Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.

In stopping all other thoughts you also stop resistance. Resistance is the negative emotion you feel when you think about what you want, but in a way that feels bad. It is when you give more attention to what you don’t have, and feel bad, rather than giving attention to what you want, in a way that feels good to you. In both cases you are thinking about what you wish to manifest, however one is focused in a way that allows it manifest, and the other is focused on the lack of what you want, and that keeps it from coming.
The law of attraction has proven itself to me on many occasions. I really do believe, it is hard to say in words exactly as it’s more of a feeling. I will try to explain. I want something to happen, I put the desire out there then in my minds eye actually visualise it happening – totally. Even put images on a vision board, dream pictures in my mind and get excited knowing it’s coming and is on its way to me. This is when the magic happens. I get this urge for action, a complete gut feeling to do something and an inner drive over takes me. Then when I have completed the task in hand, only afterwards, have I realise the law of attraction delivers. I hope this makes sense, I have received things like getting the job I wanted in the past, building the house I used to draw out in my mind, starting a successful business, receiving unexpected money etc.
Was the thought that you could attract money one of the main things that drew you to the Law of Attraction? If so, you’re not alone. Almost everyone wants to find out how to attract more money using Law of Attraction techniques. However, maybe you’ve since discovered that techniques to attract money are more confusing than you expected. Alternatively, perhaps you think you’ve been doing all the right things but you still haven’t quite figured out how to use the Law of Attraction to get money.
Got a lot out of this. We do most of this! Nice to read it form somebody else. We are sending heaps of positive vibes out into the universe, dreaming big, truly believing in ourselves (down to the core) and the best bit…we get a lot back form the universe! They may be small things, but we always notice it and they always lead to another amazing opportunity. Thank YOU. Emma + Carla
“I was looking for a way to forgive an ex-partner of mine, and had been trying for over a year. I heard your suggestion of just handing it all over to the Universe and to Life – and asking to see the situation from another perspective, but it seemed far too simplistic to work. However I was exhausted with the way I had been seeing it, as I felt like such a victim and had a lot of resentment. Slightly sceptical of exactly how I would see it from another perspective (I had read many self-help books and seen two counsellors previously and nothing was helping), I finally agreed to give it a go. I just busied myself with “my part”; as you said – which was to meditate and to appreciate my life.
The analogy is simple: if you’re carrying a passenger in your car, there won’t be room for your Soulmate to sit in it!  So, if you’re still in love with this person, but you know that they are not your soul mate and/or there is no possibility of a true, loving, committed relationship with them, it’s time to let them go.   This does not mean you have to stop loving them. It simply means that you have to find a new space in your heart for them, a special chamber where you will put all the people whom you have loved in the past.
So, what changes can you make in your life right now that would make you feel better about your financial situation? Is your lack of a savings account gnawing at you? What could you do to start padding it a bit more? Are you using your credit cards a bit too liberally, when you should really be using cash? Do you have any expenses now that you can eliminate or reduce? Is it high time for a budget? Could you start cooking at home more rather than eating out five nights a week? 

Don't wait for the relationship to manifest; you must first become the person who already has these qualities. This includes preparing your space for the partner of your dreams: Clean out your closet, empty a draw or replace that worn-out wallpaper. Think of all the ways in which you can prepare yourself and your life to be in perfect alignment with your perfect mate.


The Law of Attraction is an infinite spiritual technology that is available to everyone. It can be used by any person willing to learn about its characteristics and then follow a particular set of guidelines until the end result is accomplished. This is possible because the Law of Attraction is a reliable force that is set in motion through the power of human thoughts. We refer to this spiritual technology as a law because it is repeatable like the law of gravity, which is repeatable under specific conditions. According to the dictionary, a law is a statement or a fact in which a natural or scientific phenomenon always occurs if certain conditions are present. The Law of Attraction, or Universal Law, is a spiritual certainty because it can be demonstrated over and over as long as certain mental and emotional conditions are met. – Eddie Coronado, “Manifest Your Millions: A Lottery Winner Shares his Law of Attraction Secrets.”

2) I was told by some people who also follow the LOA methods that manifesting someone specific was not advisable because it was going against the wishes of that said person if that’s not what they wanted anymore. He’s made it very clear that it is not what he wants at all. Am I wrong for wanting the love of my life back and just be given a genuine chance to see if things could work again?

Researchers at Harvard Medical School have discovered meditation literally alters the structure of the brain, thickening the regions associated with attention and sensory processing. Other research into meditation and biofeedback techniques has demonstrated increases in the subjects’ ability to remain focused on specific tasks, reductions in reaction time, and improvements in psychomotor response.


It is powerful tool, if your thoughts. It is really tricky sometimes. Old habits usually steps in and refuse to step aside. I started with the secret. My mother gave it to me and said: i bought this book but i think you need it better. I was at a negative place in my life at that moment. After reading that bought all the other books too watch the film, but i felt like something was missing. I asked for help to understand better. The Universe answered and when i was at the bookstore the book Ask and its given by Esther and Jerry Hicks caught my attention. I wanted more information since it clearly wasn’t working for me. I stubbled over Kevin Traudeau and i listened to all of the cds. At first i helt so happy but then i descovered that it was a scam. I felt betrayed( i later understand that a lot of what he talked about is true). Diving deeper in to the teaching of Abraham. Joining groups on Facebook. Reading about Laws of Attraction everywhere i could find it. Using affirmations, meditation, writing down 5-10 things everyday that i am grateful for, thanking the Universe for all little things everyday, feeling powerful, loving myself, clearing out all bad thinking about money, reprogramming thoughts… i done it all. I did manage to manifest a computer and a neighbor that i disliked moved away and little things…but the things i really really want is more difficult to attract. So i will keep on doing what i do because i know Everything will work out for me, because i have the best team of Universal forces at my back.
If you’re serious about growing yourself into becoming the kind of person that you want to attract, then I recommend that you cultivate a network of therapists, counselors, coaches, healing professionals, trusted friends and mentors whom you can count on for any variety of challenge that will arise.  Especially when the big stuff starts coming up, and it will!
Deal-breaker items could include: if the person has some form of alcohol or substance addiction or abuse, if they are married or in another relationship, if they are physically or verbally abusive, and even if they smoke.  For some people, smoking is not a big deal, but for me, I just can’t stand kissing someone after they’ve had a smoke, so I decided to include it in my deal-breaker list.  What are your deal- breakers? All you need is three.
One reason she was bad at this game was that she was tuning out the possible existence of coins everywhere she walked. She just didn’t think there could be that many coins hiding in plain sight. By demonstrating to her that the coins were indeed there and that she was simply failing to notice them, I helped shift her beliefs. She stopped thinking of the game as something outside her control (relying on luck or chance), and she began thinking of what she could control (her open-mindedness and attentiveness).
But it’s only when you are okay with not being with them, that you open the path for the Law of Attraction to attract your specific person to you. Until you’re okay with not being with him/her, a part of you is resisting and making it impossible for you to have what you want. This means, according to the Law of Attraction, that until you’re okay with possibly losing him/her, it will be difficult for you to have the relationship you want with him/her. You have to be okay with not having him/her.
“I am enjoying a wonderful relationship with a man who may quite possibly be ‘the one’ – and that’s after being single for 13 years. Certainly a big factor was due to regular use of your techniques and your romantic love workshop. I got myself into a position of not needing anyone yet at the same time anticipating the excitement of love – which I learnt was key – and this was accomplished through your teachings. I got on with my life and spent time on my interests and my career and with friends, whilst using your ideas to increase my expectation of love. Yes, there were some times of feeling lonely or doubtful, but I kept on going, supported by the success stories and others at your group, until I met him a through a ‘random’ invite and it’s been lovely ever since.”

We already know that the Law of Attraction can be used effectively… and the positive impact that embracing the law and replacing all negative emotions with positive mind-affirmations can have on what you see in your life. However, there are several common traps that people can fall into when they are trying to apply the rules of attraction to their love lives.
2) The Second List: Deal Breakers. It’s now time get clear about what I call the ‘Deal Breakers’.  These are the ‘red lights’ that you want to watch out for when you start meeting people.  This is a smaller list where you identify at least three qualities that if this person were to exhibit, you would not engage in a relationship with them. In other words, the deal would be off.
When you get into these feelings now, you will make the very helpful realization money is not the end all be all to your happiness—sure, it gives us more options and more freedom, and it surely can reduce stress.  But as the ultimate key to happiness, no way. Nothing outside of us, including money, can ever make us truly happy.  When I went from that dire money situation to being flush with cash, my stress alleviated considerably, and I did feel a hell of a lot better. But, if I had to assess its impact on my level of true happiness, it really didn’t do much for that.
But Matt and I became quick friends through the Mastermind group and every six months or so we’d connect by email or at an event. As Matt later explained, “We always wanted to work together on some project, but there was just never a good fit.” After all, he was busy traveling the world and I was engrossed in building my Turbulence Training business.
“I was dropped off around the corner from my home in London by a friend. Suddenly, a smartly dressed man- a hotel concierge- greeted me and reached to grab my bags. I explained I wasn’t going to the hotel- but what a sign of abundance! It reminded me of a few years ago when a limousine actually stopped, the driver got out, opened the door and said to me “Your car, Sir?”
Living “as if” can be a powerful way to help yourself to manifest love. What this means is that you should try to live every day not as though you’re looking for love but as though you’ve already found it! Embrace self-love and dress as you would if you were spending time with your partner. Try to make space for them in your home. See yourself as a person with a loving soulmate and a bright future, and make plans accordingly.

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