchanges we have had since the breakup have been cold (on his end) at best, though he does reply everytime. I know he is hurt and dealing with it in his won male way I guess…We are thousands of miles away from each other and I want to manfiest spending christmas together. Is is advisable to manifest a certain date? Does that give it more power, or takes away from manifestation? I dont’ want to be obsessive about it, I want to be easy about it, but I must say that this Xmas was supposed to be special for us and I would love for that to be the case eventough it is around the corner. It just seems that manifesting an ex back is almost more difficult than manifesting a specific person you know but have never had a relationship with…Probably because of all the baggage and history. So anyway I just wanted to know if a specific date is ok? Thank you so much :))
The first thing to do when you feel that there is room for more love in your life is to fill your thoughts and actions with nothing but absolute love. By flooding your mind with feelings of positivity and love for yourself and those around you, your ability to love and be loved back can shine through to others. Here are some visualization exercises for love that you can consider too.
My life transformed in the space of a few months purely through visualising what I wanted and FEELING what it would be like to have it. I’m not saying I have it all, far from it and I still have days where I lose hope, but I would say the most important thing when you’re feeling down is to simply try and raise yourself to a slightly better feeling. Keep doing that, until you’re in a place to start imagining what you want… the rest is written in the stars! If you are struggling to find a happier place, a quick and effective way to do it is be grateful. Think of all you are grateful of and it will undoubtedly lift you up.
We can easily manifest money into our lives, or anything else for that matter, by expecting it to come to pass. Wishing and hoping doesn’t work. The Law of Attraction is founded on an expectation of a specific outcome. It revolves around the potential positive or negative energy that a given thought takes in your mind. When you expect the worst to happen, it often happens. When you expect the opposite, that often occurs as well.
Just wanted to make a comment about all of this. It really will work for everyone but it has to be something that is in your gut you know you will get with no doubts. I have received everything I want or don’t want because I new it in my gut. it was all unintentional before any of this kind of talk of the law of attraction came about. I think back on my life and all my intentions have manifested just the way I imagined they would. I only wished I had focused on all positive and threw out the negative. So the things you don’t want you have to change the way you feel about it and the way you think about it. I am looking into hypnosis to remove the things that are negative. Install the things I want into my subconscious. This is idea I have heard about and understand how it can help people who have a problem understanding and changing their thought process. You have to really, really want it and believe you will have it and feel good about and feel good about life and appreciate all that you have. Get excited!!!! I love the quotes in “The Secret”” take the first steps you don’t have to see the whole staircase just take the first step” mlking
Hi Onique – You need to look over your thoughts, beliefs, emotions from the past to see why you created it in the past. You need to look at your current thoughts, beliefs and emotions to see why you are creating it now. There’s probably at least one thought/belief that has been repeated for 10 years and is still there. Changing your thoughts/beliefs allows your life to change.
Sorry for the late reply and thank for your answer 🙂 Actually what I was mostly aiming at was of course manifesting signs of my loved one before Christmas but having the goal of spending the holidays with him. I haven’t seen him in so long, he is quite far away and I have no idea how that will manifest itself but I am leaving it up to the universe to make it happen because Christmas used to have a very special meaning to us. Also during our book club and going over your book “how to manifest a specific person” one of the readers wanted to know if it was alright for her to chant (she is an assiduous buddhist) her buddhist mantra while using LOA. She wanted to know if it was compatible eventhough it is the same philosophy, she was afraid that perhaps practising two different methods might delay her manifestations in any way…I do not know if this is something you can help her with! Loving our little book club which is growing too!!!!
I was in a ten year relationship with my child’s father, but he was a cheater. Eventually I started seeing other people years down the line, mind you our relationship was up and down. Long story short I became pregnant with another’s man baby, which was hurtful to the both of us. I still felt a sense of this happening wasn’t all my fault I feel like he played a role as well. I used to beg him to get our relationship back on track for about three years so finally I gave up because of continuous cheating. Well finally last year we I thought we were getting somewhere and boom came to find out the cheating never stopped, well I left again to begin a new relationship which didn’t work out either plus here’s another baby on the way. Finally the guy that I was with for ten years we started seeing each other again during my pregnancy, but the catch is he wants me to give up baby for adoption. We were broken up for seven months and really I feel my child isn’t his business. Nonetheless, for some odd reason I still love and want to be with him, but if he can’t accept the children, then I have to depart from him. How do me and the children attract him for a positive family oriented relationship?
Then something strange happened. Someone at work who I thought was a really good person confided in me about a problem he had – and he had done exactly what my partner had done and was suffering because of it. It was uncanny how similar it was to my situation, but here I was hearing the ‘other side’. At first it was difficult because I had my own judgement, but as I listened to him, I started to understand what my partner was going through – something I had never thought of before. For all this time I had seen him as a really horrible person out to get me, but I felt myself soften as I heard my colleague’s story. I started to see it from his point of view, which was so similar to my ex partner’s. Like a miracle, new insights and this relaxed sense of forgiveness washed over me. This was the answer I had asked for. I can honestly say I have let go of this situation that had been taking over my life and I feel great. This Universe List process is powerful!”
That week I sold everything we owned on Craigslist and filed for divorce. I took the money I made from our belongings to pay for first and last month’s rent on a really tiny, super-shitty two-bedroom apartment. I had just enough left over for one more month of rent and a few groceries. That was all the money I had in the world: I didn’t even have a bank account. My sister convinced me to get on food stamps, just until I got on my feet, and though I cried when the case worker took my story, I knew I had no choice. I applied for every job I could find, but interviews were few and far between. When the second month came and my rent money was gone, I sold my wedding rings on Craigslist for a fraction of their value; enough for one more month’s rent. When the women came to pick up my rings, she looked around our little apartment at my twins running around in their diapers and said, “I don’t want to know. Please don’t tell me the story.” She didn’t want my “bad luck” giving her new wedding rings negative juju. 
Well what you are talking about, I experience constantly but it is not THAT LAW OF ATTRACTION we want to experience. No later than yesterday I experienced this stuff. I’ve been very busy lately but for some days already, I set my goal on: being in LA for Christmas (I live in Europe). Yesterday afternoon, I run errands and I discover a store full of Christmas decorations. I walk in: it’s full or American products and the music plays the usual American songs I use to hear in LA stores. I come home. Since I moved recently my TV was connected to cable only 2 days ago. I turn on TV. Watever channel I went on, everything was about LA from The Real housewife’s of Beverly Hills, to the Kardashians,to other european programs. I should have counted how many times I saw the word Hollywood pop in front of my eyes. It was non stop until I went to bed.
Here is my LOA success story from a few years ago. A few years before this LOA success I had unwittingly used LOA along with Robert Kiyosaki’s book to go from nothing to owning about 5 properties in a year and half. I borrowed £2500 on a credit card to start. Everything lead off that. About 3 years into my property venture, I was stuck. I had enough passive income from them to get by but one of them was in need urgent need of renovation or conversion to flats and I didn’t have the money for either and renovating would be a waste as there was much more profit in converting to flats . My sister showed me The Secret. I reluctantly watched it and then found it REAALLY exciting. I tried it as I had nothing else to try.

Add things like, thе nice sunny day, thе light traffic whilе traveling tо work, thе fact уоu gоt nо parking tickets today. Juѕt find аnуthing аnd еvеrуthing уоu саn tо feel good аnd focus оn thе littlе tiny things thаt аrе working in уоur life. Onсе уоu ѕее уоur life in a littlе mоrе positive aspect, уоu саn begin tо lооk fоr thе little, tiny things thаt аrе demonstrating tо уоur thаt уоu аrе indееd manifesting abundance intо уоur life. Littlе bу little, thоѕе synchronicities will bесоmе bigger аnd bigger ones. Thаt'ѕ whеn уоu ѕее thе rеаllу big stuff, thе rеаl sums оf money manifest intо уоur life.
At this stage, the principle of ‘Divine and Perfect Timing’ will put you and your Soulmate together at the right place and at the right time for you to meet. Your job from this point forward is to continue to hold the intention of the ‘what’, while you let God or the Universe figure out the ‘when’ or the ‘how’. Why? Because we cannot control the time and place when this will happen, but we certainly can control our ability to feel good, be optimistic, open to love and continue to do the necessary inner work that will magnetize our soulmate to us.
I really enjoy reading your posts and learning about opening up to deep and fulfilling love. After heart shattering loss over the course of the last two years I am now in the process of putting myself back together again. It’s still pretty messy but I really want to learn to love myself and be the best version of myself, for me and for my soulmate who I know is out there waiting for me to be ready for forever.
“Thank you for all of your help this year. Your work is extraordinary. I had been single for many years- the occasional date but nothing serious. In July I met a man and we have been enjoying life together ever since. I acknowledge myself for making my inner changes- but credit is seriously due to your workshops and groups; and the space they gave me to discover myself again.”
This post is part of a series by Shelly Bullard — a primer on raising your vibration and attracting your soul mate. For the next five days, we’ll post one article offering the foundational elements you need to go deeper in the search for self love, and the love of your life. When you’re ready to take the next step, check out Shelly’s course: How To Attract A Partner Who’s Ready For Deep, Devoted Love.

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