Shelly Bullard, MFT is a Marriage and Family Therapist, Love Coach and Spiritual Teacher. She's the author of the eBook: How to Become the Most Attractive Version of Yourself which she offers for FREE (click here to receive your free copy). She's also the instructor of the popular mbg courses: How To Become The Most Attractive Version of Yourself & How to Attract a Partner Who's Ready for Deep, Devoted Love. Shelly believes that when you access the experience of Love within yourself, your relationships become deeply fulfilling and you become the person you’re meant to be. She was named the “Love Guru” as one of the 100 Women to Watch in Wellness by mindbodygreen, and her deepest passion is living and practicing love and relationships as a spiritual path. To learn more about how she can help you create more love in your life, visit her at: shellybullard.com.

In your soul evolution you are here to serve and provide vibrations of your soul to increase vibrations of unconditional love connection that brings peace in each other’s energy exchange to accomplish your destiny and mission in a mutual agreement. You were united together for a divine purpose and not sexual desires or finding love, for you should be past that and have found love for yourself inside and not outside. it is about the soul union and the higher heart of service to the world in love and light. Understand that you are twin flames and have the vibration of Divine Love that needs to be spread out to others and nothing else matters other than setting up the Divine Template of Unconditional Love. Your soul vibrations resonate as One in order to do accomplish your mission for you have opened up higher heart and self to serve. As TF you have unique gifts when you are together as a unit with your soul vibrations allowing Divine power to flow thru you easily. You were chosen because you both are evolved enough to serve the world and change society and this 3D world from the calling of your higher heart.

Got a lot out of this. We do most of this! Nice to read it form somebody else. We are sending heaps of positive vibes out into the universe, dreaming big, truly believing in ourselves (down to the core) and the best bit…we get a lot back form the universe! They may be small things, but we always notice it and they always lead to another amazing opportunity. Thank YOU. Emma + Carla
It’s important to understand that mindfulness isn’t about changing anything or trying to understand it. This is because the analytical and judgement aspects — our automatic reactions — are unhealthy and actually perpetuate the problem. It reinforces the connection in our brain between the action and the negative feeling. To release that connection, approach it without judgement. Let it be.
I don’t have any rituals per se, but there are certain things I do that help me feel more abundant. When I am enjoying something I paid for, whether a tasty meal, a massage or something else that gives me pleasure in some way, I really try to tune into the feeling of appreciation I have for it, and the sense of contentment I feel in that moment. I also try to develop a sense of appreciation for having money to pay bills..rather than feel like I am putting my money towards something I don’t want to put it towards, I express appreciation that I have the money to pay the bill. Awhile back, I went through really bad times financially, and the inability to pay my bills created a lot of shame and embarrassment,and I am happy not to be experiencing that anymore.
“This last year has been the best year of my life in terms of relationships. I have dated several people who are the kind of types that I never used to even meet (or if I did, they were not attracted to me). Part of me is now thinking ‘where is my serious, soul mate relationship?’ which prompted a question I was going to e-mail to Michael but soon turned into a list of appreciation. Because as I think about this year and how totally different it has been to all the other years – which I believe is totally down to ‘doing the processes’- I have absolutely nothing to complain about. Plus, I’m figuring out what I want. I’m in a great place in my life. As I read in one of the other success stories last week- all that matters is the now. And life is very, very good now. I’m focused on this moment. I know it’s obvious and we’ve read it over and over- but all we have is the now. So why not accept it and enjoy it, now?!”
Hi Elizabeth~ I have read your book a few times and have one thing that I am confused by. I was in a relationship with someone a few months back, but life circumstances got in the way a bit. These life circumstances have changed now and I would like him back in my life. I think that there is much potential here, but do not feel that I know him well enough to know that he is “the one”. Should I focus my energy on manifesting him specifically? Or should I not focus on manifesting him since I am not 100% sure he is the right guy and just focus on manifesting a life partner? And we have not talked in a while, so I assume I should NOT contact him and just focus on myself and on the manifestation? Please advise. Thanks!!!

Abundance Checks. Every month, take a blank check and fill in your name, the amount, and all the other details. Sign it “The Universe,” “God,” “Source,” or any cosmic entity you prefer. Even “Your Fairy Godmother” works. Look at the check every day when you wake up and when you go to bed. Feel that you already have that money now. Imagine spending it. Really immerse yourself in how wonderful it is. Know that the money is already yours.
“Something had come up with my boyfriend- one of my fears, actually. When this had happened in the past I had never been able to deal with it and the relationship was immediately over. I forced myself to do one of the techniques I learnt about in your workshop- looking for the good in the situation. I didn’t feel good when I was writing this list for at least ten minutes, I felt numb- but I had nothing to lose so continued. After a while I felt myself ‘shift’; more relaxed, I even found myself laugh. Then a new idea came into my mind; a new way of looking at the situation. My boyfriend texted me a suggestion of how we could move on- and it was the exact same idea that had appeared in my mind! From a ‘no going back’ situation, in about half an hour, your technique shifted my worldview and that’s no exaggeration! Thank you for the peace you provide.”
I own this and Ask and It Is Given. I have to say these books have changed my life and am already rereading them. I like the kindle versions because I can add bookmarks, which are nearly every page. I always thought I had a good attitude in life but felt that I was not breaking past a certain point. These books helped me realize that I was not allowing the things I wanted to manifest. As soon as I changed this pattern of thought, it was like flipping the light switch on. This book is not only about money, I feel the title is a marketing ploy, the middle section is about health and the end is about career. I just got through cancer and was told by some friends that I had somehow brought it on myself. I've never felt good about believing that people can invite illness, tragedy, even death. After reading sections of this book, I can see the point of view, I'm not totally convinced but I'm more open to understanding. In general, these books do offer a perspective that is wise and grounded in common sense. That's why I like them. They're not asking you to believe or have faith in things that quite honestly don't make sense. All I know is I feel good and great things are happening in my life.
As I’ve mentioned a few times before, I learned some time back that no one was responsible for my happiness but me. When I look at the big scheme of things, I’ve got it great. I may not have much but everything I have I own. I’ve struggled from time to time with money issues too since coming online not sure if I could make my bills but I always did. So I know that it’s not the end of the world if I’m late with a payment, although I rarely am. I’m obsessed with everything being on time. LOL!!!
When you understand the law of attraction works by delivering you experiences that you are a match to now energetically, you come to realize the importance of feeling good now, and not putting all your focus on the undesirable bits of "what is." This doesn't mean pretending to be okay with things you don't like, but actually adopting a different perspective, and actually feeling better.
Your thoughts and actions create a result. Everything you think, say, and do will have an effect. Every action generates a force of energy that returns to it in kind and that energy continues to flow back and forth. If you don’t have a clear understanding that this is how things are, then the Law of Attraction makes your reality seem like the world is bleak because you don’t understand how you are attracting the very thing you wish to get away from. You just do your best to keep thinking happy thoughts in the hopes that something good will eventually occur.
One place where Abe and I agree is that there is a dual nature to everything. Everything. Abraham says, "In everything there is that which is wanted and that which is unwanted." So when you manifest something that you want, it is necessarily going to bring with it something that you do not want. Think about that for a moment. Abraham calls this unwanted aspect "a whole new platform from which to desire." I call it inviting unknown conse ...more

Thank you for that piece of advice-should I remain in a constant state of “as if” with no attentiin on what is? Or should I focus in what I want, relax, and accept what is? Normally I focus in meditation on my intentions, relax, and allow my manifestations to occur—but, normally I am also not as Concerned about what I want to manifest. Should I be doing it differently?
The process of attraction happens at the level of what we feel and believe, and when you don’t set standards and boundaries, this shows you don’t feel very good about yourself, and that you have a lot of crappy beliefs that essentially amount to not feeling good enough, and not being deserving of the best life has to offer. These types of beliefs can mess with various aspects of our life, but can be particularly problematic in the love department. And guess what types of people and situations we attract when we feel this way? Shitty, shitty, shitty ones.
Here were my rules: In order for it to count, the money had to be from an unexpected source. If I was already anticipating the money that showed up, it wouldn’t count, even if I’d temporarily forgotten about it. Also, I didn’t want it to be associated with work. (Meaning, an out of the blue speaking gig for $1k wouldn’t count.) Anything that I had to work for wouldn’t be included in this tally.
Just like the good old tracks that the sled follows down the mountain. And so we tell the same old story, over and over, about why we have our childhood wounds, and about how bad our previous relationship was, how we got dumped, how we’re not being loved the way we want to be, how unequal this relationship is, how we have these abandonment issues, how they cheated on us, how we’re too old to find love, too fat, too skinny, too white, too black, too gay, too straight, too poor, too rich, too unstable, too unreliable, afraid of commitment, too demanding… Blah, blah, blah. PLEASE STOP! The more you tell the same old story, the more you’re perpetuating it in your experience and the more you’re blocking love from coming into your life. Why?  Because you keep focusing on it.
“I wasn’t able to get myself into a place to find love until I attended your workshop; and then I realised I had been trying too hard – but recently I met someone and although it’s new, it feels different to any relationship I’ve experienced before. I can totally put it down to the moment I stopped searching and needing someone; I started fully participating in my life instead of longing for it to be better. I had fun with the Focusing Process and I really ‘got’ Meditation and deep breathing, finally. It wasn’t instant – but trying out the different techniques and finding a way that worked for me was how it happened. I’ve known about the Law of Attraction for about two years and there were times when I wasn’t sure if it was working or if I was doing something wrong – but now I know that although it can take some time, it absolutely works. Thank you for the support when I needed it most.”
The Law of Attraction for Love for a specific person works by focusing on yourself. It isn’t about the specific person you’re in love with. I know he’s all you can think about right now, but if you want to use the Law of Attraction you have to focus on you. Do the things that make you happy. Raise your vibration. Focus on doing what makes you feel good.
Post it everywhere! You can post on message boards and newsgroups (there are thousands). You can send an e-mail to your own e-mail list. Post it to any newsgroup, forum or comments section that you feel people who see it would be interested benefiting from this method as well. Use blogs, social networking, pintrest, and online classifieds. You may need to post it close to 200 times to get the results you desire, but there are over 100,000 places you can post this. And remember, the more you post, the more you will earn!
We (YouAreCreators) created this channel to share one of the greatest secrets of the universe, and the secret is, we literally create our reality! (Quantum Physics now proves this) We are all governed by a set of Universal Laws, and these laws were created by GOD, to aid us in creating the life we desire. One of these laws is known as the "Law Of Attraction", or the law of "Reaping and Sowing". This law simply states, whatever you give out in Thought, Word, Feeling, and Action is returned to us. Whether the return is negative, or positive, failure or success, is all up to what you give out. Many authors and celebrities such as, Wayne Dyer, Oprah Winfrey, Will Smith, Jim Carrey, Steve Harvey, Rhonda Byrne, and many others have testified to this amazing Law Of Attraction. Its time you learn this wonderful secret...
“I treated my friends who couldn’t afford to go out a few times, to about 4 movies and one musical in the last month or so. Two days ago, I suddenly received 75 pounds paid in by the bank saying “thank you for switching to HSBC” on the statement. I was so surprised because it was unexpected. I looked through the welcome package given to me three months ago when I opened an account with them, but nothing was said about money rewards. I calculated that the money I had spent on my friends was exactly what the bank had paid me. More accurately, the Universe paid me! One thing I must say, the moment I went to your workshop in November I knew I could change my core vibration and I did, thank you! And since I have changed it, it’s very easy to maintain. Maybe it’s just about appreciating what is happening.”
It is not uncommon for those who have been enlightened by the Law Of Attraction to have accumulated great sums of wealth unknowingly. This is because being ‘wealthy’ should not be something which is focused on cash alone. It is possible to achieve great ‘wealth’ in many areas of a person’s life. After all, money is simply pieces of paper. And all of the paper in the world is not going to guarantee a person life-long happiness.

Listening to the law of attraction meditation in the past two weeks is the best thing I have done in years. The concept sits so tight in my head now that I don’t know why the rest of the world doesn’t live by it. Since I started listening to this mp3, wonderful things have happened. I got a Facebook message from a great guy I wasn’t expecting to; our mutual friend told him about me. We’re dating now and so far, so good. I’m happier and confident, have this inner feeling that all is well with me; I found the most perfect apartment for a great price and just signed the lease. My best friend won a three-day cruise vacation and she’s taking me as a plus one. I just have to pay for the flight. Beautiful things are happening so fast and I’m just shocked, thank you!
After watching the world’s greatest magician, David Copperfield, perform on television in Malaysia, Kabir found his calling to be a magician at 6 years old. Growing up, his passion grew and he could no longer keep it as a hobby. A copy of The Success Principles found its way to his hands and he was clear more than ever that he wanted to become the Malaysian David Copperfield.
Pеrhарѕ оnе wау оf learning hоw tо uѕе thе law оf attraction tо manifest money iѕ lооking аt hоw уоu dоn't manifest money whеn working with thiѕ universal law. Fоr example, уоu саnnоt uѕе thе law оf attraction in thiѕ wау tо manifest anything, money included. Yоu саnnоt say, 'I wаnt mоrе money bесаuѕе I'm poor, I'm lacking in money аnd thаt iѕ whаt I wаnt tо соmе mу way.'
Think of all the awesome things you may have manifested already, things that came to you out of nowhere, in ways you could not have anticipated, and realize that can happen with money as well, if we are willing to make some space for that trust. You have no idea what inspirations will come to you, what solutions will present themselves, what people you will meet and what opportunities will arise.
“In the vibration of appreciation all things come to you. You don't have to make anything happen. From what you are living, amplify the things you appreciate so that it sit he dominate vibration you are offering and then only those things that are a vibrational match to that can come to you. Then sit back and know, "You ain't seen nothing yet!!!” — 18 likes
I had a choice – to do the easy option, hide from my fear of the unknown and stay in the situation where I would be avoiding what I really wanted, or make a change and take a risk to achieve what I wanted! I sat down and mapped out exactly what I wanted. I looked at a map of the world and looked at where made my heart happy at the thought of living there. Turns out it was Australia! The other side of the world. The rest of my list included: close friends, a fabulous apartment in the city, a good job, money, excitement and adventure, city life, warmth, sunshine, travel and a wonderful boyfriend.
1) Continue to send out a Soul Call and hold your intention to welcome your Soulmate into your heart.  Connect with your Soulmate at the inner level by visualizing and feeling him/her as if he or she is already in your life.  You can do this by buying them a card, or setting a place for them at your dinner table.  You can also buy a soulmate ring, as a symbol of you holding a special place in your heart for your One.  You may also want to listen to my ‘Soul Call’ guided meditation, especially when you’re feeling disconnected or negative about your love life.
Thanks so much for sharing your story. I felt the same way when I first heard about LOA but then I looked at my life and could clearly see how it had negatively affected my life automatically (I thought I was broke, I acted like I was broke, and I was broke). So I figured I had nothing to lose! 4 years later it’s TOTALLY transformed my life and I’ve manifested 2 vision boards and a brand new life. IT WORKS!

So glad you enjoyed the article. You are certainly not along in having trouble with money manifesting. Lots of deep programming to work through and it actually goes a lot deeper than just money stuff. The most important thing to remember is by focusing your energy on the things you want the money for…travel, certain experiences, whatever, and if money is part of the equation of getting it, it will come in. And do whatever you can to feel abundant now, no matter how small the thing is…all you need is a bit more positive energy to start allowing in a different experience.
Your English could easily pass for an English speaker. I also love writing and started to blog, but realized I didn’t have a theme that would produce thoughts to the world. It’s fine, as being on the computer is already quite time consuming. Or in the lingua of the above topic, I guess it’s not my all consuming wish :) In any case, I felt as you did – that all that attraction stuff does lead to hard work, and even then, no guarantees. I don’t care for any system that has built into it a “failure” clause, because you didn’t do this or that. Being positive, having dreams, working hard,all good stuff, but again, life isn’t ours always to control.
Meditation can trigger heightened Alpha and Theta activity in the brain; states of mind often associated with creativity. Some forms of meditation also promote synchronization of the left and right hemispheres of the brain, another factor that has been identified in electroencephalograph (EEG) readings during moments of inspiration and during participation in creative activities. In a study conducted with 362 students in Taiwan to determine the effects of meditation on creativity, attention, IQ, and anxiety, the greatest improvement was observed in creativity.
Thank you so much for explaining the term soulmate, i felt i had met my true one, but because of past life experiences, we drifted apart, i still feel he is the one, so i will start my manifestation, as you have explained. I did meet with him in passing, a week ago, and he acted so awkward towards me, a lot of things have happened in the last 18 months, but i feel we are going to reconnect, i also feel our time apart was needed, as we were not in a healthy place, i wasn’t personally because of the loss of so many close family members. But i now feel on the right path, so thank you again for explaining things in great detail.
You are welcome. You seem to already have that deeper knowing..now it is all about building that trust and working a bit with your mind to be more accepting of the beliefs and new reality you are looking to create. Everything that happens contains a lesson to strengthening our manifesting so whatever happened with that guy will be valuable in evaluating what is going on inside and moving forward with greater clarity.
Holy Smokes! I freaking love this article you’ve shared Gabriel (and everything else on your site might I add!). That last sentence you shared about blessing my beloved and I and knowing that we are already deeply connected on a soul level… Feel it. I believe that stumbling onto this blog of yours is an indication of my commitment to grow and call my beloved man in. Something inside me felt called to have a google around tonight and I got you. Amongst other books and resources I have been working through to grow in the last year and a half, I am deeply resonating with everything I’ve seen on your site and I’ve had a good little look around! I would love to connect. Possibly for some one-on-one coaching and would even love to potentially have you on my podcast and interview you there so you can share all of your wisdom on matters of the heart.
Hi JG – I’m glad you’re enjoying my book on attracting a specific person! Detachment will come with time. Don’t worry so much about whether you’re doing things right. The Law of Attraction isn’t about perfection. Also, as I discuss in the book, focus on doing things that make you happy. It’ll be far more effective than trying to cover the doubts up with affirmations.
Another thing about feelings—get yourself out of situations that don’t feel like what you want. You don’t have to compromise or settle. You don’t have to experience a bunch of stuff that feels badly to also experience that which feels good. As you shore up your good energy, and stick to your standards and boundaries, these types of situations will naturally decrease, and at some point, move out of your experience completely.

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I do not believe so at all as I see many parallels between traditional religious views and the Law of Attraction. My personal view is that God creates through us…and it is our connection to God (or the universe/spirit guides/angels/etc) that allows creation to flow easily and pleasantly. In my opinion, our connection is evidence through our feelings, and the better we feel, the more connected we are.
A soulmate is someone who has locks that fit our keys, and keys to fit our locks. When we feel safe enough to open the locks, our truest selves step out and we can be completely and honestly who we are; we can be loved for who we are and not for who we’re pretending to be. Each unveils the best part of the other. No matter what else goes wrong around us, with that one person we’re safe in our own paradise. Our soulmate is someone who shares our deepest longings, our sense of direction. When we’re two balloons, and together our direction is up, chances are we’ve found the right person. Our soulmate is the one who makes life come to life.”
Dear Elisabeth…I am in relationship with my boyfriend almost 8 years..We were very in love. But during these years he did to me something I couldn´t forgive him for many years..I were very much angry with him all these years..but I was also still in love. I think I was so angry that I was very often pushing him out of me without even noticing that. Yesterday he told me he does not know if he wants to be with me anymore. Because in last two years he was feeling very alone, told me I was not listeting. He was right. I have forgiven him already. But I did not notice I was behaving this way all these years. I am very sorry for that. Because I forgived and I love him all the time. I want him back. But he is not sure any more he loves me. He likes me very much. But he told me I destroyed the love in him. He does not leave in this moment. He told me he needs time. I told him I want to repair everything, I want to change. I do not want anymore to behave in this way. I did a big mistake and I am sure I can change. How to make him change his mind? How to let him find the love again? I know he likes me a lot..and that I am important for him. But it seems it is not enough anymore. Thanks

Amazing, that’s what happen with me and my ex, we would break up and he would date other woman, and I would feel extremely insecure, jealous, crazy, and etc then he would put pics up of one chic and then cut me off. I was devastated, so now I got Elizabeth’s book and I am working on me, so that I can get the LOVE OF MY LIFE back and FOR GOOD this time, in my heart I truly, truly, truly believe we are SOULMATES, everyone tells me, that I should just move on, that I am a beautiful young lady and I will find someone else and that he’s not that into me, etc, but we where together for 4 years going on 5, and I had alot of negative doubts, and insecurities and we kept breaking up. But, I truly believe that he and I are meant to be, and I am so excited that I brought the book and am reading it, taking the steps, and working on me. Best of luck!!!!


This self-help book focuses on improving life in the areas of finances and health. The premise of the Law of Attraction is that what you get in life is a result of your habitual thinking and emotions; that the “vibe” that you put out determines what you will attract into your experience. Bettering your thoughts, emotions, and “vibe” will better your life experience, not only in what you experience internally, but also in what you receive from life.
I also believe that out of nearly 7 billion people on this planet at this particular point and time in history, there is one person alive, living reasonably close to you – or planning to move there soon – who is the best possible match for you.  In other words, out of all the people who exist, there’s one person who is exactly who you’ve been waiting for, and to that person, you are exactly what he/she has waited for, too.
I bought this a year ago after a break up and all I can say is that IT WORKS! The hardest part is letting go and letting the universe work. Any sadness, anger, etc. will hold you back. I mean that in every aspect of your life. I tried it last year on an ex and he came back but then I didn't want him back. I have an ex that I am working on and so far things are starting to manifest however I still have a bit of sadness in me so it is holding me back and I haven't fully let go yet and we were in a REALLY bad place. We just recently started talking so I realize I have a bit of work to do. Believe, trust and let go to the universe and let it do the work. Best of luck to everyone, just keep on believing.
For many of us, it’s extremely difficult to switch from the mindset that we have lived our whole life to the one that we can continue to live upon, without some extra help. That help can be found in other LoAers, motivational speakers, hypnosis and other tools like vision boards ans wish lists, but the main thing is that we want to make the change, and to act upon it.
Sometimes this can be the hardest part of the Law of Attraction to grasp because when there's a person we love or are attracted to, he/she is all we can think about. We think the solution is in using the Law of Attraction to get the person to love us or notice us. But the Law of Attraction is about you – your thoughts, your feelings, and your vibration.

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